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Hi I’m undecided on whether or not to get a pole. All my life I have danced and loved it but over the last few years I have not used my muscles for dancing at all. Now that me and my husband have been married for almost two years I’ve been thinking about all these exotic ways to please him and the pole dancing was one of them. I know I can dance but I fear that it won’t look right or he won’t like it. How can I get out of a fear for something that I want to do sooooo bad???
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Hey Godsgrace!
For most, if not all, of the people here, pole dancing is a passion, art form, and a form of exercise! Not a whole lot of us got into this thinking to please our partners, though some of us do like to do the occasionally show-off dance for them.
I would say… see if you can find a studio nearby, and try out some pole dancing lessons! You’ll learn some basics, and find different ways to add in your dancing background. And, if you feel you want to continue, you can dish out the money for a pole, or you can keep going to the studio. As you progress, you can keep dancing for your husband, too! Some of the simplest, most sexy moves require a deceptive amount of strength! -
I agree with Runemist… go take a few lessons and see if it grips you! You will know very soon! Don’t worry how you look at first. Everyone has to first “feel safe” to be comfortable with sensual stuff. Your husband will probably really appreciate the effort, even if you are a work-in-progress! But be sure you are liking it too! If it’s “just” for someone else, you might not own it in the same way. Personally, I have a few routines I like to do, for different reasons. I have a Rated G routine that stresses fitness and fluidity (at least that is my attempt, lol!), and I have a routine that is almost trashy, lol, because I can explore a side of movement that I haven’t done before! It’s liberating and even empowering in a strange way! I wouldn’t post that routine to Facebook, haha!
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Welcome!
It definitely needs to be something you’re into. Try a class and see what you think. It may hook you so hard that you’ll get the poling bug like the rest of us and it will become about you doing it mainly for you and not someone else.
My personal pole life consists of working out on my own with the pole and then ecstatically dragging my husband downstairs when he gets home from work to show him the new move I learned, then sweating and grunting as I show him. I’m putting together a routine for him, eventually (which is going to be fun!), but overall, it’s for me and no one else.When you do try a beginner’s class, remember this: everyone else there is almost certainly going to be as self conscious as you are. I promise. My first pole class I was terrified, but by the second class I was in booty shorts! It was incredible.
Get your pole on and I’ll be interested to hear how you like it!!!
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