Have you had a look at the many excellent videos people here posted for the UPA a Bringing Sexy Back challenge in July?
There were threads on it too: other than that what do you find sexy about other dancers and about yourself?
I found it hard to do – so hard – so I researched and watched loads of vids and read threads and here are my notes:
Go where your instincts take you – if you have a glorious roundness in the ass think about showing it off with slow circles, lying on your tummy and letting your butt rise and fall then pull you up, as you push back and up and toss your hair. Then kneel., knees apart and clench each butt cheek one at a time…
Or if your hips and belly are all woman, stand, stroke the pole while you draw figure 8s and bend your knees and roll your hips…
Or lie down on your back, propped on your elbows and raise your legs pointing your toes, knees together like you have a coin clamped between them, and draw slow circles with your feet – teasing – then open into V.
Do it all slowly with conviction and eye contact.
Do it for pleasure and fun just because it pleases you!