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Would you be offended if…..
ok,so i finally got my dvd from my level 1 peformance. so since the guy whom im supposedly getting to know was curious, i showed him the dvd. After showing of the group performance, he made a comment and said "yeah, you can definitely tell thats level 1".i think we did a great job. would you be offended at that comment?
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I wouldn't show him any more videos. I also would not be offended. Really… what do men know about this sport? Not much.
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luvlee is right 🙂 Don't be offended. He's just not good at praise… Hopefully he has other talents that will make the relationship worthwhile 🙂
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I think "outsiders" may sometimes have a hard time understanding how difficult it is to do certain things we do in the pole world. Some are more blunt about it than others when they see something they are not drawn into. Keep in mind that you are learning, every step you take is better than none at all, and maybe try to understand WHY he felt that way so maybe you can take something away from the comment to work on. Explore his answer a little more, if you can take it. If not, shrug it off, and avoid asking for an opinion you don't want to hear.
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I would take insult, at least at first. I definitely agree, though: most non-polers have no idea how much you are actually doing and it hurts; everyone else is right that you should try to let it go. I bet if he were up there he could not make the same moves look half as good! The trick is to keep that in mind and not let it phase you. You may just change his viewpoint later, maybe not, but just think that his is just one little comment against all our voices cheering you on https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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I once said to my hubby, that it would be so cool to ditch med-school and spend my life as a pole instructor. He answered without hesitation "you're not that good. It doesnt look so hard to do, so since you are not better after a year, I would stick to the doctor thing" Even though I would never leave my education, I got really upset. I asked him to do some of my moves,since they are so easy. Pole spin: fell down. Chair spin: fell down. Pole sit: Got tears in his eyes, of pain. After that, he started to really respect what I can do. And today, he often brags about the new moves I've learned to our friends.. Guys dont know anything about pole, untill they try it 🙂
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first: I would be totally upset about it, because here we all know what a hard work poledance is.
and second: that is so typical for people who do not really exercise. a friend of mine told me, her teacher said that pole dance is not a sport. well, I would love to see her working the pole, would probably end crying like a baby 🙂
sweetie, we know how hard the training is and even though I did not see the video, I am sure you can be incredibly proud of your progress and even though we never met, I am proud of you as my fellow pole dancer 🙂
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My typical response is to challenge them to do the same moves like steffie. If they do, they'll see how hard it is. If they won't accept the challenge, either they know they can't do it or don't really respect what you do…
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I agree with the others – if he hasn't done it, or been exposed to it for long, he won't realise how hard it is so I wouldn't judge him too harshly on that comment. It does look easier than it is! Show him a few tricks, if you can, and then he'll change his mind! You just gotta educate ignorant people rather than getting upset 🙂
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Whether you could "tell" or not, that was a rude comment. He knew you were a beginner– What did he expect, Jennyne Butterfly? If this boy does not encourage you, I'd question if it's worth keeping his company any longer!
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every level 4 had to start @ level 1. You have to start somewhere. Show him in a year and see what he says. My husband is blown away by what I have accomplished in a year. DONT Feel bad for where YOU are!!! Simply being where you are shows dedication!!! It was not thoughtful, and actually men get a lil jealous seeing us throw around our body weight like it's nothing…UNTIIL they get on the pole and try to do one. Ha- bet he can't do squat! Don't worry honey, you're already a shining star. smooches…
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And honestly, I think watching a level 1 is far more exciting than a level 4 right now, because more emotion comes through. You are more focused on enjoying yourself than the "baddest trick"!. That's sexy and fun.
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yes, what your all saying makes sense. I know if i would have ask him to try to do what i do, he would of say" im taking the comment way out of portion", because when i said the comment was not nice, he couldnt understand why ,when he was saying how he sees it. Then he compared it to, if you were to see a kid, you can say " oh ,she looks like she is in the first grade. I said that made no sense at all.lol He is the type of person to make comments on everything he see. For me, I took it as he was saying I wasnt as good as… Its like going to a strip club and commenting on a performer and saying I can tell she is a amateur. Then on the other hand I thouhgt maybe it was just the routine the instructor had us do. Maybe the routine wasnt showing the group at its full potentials. Well either way he is not worth all this thoughts.lol
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Also@steffie, That was mean what ur hubby said. But glad you proved him wrong. 🙂
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Very true.. not worth his thoughts at all.. I mean, what is he supposed to be a Pole Connoisseur???
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Don t take this the wrong way but guy go to exotic clubs and know whats good or beginner pole dancing :p
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