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Afraid to fall down
Hello. My name is Anna, I’m 35 years old and have poledanced for three months in a poledanceclass and I have had my own pole at home for a month. (I am from Sweden I can add so my spelling and som choice of words might a bit wrong sometimes) Anyway, in my class we where tougt on our seventh lesson to go upsidedown on thé pole(basic invert?), go down in handstand and role down on one shouler to thé floor. And I am stuck! Everyone can do it and they are moving forward and Learning more tricks. I can do the basic invert but I am to afraid to let go of my hands.Tomorrow it is my nineth lesson and I am about to quit and I am so sad becuse I really loved it up til now. (and I have payed a lot of money for the classes) Eventually I will problably get it but I think my lack of previus danceexperience and my age at starting poledance is making it slower for me to learn this. What would you do?? Thankful for all tips and opinions.
Have a great day! Greetings from a sunny Sweden.
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9 Replies
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DONT STOP KEEP GOING!
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we all fall down once. I fall down two weeks ago out of an advanced plank. I am a few years older then you and have been poling for 4 months now. I have dance experience, but that doesn't make a difference with doing the tricks. except I automatically point my toes.
Did you try letting go of one hand and still hold on with your strong arm. And if your low enough to the floor, let go of your weaker hand and put it on the floor, when you feel stable, let go of the other and put it on the floor and maybe have the instructor stand next to you to spot you.
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Don't be too hard on yourself, focus on what you can do and not what you can't do, and don't compare yourself to others in your class 🙂
I'm 45 and have been poling for 7 months with no previous gymnastics or dance experience, and poling is bloody hard! It's also amazing fun and rising to the challenges is great. There are certain moves (stupid cupid and vile superman) that I have been working on for a month now, still can't do them but instead of worrying that I won't get them I focus on what I can already do and this keeps me motivated.
Inverting is the hardest thing ever, focus on the fact you can invert, then as your leg strength improves you will be able to let go, it will get easier trust me, just remember to take it one step at a time, and dont worry how quickly/slowly everyone else progresses, this is your journey and yours alone 🙂 x
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Don’t give up!!! Only a couple of weeks ago I was having the same problem with letting go of my hands as I’d just learnt the basic invert. To get over my fear I just kept practicing it over and over and over at home on my pole and I eventually got it!
When I inverted I got myself I slide closer to the floor so if I felt unstable I could put my hands on the floor. Then I practiced letting go with my right hand. Then I’d put it back on and let go with my left.
Then, I would let go of both and just hang there for a bit. I felt that I had to make sure my legs were squeezing super hard before I felt comfortable to let go of my hands.
Please don’t give up!!! I am really really scared of heights so if I can do it so can you!!
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Have you tried a (regular) crucifix before? The move where you do a pole climb and then are essentially standing on the pole?
If you practice this move first it could give you an idea of which muscles you need to be engaging once you are upside down attempting The Bat/Crucifix.
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This is a thread from real recently. There is some good info in there. You will also see that you really are not alone!
https://www.studioveena.com/forums/view/Getting_over_the_fear_20130827123358
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Don't give up. I am an S Factor student for 3 years and I'm over 50. It took me forever to do an invert and forever again to do one handed holds. I'm now working on the crucifix. Poling isn't a timed event. Enjoy the ride and take your time. My wonderful instructors are patient and supportive. I've made amazing friends. It gets better and better.
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Whatever you do don't give up!!! Imagine how you'll feel knowing that you didn't keep trying. 9 weeks is NOTHING. I know alot of people who can't invert at all after 6 months, and that is fine – everyone moves at their own pace. If you enjoy it, keep going!!!!!!!
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Hi there. I think that you are doing an amazing job. I can testify to being afraid to fall down which is hindering me from being able to move at a faster rate. Everyone has to get over their fear at their own time. I believe when I subscribed to Veena, the fear of falling was one of the first discussions in which I had posted. It's scary to invert. Well for me it is but it comes from me not trusting myself like I should and trying to conquer the fear of heights. I can say that at 4 months into poling, I was still doing the basics. I still consider myself a beginner and it has been a while since I started. In addition, it's hard to conquer doing inverts when time is limited which is my problem as well. I can say that when I attended the pole studio, I ended up being the only beginner when challenged by being in a sexy pole class with advanced polers. I must say thereafter, I felt like a complete idiot because I was not getting the moves as quickly, but due to the love for pole, I found Veena. We always have to push ourselves a little more because we can do more than we think. Well, that's how I feel, but it's effecting the move when you are ready to take that chance. I think when I fell the first time, it gave me more of a push to not have the loving pole break me down to quit. Always remember, we fall down, but we get up and try again….:) If you like your studio, and you all support each other, then keep going. It will pay off!!
Have a great day! 🙂
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