Definitely start video taping yourself if you don’t already. Even if you don’t want to share it with anyone that is okay. It will allow you to see what you actually look like vs. What you think you look like. Then go back to basics start with simple transitions and basic spins, really focus on pointing your toes, straightening your legs fully, or what your hands are doing, and of course doing it with a natural relaxed looking smile. By going back to basic moves you won’t have to think about where you’re hands and feet go because your muscle memory already knows that, you can put the extra effort and thought into making it all look fantastic. Then do it a thousand times ha ha ha. As far as flow and grace goes… practice practice practice. I was about as graceful as a newborn giraffe when I started pole nearly 5 years ago. Now I find myself stunned by my own videos sometimes.