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How Do You Fit Pole IN Your Day?
This question is for you ladies who do not have local studios or do not teach anywhere. I feel like I always fall out of my routine. No matter what I try. It is frustrating to keep being off and on. I am trying lists, goals, and writing on the calendar what I want to do that day and what time I can do it. I feel overwhelmed because I have stretching and flexibility goals ND pole goals. What do you do to stay in a routine???
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I have the same problem Luvlee. I know if I poled more consistantly I'd be able to do more and to do moves stronger and more confidently. It is the downside to self teaching. I am interested to hear what helps others too!
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I use to pole every day! I got new moves all the time then the moves got more and more advanced and I got tired and discouraged. Then for about a year, I had lots of local friends to pole with and that helped SO MUCH! Now, they have moved away. I know SV lessons would help, but we are saving every penny currently and not doing Christmas gifts even. I am going to try the calendar thing and maybe meet up with ladies in the chat during my practices. An audience always helps me.
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I’m on the same boat so I feel you ladies. I think skyping is key for us self taught, no studio folks. So with that being said….add me on Skype lol Jojodanza
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I stopped going to pole classes at a pole studio and I am now mostly self taught through watching videos online. It's really tough…. I think about poling all day while at work and I'm always like "I'm gonna go home and pole!", but once I get home I really have a hard time feeling like I really want to pole! I think the thing that really pulled me back to pole and setting goals and wanting to learn new moves again was going to a pole camp. I met very many amazing pole dancers and attended workshops which fed my drive and motivation to learn new tricks and to improve upon old ones.
I also have my very first public performance this Saturday, so I made myself learn a new trick in my first choreographed routine for this performance instead of using all of my good old "fall back" moves. This way, I'm still learning new tricks while incorporating old ones in my routine. I just try and find ways to squeeze in new tricks every now and then.
I know it's hard being self taught and every thing, but you have to try and find the silver lining in it. Maybe just stop poling for a bit and focus more on floorwork that incorporates bendy moves so that you get good use out of stretch and flexibility training? Some floor moves require flexibility and balance, others just brings out the sexy goddess in you. And if you do decide to pole, why not shift your focus into using the moves you already know and are good at, and finding ways in and out of it…. Or just find new combos? Why not see how long you can stay on the pole without touching the ground by coming up with new combos of moves you already know?
Chin up missy! You sound like you've hit a plateau. I think you'll be all right, you just need to shift your focus a bit and you'll get your motivation and drive back!
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I struggle with this too. Put up pictures of you poling around you. Set a time every evening or wake up early morning. Know that a half hour even is better than nothing.
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I think sometimes we forget that you don't HAVE to pole every day (beginners should not pole everyday!!) and we don't even HAVE to pole every week! Most of us who pole dance have lives! This means we have obligations, kids, school, holidays, sickness. This is life, it happens.
It's hard not to feel frustrated, but getting upset or stressing about it doesn't benefit you in anyway. For the past 8 months I've mostly been off the pole. I've recorded the most of the times I did dance, so no one would think I was dead lol. I've been off due to injury, (mystery injury not sure what I ever did) lack of time, and just wanting to do something like hooping, hiking swimming instead. Anyway, I sometimes feel we think we HAVE to bust out every new move that comes along or else we are not cool enough, or people wont think we are a "serious" or "good" pole dancer. The reality is, most of us are not professionals, and thats ok! Pros literally dedicate their life to something, it is usually their main job. Pole dance is my "job", and I still don't always make time to consistently pole. My job, requires me to be on the computer more than on the pole! Being on the pole can't be my life right now, I have kids and work to think about too. I also now really enjoy hooping and hiking. And its ok. I'm one of those people who LOVES to train, and at some point I'll make pole dancing for myself a priority , but it's not meant to be right now.
My advice….. enjoy pole dance when you can. If you are using it as your only form of exercise then make it a priority 3 times a week. For health benefits, poling 3 times a week for about 30 mins to 1-2 hr. is great. You have to MAKE time for your workouts regardless of what they are.
Maybe sit down and think about why you pole? If it's because you love it and it makes you feel good, then don't stress about time off. I went through a phase where I felt pressured to pole so I wouldn't "fall behind" I had a "name" to live up to, and people watching everything I did…..now I pole if I feel like it and because it makes ME happy.
If we really want to make pole a priority, then we have to make time, not hope to fit it in. Here are some time suckers: FaceBook, TV, video games, spend time online shopping or searching, sleeping in. If you want to spend time online, try poling in the chat room here. Kill 2 birds with one stone lol
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I am doing it for a work out AND I do have goals I just want. It would make ME so happy if I could watch one of my videos and actually like it. Does that make sense? I want to do a flexy scorpion pose. It opens a world of new moves up for pole too. I would have to stretch at least every other day to accomplish this. I want more strength so I can fly and it looks effortless like Shellectra comes to my mind. I have been so off and on and that stuff doesn't happen from having down days. Now things are going to come up. LIFE. Like SV said. It has happened to me. It has happened to all of us, but I could pole and stretch more than I do. I use to be happy after dancng and want to do it more. It was easy for me. Now, it has gotten harder and I leave my sessions almost in tears sometimes. I get frustrated and why would I want to do it again? LOL!!!! I am starting today with writing sessions on my calendar, setetching in the mornings, and dance or pole later at night. I am hoping to do at least 3 times a week at least. I see myself gsining weight and this is new for me also. I turn 32 this coming March and it is all catching up w me. I need to get on it NOW while I still can. LOL!!! So, I have some goals and some solutions. I have to say that the chat room is the biggest motivator and I think it is under used!!! I get on there all the time and practice and no one is there. LOL! I just go with it.
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i dont think i really have a routine…i just pole when i can and when i really want to. having a list of moves helps and now that i like freestyling, finding a great song will make me want to pole
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for me new shoes make me want to pole too!! lol
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flexibility moves also inspire me, so many flexy moves i want to conquere!!
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yes life def happens, i wont be able to do many tricks soon beause of the pregnancy so i know i will lose alot of progress! but thats just the more determination to get it back. also skype is a great idea, i need to do that, never have but want to, i dont have a web cam yet, but one day i will skype with some awesome veeners!
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See, you and SV have kids and have gone through pregnancy down time and are still bad ass in my book. You two rock it out hard and I want at least half that talent. It is motivation for me. I am my worst enemy, and I am hoping to change that starting today. We will see. This s not a new goal. LOL!!!! But seriously you guys rock.
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LUVLEE quit bein hard on urself!!! U r awesome and badass 😉
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Awe! Thanks, Love. I am working on self esteem also. The thing is, I cn not quit or I will never see progress in myself. It is to easy to be hard on ourselves. I got my stretching session in! I will be posting pics and video soon of starting progress.
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u can do it, stay consistent with the stretching and u will see progress!
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