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Etiquette and removing poles for guests…
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I leave mine up. I could care less if others have a problem with it. My house, so it stays up. It’s not your problem, but your brothers. He can deal, IMO.
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I take mine down when non-close friends come over, because my wife is too embarrassed about the questions when it isn’t even hers.
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Specifically to your post, I think it’s really unfortunate that your brother is being that way. In these cases I prefer the “if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything” sorts of behaviours- from him, I mean. Obviously this hasn’t been his way, but perhaps you could speak to him about it (depending, of course, on your relationship with him and your level of comfort having that conversation), because it is not appropriate for him to be saying hurtful, stupid things about something that you so obviously love.
On the “leaving my pole up” topic, I actually love leaving my pole up in public spaces of my house! Currently, my pole lives only in my bedroom- it’s the only room that has enough space for me to dance in, so… it’s rather unseen at the moment. However, the very first pole I got eventually was called my “stealth pole,” because it was quite literally in the middle of the living room of our apartment… and NO ONE noticed it! They’d be over for a couple hours, and then all of a sudden “Hey, is that a stripper pole?” And I’d laugh, say that it is, and ask when they noticed it. Usually they would ask because they had only just noticed it! They’d do everything from walk around it to see me leaning on it, and not even figure out that it was there!
I think I’ve only ever taken it down for some very elderly landlords who came to see us once, while we were in Victoria. I didn’t take them as the “open minded” type about these things, so the pole went under the bed for a little bit.I strongly agree with Veena- if we take them down, we’re perpetuating that they are something to be hidden, something we don’t want to show others because we’re ashamed, or shy, or somehow not very proud of them.
So keep it up, and shove it in your brother’s face >_>
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