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Trunk Junk?
Hey,
So, mostly a question for the ladies…how do you feel about the junk in your trunk? Your "rear end?" Your bootay?
I gotta say, after seeing myself dancing in shorts, I was rather embarrassed. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_redface.gif I didn’t know it was so…er, big and jiggly? And oh, the lumpies!
Sorry, if that’s too much information, but I thought that, as dancers, we should be comfortable enough that we can discuss these things. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif
I don’t know. I see all these pretty, pretty dancers that have only been doing it for like, six months (or that’s what it seems like) and they’re so…little! Cute little butts, nice thighs, they look great in shorts. I KNOW I have big hips, that’s cool with me, but did I really have to inherit the english bum to go with? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif
So, I suppose what I’m asking is…does anyone else feel this way? How do you deal with disliking parts of yourself? I’m not really a believer in "changing" these things, because in a way, I don’t know if they ever will change. I’m never gonna have small hips, that’s for sure! I suppose with enough work, some of the jiggle will go away, but really, I’d rather learn to deal with/possibly like it, rather than what I do now.
And for reference, my husband loves it. He likes his women real, jiggly and sexy, than bodybuilders or sticks. So, I have some support in that department. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cat.gif -
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Thanks for those links, amyxshi!! Really good stuff.
I don’t like my butt, but that’s because I have very little junk in the trunk. I’ve got "prairie ass"–wide and flat. In fact the more I work out, the flatter it gets. There is, however, a silver lining. I get to wear pants that have cute pockets at the back. Also, garter belts look really good on it, and I’ve realized that if you treat your ass like you love it when you dance, your audience will LOVE it!! In my opinion, the best thing about my ass is that I DON’T HAVE TO LOOK AT IT, lol! I think that’s why it’s so shocking for us to see our butts in videos for the first time, because we hardly ever see them full on and moving! Anyway, I have a magnificent bosom (which I do get to look at) and nice legs, so I who am I to complain? I’ve learned long ago to focus on your assets, play down your liabilities–thank you Trinny and Suzanna!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_queen.gif -
We all have body parts we don’t like, and I agree with the comment above me, we don’t REALLY get to see what our butt looks like (except maybe in 360 degree mirrors at the mall), so when we see it from another person’s perspective (like in a video), we might not be so happy with what we see.
You have to learn to love what you have and flaunt that booty like you’re a Brazillian bikini model – no matter how bootyliciously big or small your butt is!
Also, a lot of it is in your genetics – and there is nothing you can do in that department yet.
Personally, when I dislike a body part, I stand in front of a mirror and tell myself I can hate it and be miserable, or I can learn to love it and go have fun with it.
You can work out and do 500 squats a day, but ultimately, it’s all in your head – and that’s where change of attitude starts.
I think the best thing to do when you have doubts about how your butt looks is ask your husband what he thinks; and I have a feeling his answer will be quite uplifting for you!
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I am glad that Amy put up the posts that she did.
One thing about S Factor was getting used to the skin that you are in and loving it. This is also the reason that I love the Dove ads.
Women come in all shapes and sizes. That is what makes us so unique and special. I also do not think it is bad to take a critical look at ourselves as a motivation. If it is something that you do not like but can change then do it. Keep that video as a starting point.
I have old pictures of myself in a bikini that I look at every once in while. It was a slap in my face back then and I vowed that I would never let myself look like that again. I also try to take progress photos at least once a year. Even if my weight doesn’t change much I can see changes in my shape this way.
Give yourself credit for starting to do something that is good for your health. We all cannot be 5’6" and 120 lbs….how boring would that be??
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I have one of the least commercial bodies here, that posts videos. …. God this sounds.. so riiidiculous..But I’ve got a gut, cellulite, angel’s wings. I’ve got.. Uhhh. Thunda thighs, and my ass is kind of strangely shaped, in that it’s.. not bubbly, but not flat, but wideish? I don’t know. My boobs, they’re not perky.
…. Jesus, it sounds so ridiculous! I am not a dimpled thigh! Or a lumpy ass. I AM NOT a flabby arm. I am one total whole complete person who looks REALLY GOOD. And sometimes when I move, and it all comes together, my collection of less than perfect parts.. I am perfect.
I’m going to make a suggestion..
Get out your mirror. Set your video camera in front of it. Pose in front of the mirror. Look at what looks good and sexy and lovely on you. … Since I’m Amcut, I’d do it naked. .. but a nice panty set would probably do. All kinds of poses. Elongate, flirt, ridiculousness. The perfect video, essentially, because you can see everything you’re giving to the camera.
And then everytime you want to BEAT yourself up about a video, watch that one. You at your best. To remind you that a couple of times where you bent over at the wrong angle don’t mean anything because you have SO MANY MORE perfect, beautiful moments.
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Amcut,
I just wanted to say what an amazingly beautiful and amazing soul you are. You always make me laugh and can shed light on anything that really makes you stop and think about whatever it is and go " Wow, I never thought of it that way" So yeah, I am just poppin’ in to say I am glad you are my friend. You rock!
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Another thing that was kinda cool about S Factor was the no mirrors aspect. While I think mirrors and videos are great tools to see how certain moves are progressing and if you are doing them correctly – I LOVE them for that – they aren’t the best…at least for me… for dance.
Try this as an exorcise just for fun. Dance to just dance…no video, no mirrors, no spectators, just you and your favorite music…dance for the fun of it…don’t think about the wobbly parts you *think* you may have…just dance with no judgment… have fun. Don’t even do any crazy pole tricks or things that you aren’t secure with – then take that feeling of enjoying yourself and the dance and apply it to when you are in front of the mirror or in a video.
Why is it that we can feel sexy and hot at one moment and then when we get in front of a mirror it changes…nothings changed about your body – you are the same sexy chica – the only thing that’s changed is the need to *fit* into some category of sexiness that society has put on us.
And on the whole butt thing – keep this in mind I have found most (not all) people with small butts tend to want more junk…people with MUCH junk seem to want less…but in general guys are just happy to actually get to see ANY junk https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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…but in general guys are just happy to actually get to see ANY junk
AH, so true! My husband tells me pretty often that he’s happy with what I’ve got https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
I agree entirely with what you girls have to say, and I sure did like those links!
I think I agree, though, that sometimes we’re surprised by what we see in the mirror, or in a video, because we don’t really get the full effect. I was surprised, in my first video, by how large my hips actually were! I mean, I knew they were big, and I’ve had them measured (for my wedding dress) and I know how big around they are, and that I gotta hunt for jeans most of the time, but I suppose I never really got the "full effect" till I saw me shakin’ my stuff for the camera.
Also, it was…perhaps a bit of a surprise? I mean, I was dancing in shorts this time (rather high shorts, because I wanted to attempt the climbing and sitting again), but I DID look in the mirror for a while with those shorts on, and I didn’t think it looked that bad! But then, on the camera, I did a pose, and the ripple went aaaalll the way up my thigh and ended in my ass. I was like "Holy jiggle, batman!" https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_eek.gif
But then, as said here and will probably be said in so many other places, it’s more the perception of what is sexy, and changing that so that we are accepting. Any woman can be sexy, I know that, and I think we all know that. Strangely, I tend to be an exception to most of my own good rules, and I’ve been trying to change that.
I really liked what Amcut said, though. We are not an ass, an arm, or a set of boobs, we’re a whole, complete sum of all the parts, one person, and that person is sexy. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_salut.gifI also liked the idea of playing up the good points, so no one noticed the bad ones https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif Getting out the camera and the mirror so I can see what looks good, what kinds of things flatter the way I am built, so I can show that off a little more. Not getting rid of the less flattering, but not making it the main focus.
…er, if this is really long and sort of confusing, I’m sorry, I was sick all day yesterday, and I think I’m having an odd reaction to the drugs I took to help me sleep https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif
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All my life I have had a larger behind when younger and thinner too. For being really shy it got me attention I really wasn’t wanting and didn’t understand at the time. I never tucked in shirts. My job now requires it. Now I’m a little thicker in the legs and had a baby too. At a really young age I learned how to take a pic from the waist up. I have thought of how a vid would reveal what I felt I ‘ve been trying to hide. My pics on the pole I just put up were like an I give up this is me now truce.
You look great! We never appreciate what we have while we still have it! Number one bonus….You can do the booty shakes that others may not r/t the pole! I just recently started to appreciate that…now if I could get the strength and conditioning too even without weight loss I could live with that. -
now if I could get the strength and conditioning too even without weight loss I could live with that.
Haha, my husband and I have a little agreement with that…I don’t get thinner, and I’m allowed to do whatever I want! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
Honestly, though, he just wants me to be happy, and if I get thinner, he’ll live. He’s told me so. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif
Looking at your pictures, Jen, you look like me, if I was able to do most of those poses! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif At least in body-type. And I think you look good! Maybe that’s what we should do…find all the girls that are shaped the same, and then we can all talk about what we like about each other! Even the thinner girls who have butt envy. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif
Seriously, though, booty shaking is haaard! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif -
Since I’m Amcut, I’d do it naked. .. but a nice panty set would probably do.
that right there is why i love you.
when i first started dancing i HATED my butt, it was big- jiggly- stretchmarky- just EWWW all around. but the beauty of this type of dance is that you begin to get to know yourself more, and you appreciate your curves and body as you continue to dance and explore who you are….this type of dance is all about celebrating your curves. it took awhile but now i LOVE LOVE LOVE my big booty.
you are beautiful!!!!!!!! don’t let anyone tell you different!
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Let’s look at the other side of this. I’m a thin girl. At the moment I weigh 100 pnds and hate how I look. I think women with curves are so much prettier. And there are def. drawbacks from being too thin. My heart for one. My doctors are constantly telling me I need to gain as my heart cannot support me on what I weigh and what I eat. I have lots of loose skin on my stomach from having kids and I do have the dimples on my legs. I constantly worry "If I eat, I’ll get too big" And yet I know I need to gain weight. My face is gaunt and that shows every wrinkle, every line. I looked so much younger when I was at about 120 pnds. Thin is not always better.
Personally I think everyone has something about their body that they don’t like but beauty comes from within yourself. So when I start feeling bad about how I look, I step back and think about the positive things about me. Always makes me feel better.
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Let’s look at the other side of this. I’m a thin girl. At the moment I weigh 100 pnds and hate how I look. I think women with curves are so much prettier. And there are def. drawbacks from being too thin. My heart for one. My doctors are constantly telling me I need to gain as my heart cannot support me on what I weigh and what I eat. I have lots of loose skin on my stomach from having kids and I do have the dimples on my legs. I constantly worry "If I eat, I’ll get too big" And yet I know I need to gain weight. My face is gaunt and that shows every wrinkle, every line. I looked so much younger when I was at about 120 pnds. Thin is not always better.
Personally I think everyone has something about their body that they don’t like but beauty comes from within yourself. So when I start feeling bad about how I look, I step back and think about the positive things about me. Always makes me feel better.
I’d like to be the first (probably won’t be the last) to tell you that you are gorgeous !! Definitely one of the most beautiful dancers here with a body to die for and a smile that can light up a room! Seriously have you ever just looked at your smile? Because you have a fantastic smile! Probably some of those "lines" you worry about come from being blessed enough to have smile lines from that beautiful grin. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
But I do understand the frustration of being thin. I really hate my body. Really, really hate it. I feel like i’m flubby in the wrong places and flat in definitely the wrong places. I haven’t even made a vid here yet that did not involve the padding of my bras https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_redface.gif Even if you ladies would never judge me, looking at myself in pics/vids without faking a rack makes me want to cry. I absolutely despise the way my figure looks without chest. I don’t think it would be possible for a person to hate their body more than I hate mine. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif I don’t feel like a woman at all. When I look in the mirror I see a cleavage-less preteen. I can’t shop at lingerie stores…there’s nothing sexy in my closet because lingerie is built for women with breasts, not 12 year old training bra teets like mine. Even all the "cute" bra and panty sets are cut for girls with a nice pretty natural C. So I have a closet full of plain ugly pushup bras I can stuff and some cute panties here and there that halfway match the bras. I mean, this is the first guy I’ve ever been with that I don’t have sex with a shirt on. And I’ve just recently stopped wearing 2 pushup bras when I go out because my guy will poke fun at me for faking having boobs since he found out it’s all a lie. He says he likes them but I could tell he was disappointed when he saw what was really under there (he swears he wasn’t, I justify myself by thinking he was). I’ve actually duct-taped my boobs together and then worn 2 bras over that to feel like I looked like I should.
All the talk of "real women have curves" can be really, really hurtful to someone who has none.
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Keira Knightly has no boobs and she’s like.. one of the hottest women alive. Sure, her face is great.. but part of it is her delicious and visible pectorals. And hot nipples. I know they’re always photoshopping boobs on her, or painting boobs on her, or doing whatever.. but she looks so good without them! SO GOOD.
Hot nipples! Hot nipples! And lousy bra sets?! NO! No bra! No bra! Hot panties and NO BRA. You need to rock out the cutest panties in the universe without fear of mismatching them to a set. Not to mention hot nipples! The hottest nipples are on the smallest of boobs. Did I say hot nipples?!
Now. If you tell me you only have one nipple, or that they are extremely large,the size of compact discs… I may commiserate with you.. but seriously! You better love them bitties!
…oh! and thank you Elyse! I know we already talked about it, but you are the SWEETEST.
and thank you sascha! but I’m so mad that you hated your butt! Since I got here, I’ve been in ABSOLUTE AWE of your tiny waist, great hips, great booty! Awe! AWE.SIMPLY! You have looked good at the lowest weight you’ve had on youtube, and at the highest. You will ALWAYS look great, and you will ALWAYS look beautiful. I want you to be healthy, so lets go ahead and put on a few more lbs of RIPPLING MUSCLE and a little layer of tasty fat on top. No fear about it either, because you are looooovely.
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Even all the "cute" bra and panty sets are cut for girls with a nice pretty natural C.
You’re telling me! I’ve got size E boobs with a 34 waist, so all those "cute" bras everyone sees, certainly are not for me! I’m just blessed to have one friend who works in a lingerie shop that knows her merchandise, so I don’t have to buy $150 custom bras! My sister is the same way, though she doesn’t have the hips to balance, and she never wears the right size of bra…it actually looks like hers are much bigger (even compared to me!) and she gets a LOT of "attention" she doesn’t want from it.
Simpllysweet, I know how it is, having health problems. You always hear of "morbidly obese" people having horrible problems, but regular people do, too! My knees are so messed up, I may end up without kneecaps at all, and I’m in pretty consistent pain. Perhaps (I know this sounds awful) you could talk to someone about your fear of gaining a little weight? I mean, if it’s harming you, and you know it, perhaps help is needed. Worrying about your health is not something a person should have to do, day in and day out!
And PDR, have you looked at your butt lately? And your legs! Dayum, girl! I seriously don’t think breasts are everything (this coming from a girl who thinks they are her only asset)! You’re a beautiful woman, and if that is the way you’re built, then play it up! You can pull off the cute little shorts, the plunging necklines and all kinds of things I know I can’t! You’re built like a model, and that means practically the whole fashion world is geared toward you!I think that a big part of this (I may have said this already) is society telling us that we have to be, we have to look, some certain way, and very, very few people actually look that way. We look at those posters for lingerie and go "I wish I could look like that!" all the while those girls actually don’t exist. They’ve been modified all to hell, and often times the clothing that models are showing off in pictures don’t actually fit them. They’ve been clipped and whatnot behind the model, and since the camera doesn’t see it, neither do we!
So, really, they’re all scamming us out of our self-esteem, they’re playing to an entirely natural insecurity that we should have grown out of once we finished being teenagers, and we just keep going "Yup!" and getting led around. We get a payback from it (I know I do, too) by being able to relate to other women in the same situation…and there sure are a lot of them! Beating ourselves up has its rewards…I know this. I had depression for a long time, and still some of the habits keep coming back…it’s not flattering to say, but it does have its paybacks.
I really liked those articles at the beginning that Amy put up. They’re so true, and I agree with the idea that we should do our own social experiments. We should test it…and find out if there really is something wrong, or if it’s all in our heads, dragging us down.
I’ll totally admit I was scared by what I saw when I recorded my video in my shorts! I didn’t realize what I looked like, because I never see my rear end!
Also, I think we should all listen to our boyfriends/husbands/girlfriends/family, because I think they have a better idea of what we look like than we do. They’re better judges to what we put out to the world than we are, because we get the added flavour of what’s in our head. And, that goes for me, too!…AND LISTEN TO AMCUT. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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