A friend of mine leads a double life and travels two hours for work and stays in town for the weekend. I don’t know how old your child is, but her kid enjoys getting to spend the weekend at a friend’s house while mom is gone.
As far as choosing a club goes, do your research. Check it out and see if it makes you feel comfortable being there as a customer. Talk to the girls and ask how they’re treated by customers and management. You want a place that has your back no matter what. You don’t want a club that lets customers get away with mistreating their dancers.