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Insulted by a mean girl
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I’m sorry this happened, and it’s normal to feel bad, but as others mentioned it’s not worth your energy to let her get to you.
I have totally been there! Back before I started SV I was harassed and bullied on my old YT channel by other pole dancers! In fact many of my videos would be flagged so they couldn’t be viewed by everyone, it’s one of the reasons I started a new channel. People can be cruel. That hurt, mostly because I had felt like I had finally found something that fit ME and I could be part of a group. I ended up feeling very alone. That is why it’s so important to me that SV is a place of kindness and support!
Keep doing what you love, you never know who you may inspire by sharing yourself, but only share if you’re prepared to ignore negativity. If I hadn’t been treated so poorly I may not have realized that SV needed to have a focus on kindness, so I’m grateful to them!! 💜💜
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Oh Veena, so sorry you had suffered all that bullying, people can be so cruel….. I’m so happy I found your site, It’s been one of the best experiences in my life to discover pole, it makes me so proud of myself every time I accomplish a new trick, and I felt so bad that the videos I considered were the best had so terrible and disgusting comments. Thank you all of you girls for your support and thank you Veena for all your teaching and for sharing your experience. You made possible this dream!
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I’m the same age as you and have admired your lovely figure and dancing in your videos. I aspire to be as strong and polished as you one day. Do not stop doing the thing that makes you happy. Lots of love x
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Thank you Adventures of Alice! You are very kind 🙂
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Aww babe I’m sorry that happend. But don’t let it get to you. In all honestly it probably wasn’t really meant towards you. She really didn’t think you sucked. Alot of ppl on youtube ( and I had a friend Like this..) She would spend hours on YouTube randomly picking ppls channels and saying mean crap to them. Just to piss ppl off. If you look at her activity somehow she’s prob leaving mean comments on a lot of peoples pages. It’s what some ppl do on YouTube they think it’s fun. I forget what they are called but that’s seriously they’re fun time and it’s stupid lol. So please please dont let her make you feel insecure. It could have been anyone you just happend to be picked. It has nothing to do with you. How you look or how you dancem they are just dumb an calling this fun.
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Now go jump on that pole and have fun!!!!
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First of all, wow Veena, I’m shocked that other pole dancers were treating you that way! Secondly, DanZin, I’m with Phoenix Hunter: I don’t post my vids on YouTube for just that reason. I know myself and that it could possibly ruin my day to read negative comments like that.
I really try to be proactive to stay away from negativity. That’s why I pretty regularly suspend my account on Facebook. It gets to be an emotional drain for me. All the sort of phoniness, insensitivity, and straight up rudeness takes from me but gives nothing positive. Plus, people just wouldn’t say plenty of what they say on social media, in person. They just wouldn’t. And it’s true, miserable people are mean. I honestly just quietly feel bad for unkind people and think of how sad they must be. I know that’s cliche, but it’s true. I’m one of those “be authentic wherever I am” kind of people. I’ve never understood being rude and nasty on social media.
Please, do not let insecure folks discourage you from what you love! If you do, they win. In fact, I would channel that hurt energy into a dance to express how I feel. I’m looking forward to seeing your videos 🙂
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You are totally right about mean comments draining our energy, and I think “we” dancers are more sensitive, if we were not, we just wouldn’t have the sensibility to dance! It’s a strange world
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@XxMyztikxX I just found out due to your comments (all girls comments) that really there are people on the internet just leaving crap comments to others, so sad. But thanks to you (all girls) I am now realizing that all this was not about me but about how she feels!!! It’s so good to have a place where we can share and find support from others. @JoleneBell I will not let her drain my energy with her negativity. I’ve learn a lot in this couple days and I know I have to work on my security and self-esteem.
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DanZinDuck, I went through that when I first started 9 years ago. I already had no self esteem, or confidence. I was wearing gym shorts and a tank top, people were making comments like “Put your clothes on old lady, that’s disgusting”! among other nasty comments. If Veena, and Joel (Poledancefan)hadn’t commented to encourage me to keep going, I would not be where I am today! I learned to ignore them, and go where the positive reinforcement was. I was elated when Veena started SV! I will be 60 this new years eve, I have owned and taught in my own studio for 5 years now. So forget the trolls, do your thing, and do it unapologetic-ally!!! 🙂
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@litlbit thank so much for your words! I’m so sorry you also had that bad experience and I’m very proud of you! Congratulations for your achievements and for your coming Birthday!!!
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We don’t see the world, we see ourselves.
Perspective is entirely subjective.
The window through which we view is but a mirror.
Nobody ever got better by pointing out that someone else was worse.Running out of proverbs but I hope you get the idea. While it is awful that you became her outlet, it has absolutely nothing to do with you, and everything to do with how small of a person she feels she is. Your videos affect her literally not at all. She is interpreting them and you as some sort of threat, and truthfully that is just pitiful. My heart aches for people so hurt, but it doesn’t excuse their behaviour.
So is he has projected those inadequacies onto you, and now it becomes your problem to deal with her insecurity, and it sounds like it has dredged up some of your own as well. I’m truly sorry that this happened to you, but I am glad you’re talking about it. And hopefully not letting it get to you too much! Bullies are sad people, but all we can do is have confidence in ourselves and neglect from feeding the trolls. Hopefully she will get some much-needed therapy, and in the meantime, you get back to your pole! 🙂
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Thank you @Wrecklice ! You are completely right
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Watched your video for the first time and really enjoyed it. This negative person may have something really horrible going on in her life which she has no control over like an abusive husband or boyfriend, mental health issues, maybe no freedom to take pole class, or even put a pole in her living area. Or she could just be an idiot. I had a negative female stalk me in another state, just a bad obsession once. I would think more about your safety and well-being then letting her remarks upset you. Thank you again for this video and reminding how beautiful and relaxing pole is to watch. Now another supporter of yours.
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Thank you @honolulusushi54312 really your words are appreciated! I was so sad when I received this girls comments, but I have found in all of you comfort and more energy to keep going!!! You are amazing !!!
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