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Is anyone else here asexual?
Just curious lol. I didn't know being asexual was even an option until recently… but now that I know, it made alot of sense. I've only found one other asexual in that community that practices pole, I would like to meet others.
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*waves* Hi there!
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omgYAY!
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Are you a part of any asexy online communities? I found what I think may be the main one but would like to find more.
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I'm not, no; I tend to join in with LGBT communities, which are generally happy to accept anyone with a minority sexuality and/or gender identity. 🙂
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I didnt know what "asexual" meant so I googled it and it says that it means your not attracted to male or female. Is this what it is? If so I am not asexual however this is interesting if it does mean this I have never heard of this before!
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I always thought of asexual as relating more to absolutely no interest in sex? Maybe I'm wrong–I just remember seeing a news story (60 Minutes or something like that,) on it once, and if I remember correctly, that's what they were getting at. I don't think it's necessarily that asexuals aren't attracted to either men or women, just that any relationships they are in whether gay or straight are not of a sexual nature. If I'm interpreting that correctly, anyway.
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asexual is more or less basically having no drive for sex. Asexuals can still find themselves attracted to other people either male or female but for other reasons. Some still have romantic relationships and some don't even have a desire for that (aromantic asexuals). So yes horsecrazy pretty much has it right 🙂
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I used to kick about on the Aven forums a bit. There was a period of my life during which I identified as asex, though in my case, things changed over time and I'm not any more.
I'm always surprised at the low profile asexuality has.
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oh wow my friends and i always joked that one of our friends is asexual and I did not think that theres actually a community of people who are asexual….but yes she always talks about how if she wants to get married or if she were toget married that she doesn't want to have any sexual aspect of it. She just wants it to be like they're friends but married. She still sometimes says that a guy is attractive though.
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I don't think I'm quite asexual, but I think I have a lower than average libido. I probably pole dance for reasons similar to someone who identifies as asexual. I never expect to "get some" or turn anybody on. I've never seduced my husband by dancing. My husband has watched me practicing just a few times. While he appreciates the strength it takes, he has made clear to me that it doesn't really do anything for him sexually and he's rather indifferent about it. So, I'm absolutely sure this is something I do for myself. I mostly enjoy it for fitness, flexibiity, and athletic skills. Sometimes I try the sexy moves just to be silly and humor myself.
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I too had to google this as never heard of it before..
Is being asexual done through choice or like choose not to have a sexual relationship? Do guys really choose not to have sex, I mean can they go without ??
Or does it mean they just have no sex drive at all..?
Confused?!!
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I define as asexual the way other people define as homosexual, or bisexual, or heterosexual. It's not a choice I made, it's just what I am. 🙂
I do 'choose' not to have sex, but that's because I don't WANT sex. I'm completely not interested in it at all. Physically I am able to have sex, but I don't enjoy it. So I choose not to enter into a sexual relationship with anyone, because for me it would require forcing myself to do something I hate. The same way someone who is straight doesn't choose to be straight, but they choose not to enter into a relationship with someone of the same gender because they wouldn't enjoy it.
It doesn't necessarily mean you have no sex drive at all; plenty of people who are asexual enjoy, um, taking care of business by themselves, lol. It just means you have no desire to have sex *with another person*.
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wow.. I am sorry if I sounded a bit rude. I honestly did not have a clue what it was.
Its your choice to live that way.. I just wondered when meeting men or dating,.. it must pose a problem for some…
So many questions in my head about this but I wont bore you with them
thanks for sharing, heck at 41 years of age, you would of thought i would have heard of that before…
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I don't think you sounded rude at all Sues 🙂 And yes Terpsikhore, some people think that autosexuals don't quite qualify as asexual but I could be considered auto :blush: I noticed that the asexy community sometimes struggles with eliteism so maybe the LGBT community would be more welcoming? And ya asexuality can be fluid in some people, look at me, I have a kid already lol
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I am not currently asexual but have a very low sex drive, I have sex with my bf but mainly for him not for me. It's nice to meet you 3ver,
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