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pole dance and baby
Hi! I am totally new to pole dance and I’m excited! But I also have a baby 5 months old and he wants to be held constantly.. I don’t feel my hands anymore because he is overweight and I am very slim! I love pole dancing (it’s the only thing that I’m doing for myself) but sometimes feel realy tired my back and my hands.. Help me mommies! 🙂
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Babies love to be held, and of course they NEED this snuggle time, however learning to entertain themselves, I think it’s an important part of development!! You may have to deal with crying for a while until he understands you can’t hold him all the time, the older they get the harder this habit can be to break. When my kids went through a clingy phase, I used words, not baby talk, and explained that it’s time to play or mommy has to do some work. I would put my kids in a safe place, (but never their bed, because I saved the crib for sleeping only) so a play area that is inclosed worked for me, or walker. You will have an angry baby, the first few times but they learn fast if you are consistent. Try to keep things on a schedule and it will help him understand what to expect. To this day all of my kids respect my workout and pole time. When my youngest was little I would have him in the room with me (but in a play seat so he was safe) while I poled or worked out, so I could keep an eye on him. Kids need to see mommy’s taking time for themselves too. 🙂
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Baby wearing is a great way for baby to feel securely “held” while also gives you use of your hands. Certainly this won’t jive for poling, but it may help ease those tired arms. I have used ring slings (great for hands-free breastfeeding), moby wraps, and a structured carrier similar in style to the Ergo. When selecting a carrier, I strongly urge you to avoid the “crotch-dangler” style of the (I don’t know why so) popular Baby Björn…these are both uncomfortable for baby and extremely damaging to baby’s hip growth.
At this age, being held is something babies expect to happen and, to a certain degree, need. In a month or two he will be able to support himself in a seated position which will open the door for a little self-guided entertainment and may even enjoy watching your pole time.
I know how frustrating it can be to feel a strong conflict between your motherly instincts and the habits we have formed as part of our 21st century lifestyle, but in two years when he’s too busy playing to be bothered with a snuggle, I doubt you’ll look back on this time and think “gee, I sure wish I had held him less.” This is time that you can’t ever get back and even though it feels like time is standing still right now, it goes by extremely quickly. Feel free to message me if you want to vent off the public discussion.
Hugs
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thank you so much!
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