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How do you work jams?
I found a hoop buddy!! There’s a lady in town who moved to my town just last year and after contacting her, she asked for my number so we could have a hoop jam:) I’m really excited, especially because I’ve never done that before, pole or hoop. I am nervous though, I mean.. How do they work?
It would work a lot better if I went to her house, though we haven’t spoken about anything yet.. I would just feel bad asking 🙁
Do I stay there for an hour? Or until we just get tired? I’m so antisocial that it’s hard to figure out what to do or talk a out with others. I’m terrible at small talk, I’m more of a listener:/
Would it be rude to ask to use her hoops, because mine is so beastly huge? 42″ I also feel like I’ll be boring and frustrating because I can’t do too much other than waist hooping and maybe a couple basic off the body tricks.
Maybe I’m just letting my anxiety get the best of me.. that tends to happen:(
I apologize for going on, probably about nothing, really hahah.. But I do feel kind of better, reaching out to my pole sisters, and brothers.. -
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I can’t give any jam advice but I think you should not think about the details to much.
Just relax and have fun. It will all fall into place. -
Yeah.. I guess you’re right lol x.x I just get super nervous when I meet new people, I’m hoping me and her can become really great friends though
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I had my first pole jam w my first pole buddy. It felt super awkward to me at first too. She brought her kids w her so we first toured around my house and played w them until they felt comfortable to play w my kids. We did a bit of small talk and got a drink (water). Then, we finally got to the pole.We watched a few of our favorite videos together, then warmed up a little. Once we got on the pole and began moving we ended up having a blast! We even tried a few doubles moves. We were laughing and having a great time. It felt really good to have someone to share with! I work a lot so I dont get to socialize much- even though I woud like to. I was really nervous too cause I rarely have someone over, I didnt know if we should run straight to the pole or socialize first… lol. It al worked out. I took cues from her- she seemed genuinely interested in seeing my home, garden and watching our kids interact at first. Once we were all comfortable w each other we were able to relax and pole! We even ended up talking a bit afterwards and played w our kids who were playing w my animals. We will definitely get together again and I do think I made a great new friend! I woried about what we do- how we would do it- how we would warm up, etc.. Once she got there I just decided to go w the flow!
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I do a LOT of hoop jams. Will you be outside or inside? Will there be a big enough space? Most people barely have space for one person to hoop inside, let alone 2. I've done one-on-one jams — I prefer to have a bigger group for hooping, but you can grow it later. You might do some searching to see if you can find any other hoopers in your area.
Definitely set a start and end time. One hour is good for what you're planning. When I do outside summer jams in a local park, it's for 2 hours and hoopers can come (and go) anytime in that window.
I always gladly share hoops, I don't mind if someone asks. BUT, rock your 42 incher! I LOVE my bigger hoops and used them almost exclusievely for the first 2 years I hooped.
GL!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cool.gif
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PS-congrats to you for dong this. Your life will be richer for it!
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Good job for taking a big leap! Most people don’t face their fears so it’s very good you’re doing it!
And you say you’re more of a good listener than talker? GREAT! This world seriously needs more good listeners. I wouldn’t see that as a disadvantage at all. When I’m ever in an awkward situation I just ask questions. Most people love talking about themselves (it is our most knowledgeable subject!) and then you never know what mutual interests will come up in conversation.
So the anxiety is normal but you’ll do great! And I’m sure you’ll learn something new from each other. Have fun!
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Thanks everyone for the advice!:) While still nervous, I am also really excited. Sparrow, you’re right.. I will rock my hoop to its fullest xP I’ll let everyone know how it went whenever it happens
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Sorry if I’m bringing too old of a thread back, but just wanted to update without making a whole new thread for it.. Just had my first hoop session with the hooper in my town. She’s really fun and I’m so happy I have a buddy to hoop with now:) We went to the park nearby my house, and while it was in the 30s.. It was still a cool experience, and I even got a couple of new tricks to work on! She is also interested in poling so maybe she will become a pole buddy as well;P Happy Polin, peoples!
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yay, that's great! 🙂
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Sweet!
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