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Any butch/masculine pole dancers out there?
I introduced my friend to the pole dancing world recently and she is hooked! I've been sending her all my favorite videos and we've had a few lessons together. She is more male of center then me and was asking if I knew of any pole dancers who are as well. If any of you are sometimes or all the time butch/masculine presenting woman who pole dance or if you know of any please let me know! I've been telling her that part of what I love so much about pole dancing is that there are SO many different ways to dance and different kinds of pole dancers. I know we are such an awesome and diverse community, however I am having a harder time than I thought finding pole dancers who are more masculine then feminine. I know they are out there though. Thanks in advance veeners!!!
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*raises hand* I don't do pole much anymore, but I do other aerials (mostly silk), and all my videos are pretty basic, but feel free to take a look and see if they might help your friend.
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I consider myself a bit of a 'switcher' – that is, I jump between the stereotype of masculine and feminine female. I have done martial arts for about 17 years, plus weight training at periods etc, which has definitely affected how I am perceived. I do however, have a very female shape (read: boobies and bum) combined with large shoulders and traps. Whilst I have a very healthy appreciation for it, I don't tend to pole in the 'sexy' style, I follow the crazy-tricks-combined-with-cheeky-humour preference, typically wearing skull shorts and tank tops. 🙂
In my studio, there are a number of girls who follow a more masculine (if a choice had to be made) style – some as a part of their natural personality, and some in contrast to it. We have one of our guys who definitely would consider himself the more feminine approach, and another very masculine male dancer who has just taken on the personal goal of perfecting 'twerking'. I think the key part of it here, and the wonderful aspect of pole, is you don't have to pigeon-hole yourself. If I wanted to, I could rock up in platform heels and pink sparkles tomorrow and no one would batt an eyelid – well, they would, but there would be grins on their faces as well.
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I'm definitely dudeish, a lot of why I got into poling involves me trying to get more in touch with my pretty/feminine side. I've got a mostly buzz cut with a mohawk ponytail on top lol. I wear shorts and wifebeaters when I pole. I haven't even poled in high heels yet because I can't even WALK in high heels. There are definitely times where I struggle with wishing I was born a guy, but I also feel I was born this way, so I have to accept that and adapt to it, however "unfeminine" I feel. I always related to Mary Stuart Masterson's character in Fried Green Tomatoes. I want to get stronger.
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Haha! Same here! I got into pole dancing because I felt like I needed to be more feminine.
I see myself as more genderqueer than actually female.
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Yay for other genderqueer polers out there! 🙂
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Thank you guys SO much this is great!
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I never knew there was a word for how I have always felt. Thats pretty nice.
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Count me among the genderqueerish, though it's not so noticeable in my outward presentation or my pole dance. I've always felt kind of dual-gendered, pretty much since I was a kid. I grew up going in and out of phases where I leaned harder to one side or the other, not quite fitting in either way. No surprise then that I came out to myself as bisexual ages ago. I just feel such a strong sense of both-ness.
I too came to pole interested in connecting with my feminine side – and boy have I ever! But I still veer away from the really girly stuff like pink and glitter and heels (I have two pairs but hardly ever wear them to dance, too unstable). I connect with pole through the music more than anything else, I think, so the gender I express in my dance is usually tied somehow to the song I'm dancing to.
Women in general have more freedom to play with gender expectations than men do, in terms of how society reacts to us, so I say have fun with it. I'd love to see a famous androgynous or butch pole star making magazine covers someday. 🙂
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I've always been more guy-ish than girly. All through my life I've had more male friends than female ones, mostly because I didn't "get" girls. Other than pole my favorite activities are things like hunting, fishing, working on my house (and other things that are excuses to have a huge shop full of tools).
When I dance I never wear heels unless I'm at work – and even then I take them off when I get on stage. My actual dancing seems to be able to switch back and forth pretty fluidly from a "sexy" style to a "crazy-tricks-and-strength" style, although I usually prefer the latter over the former.
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