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So My Dad Finally Knows I Pole
So everyone knows I pole dance except my mom and dad–all my friends, my sister, my boyfriend's parents (we had to borrow tools off his dad to set up the Lil Mynx, so he knew what was going on,) and they are the only two who have been in the dark the whole time. I haven't gone absolutely out of my way to hide it, I just haven't mentioned it, and I do usually take the pole down if they're coming over. I don't really have a problem with my mom knowing, but my dad is pretty traditional and conservative in his beliefs (no sex before marriage, no living together before marriage, etc. etc.) so I have always been kind of wary of how he might react, and I knew if I told my mom, she would pass it along to him. Well, today I brought up pole dancing in passing, and he actually said 'They actually do workout classes for that now, don't they? I bet that would be hard." I figured that would be just about the best opening I could ask for, and he didn't seem judgemental about it at all, so I took the plunge and just told him that I had actually tried it. He just said 'Oh, you have?' and didn't even seem surprised at all! Of course, if he knows it's supposed to be a hard workout, it's not that big of a surprise that he wouldn't be shocked, I guess–I've been a workout nut since I was 14, and I'll try anything if it's supposed to be a really hard workout, and he knows that. I told him it was basically gymnastics on a pole, and that you had to have a huge amount of strength and flexibility to pull it off, and he agreed with me–I didn't even get any 'what, you want to be a stripper or something' questions!
The only time he looked shocked was when I told him that I had one in my apartment–the look on his face was pretty funny actually. I think the only reason he was surprised by that is because for one he'd never seen it before, and two, I don't think he knew you could actually install them in your house–I'm sure he doesn't know that there are removeable poles.
He was just completely nonchalant about it–I have to say I'm really relieved. I was all ready for a fight, and it ended up being about as serious as me telling him what I had for breakfast!
Has anyone else had trouble telling their families, and how did they react when you finally came clean?
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I didn't have any trouble telling my family from the get go. I do avoid talk of it at work because I work with men who act like they are about 13 and just don't need the headache. Everyone in the family has been pretty cool about it other then my super prude sister. But she doesn't approve of ANYTHING I do other then maybe my riding horses. She is even judgemental about my pinup modeling. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rambo.gif
Its great though that he gave you such a great opening to be able to tell him and that he took it so well!https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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Good for you! I didn’t know what to expect from my parents at first so I brought it up as nonchalantly as I could to my mom. She wasn’t phased so I thought I’d show her a practice routine video which has some floor work in it. I held my breath cos she was quiet throughout, then finally she said was, ‘wow, I’d never have figured you for a pole dancer… you really hoist yourself up there huh?’ Lol
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Yay I'm so happy they were ok with it! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif My family is very conservative as well, and they all support me now. Was difficult for one of my sisters to understand why I would pole dance and post to youtube, but now she is ok with talking about it. My dad and mom support me and my brothers wife once told me she thinks I'm good enough to be in a Cirque du soleil show! (they had just been to Vegas) I almost fell over because she is not the kind of person to just say things to make you feel good. I was happy to see they thought of is as a performing art!!!
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I've been poling for almost a year (1 year next week!!) and I only told my mother last month. I had to, since i couldn't hide the bruises and muscles no longer in hot weather lol… She took it very well, she said she was suspicious I was doing something because I no longer had a hunched back… really that woman does wonders for my self esteem.. anyway, she was surprised of course, expecially with the ideia of me having a pole in the living room. (I have two poles but only told her about one… baby steps…). I shown her a few videos of pole fitness, not much the dancing and sensual aspect of it and she ok with the idea.
I also recently changed my profile picture on facebook for something pole related, so I'm out of the closed.. so to speak… everyone knows now, and so far 90% of the feedback have been positive… of course there's always someone with something inapropriate to say, but in the end it only matters what you think and how you feel about what your doing.. and I feel pretty good 🙂
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My dad just laughed when I told him – to this day I don’t think he actually believes me! My mum had a hard time with it, but whenever we spoke about it I’d just blast her misconceptions with a good attitude and she came around in the end. She always used to call it lap dancing and I’d have to gently remind her no, that’s not what it is… I think the turning point was when I had the Pole set up in the sitting room and I started yelling for her – I was so happy that after 2 weeks of straight practice I’d gotten a pole sit. I was so happy I was almost crying and I guess then she realised it was more than just “lap dancing” to me. She’s still a bit weird but at least she calls it pole gymnastics now haha
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Awww I am glad it worked out. My parents are very conservative too. They know about my pole dancing but they don't take me seriously about it at all. When I talk to them about my poleling they usually just change the subject. LOL!
It's my daddys birthday today and I mailed him a gift (my parents live on the other side of Ontario) and I also sent him Pole Spin Mag and a newspaper article that both have me in it. Maybe they will see how serious about poleling I am. I can' wait to impress them if one day I compete in MissPoleDanceCanada. 🙂
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