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Frustrated…
So I remember making my last post in Nov about being excited about getting my first pole. Unfortunately, I have to wait a little longer for it than I thought. I was originally supposed to get it in Feb/March…The most convenient way to get my x-pole here is for my mom to fly down to south africa and pick it up and fly back with it to save some money. It's gonna be way too expensive to have it shipped here and then clear it through customs and all cuz we're gonna end up paying sooo much more. Not to mention the x-pole company in SA couldn't gaurentee anything on estimated shipping time or any of that. As of right now, the soonest my mom can go to SA is in May…MAY!!!! Am I the only one who thinks that's forever away?!?! I was originally gonna get it in Dec, then it got moved to Feb, and then it was moved to March…now May. I feel hopeless, like I'll never get it. On the bright side, it gives me more time to prepare by getting more into shape and build muscle and get buff n' flexible. I'm mostly frusterated at myself for waiting so long to tell me parents about my passion to begin polling in the first place. I first discovered the sport and took interest when I came across some of Josiah Grant's videos on youtube when I was 13. I have since then been completeley fascinated but didn't really start to pursue the passion untill about a year ago. My parents took it all very well and I have to say I'm shocked cuz I thot they were gunna flip cuz of the whole "Stripper" stereotype that polling has been unfairly labeled with. They completely understood because I was involved in gymnastics as a young child so they can see how I have a true passion for it. I was expecting a bad reaction though, which is why I waited SOOOOO long to tell them about it. I feel like. If I had told them about it years ago I could have had a pole…years ago. I haven't been able to really be involved in gymnastics (which is the only sport I have ever been truly interested in) since I was 9 because we moved overseas and although we've been back to the US. quite recently, i didn't have the time to involve myself. My whole life I've never really been involved in a sport like all my friends have. They all like things like basketball and soccer, etc. I'm not a normal person and I wanted to find something special, unique, & unusual, to occupy my time with. Something that people can look at and say "WOW". I don't want to be known for any ordinary sport. I have no interest in any ordinary sport. I wish I did, but that just isn't the case. I feel like I blew my opportunity to be involved in a sport throughout my teen years. Yeah I still have a couple of years left, but I want to used my time now to get good at it before I'm some fully grown adult who never did anything sports-related in their young life. I don't wanna have to wait till im 19 before I finally get involved in something. I feel pathetic. No one should have to wait that long to do something they have a passion for. It feels unfair. But like I said, it's my own fault for making a huge deal about telling my parents about it. But i didn't know what to do. It would have been one thing if I was a girl, and my parents weren't religious, but it's the opposite. Yet even then, they took it all well. Wtf, I feel like I hid this desire to get involved to polling all these years for nothing! What a waste. It even took me quite a while to decide if I actually like pole. Most kids find a sport before they're 13 if you know what I mean. It's like it took me forever to finally find something and when I finally do, I can't get involved right away. It's the most frusterating feeling. arrrgh. Can anyone empathize with me? Am I the only one who has to wait sooo long to get a darn pole? I need some encouragement atm. I feel kinda hopless…I don't think I can make it it another 2 1/2 months. I've been waiting since Nov last yr. 🙁 Any encouragement would be appreciated…thanx. 🙂
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I can't say I had to wait soo long for my pole, but I did wait a long time to start poling, I am 43. I have been poling for a year. I had looked into it back in 2007 but was too shy and unsure how it would be received by those around me. So I did not pursue it. I so regret not starting poling then, but I know I can't go back, but I sure can move forward. So sorry you have to wait to fulffill your passion, but there are things you can do in the meantime. Poling is not always just about the pole. Keep working on your strength, flexability, and floorwork. There is so much awsome floorwork and floor moves. Hang in there!!!
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Gee, thanx Autumn Sky, for real. It's very encouraging. Thats exactly what I'm going to do. I'm going to build strength, improve floorwork, and flexibility. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who hesitated to open up about my passion for pole because of the fear of what those around me would think. In the meantime, I'm gonna have to keep myself busy. Haha I might even look into a temporary sport or something! 🙂 Maybe swimming or something.
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Are there any pole studios near you?
And it's a really good idea to work on your floorwork. 🙂 Do complete freestyle dances of just floorwork and please your videos with us!
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That sucks about the delay in getting your pole! You should def use this time waiting building your upper body & core strength, flexibility & floor work. That way, when you do get your pole you can get right to work on pole moves!
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@ katana,
No, unfortunately there are no pole studios closer to me than in SA that I know of. It's truly a bummer. If there was, I'd be able to interact with all these different polers and make friends and stuff hehe. Of course, that's why studioveena is here, for people who don't have access to that or just want some online interaction with other polers. So I'm super thankful for this site because even without a studio I can meet people and share stuff! xD…
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@ calipolepixie,
Thank you! Floorwork is an important way to determine how you move when you're not on the pole and I'm definately going to work on that. I have to say tho, I never thot I'd be much into floorwork, but now that I'm open to it, its a whole new world of experience! 🙂
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Hi!
I too totally understand your frustration. May I ask how it came that you live in Tanzania?
I’ve never been there but read some books about the country and found it very interesting!
Well back to your topic, maybe you have the chance to learn some breakdance? In male pole sports I love it when they combine the pole work with breakdance on the floor! -
Hi!
I too totally understand your frustration. May I ask how it came that you live in Tanzania?
I’ve never been there but read some books about the country and found it very interesting!
Well back to your topic, maybe you have the chance to learn some breakdance? In male pole sports I love it when they combine the pole work with breakdance on the floor! -
Time spent dwelling on what you *coulda* done in the past is time wasted. 🙂 You're still young, you've got plenty of time to become an ace pole dancer. And maybe use this time to advocate and educate, too – a lot of people outside the community are still not used to the idea of a male pole dancer, so become a champion for your sport. Do some sweet street poling!
(I'm saying this and realizing I have no idea what the culture in Tanzania is like. If it's risky for you to pole in public – like if you might get attacked by other men or something – then of course, disregard the above.)
But yeah, anyway, playing "coulda woulda shoulda" and beating yourself up for not taking up pole sooner, is not making you a better dancer. Floorwork and strength work, as others have suggested, will make you a better dancer. So many beginners are so eager to get to "the fun stuff," the spins and tricks, and have to go back and learn floorwork and transitions later, and they kick themselves for it. You've actually got a pretty big advantage from that perspective. 🙂
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