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Is anyone else here asexual?
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i'm currently asexual…well, auto :blush:, but not as much as before. for me there were a lot of life matters that contributed & still contribute to my asexuality. it was an extreme for me, i was a rather sexual inclined (monogamous) person so for that desire to become nonexistent was a big shock.
but i think that's why i'm happy to have discovered pole dancing! it's truly helped me to atleast find my sensual side again. though i'm not about to jump out & have sex, i'm more open to the thought of it & hopefully i'll find someone special to light that fire, lol.
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i am asexual i used to go on aven but dont seel to fit does any one know of any sites that welcome asexuals apart from aven?
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hmmm sometimes I wish I were asexual 😛 I don't agree with premarital sex, and that was a bit hard when I had a boyfriend as I was very much attracked to him. 🙂
So to answer Sues question: Yes men can go without. I know plenty (from my churhc for eg.)… but the nutty thing is my ex wasn't Christian and basically didn't have sex because he knew how important it is for me to wait until I'm married. He's an amazing guy, and obviously loved me deeply.
Anyhoo, enough about that or I might get a tad bit nostalgic and upset 😛
I do find it hard to believe that asexual people exist. I mean, if there is no one interesting in your life and you're busy than I can see how you simple aren't interested…. but when you are with someone that you care about… woah!
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That story I saw on asexuals actually featured a married couple where both the man and woman were asexual, so obviously they cared about each other, just not sex. They actually had kids together because they'd wanted kids, so sex to them was purely for breeding purposes, and as soon as they had all the kids they wanted, sex was a total non-issue. So it is true that no matter how much some people care about their partner, they just don't want to sleep with them. It's just odd to think about from the perspective of someone who is not asexual, because obviously you want that connection with your partner and can't imagine not wanting it. I didn't even know asexuality really existed until a few years ago. I imagine it's probably fairly rare; people have different sex drives, some a lot lower than others, and that can change throughout life especially for women with menopause and whatnot, but most people at some point have some desire for sex. Does anyone know, statistically speaking, how common asexuality is? On the same level as homosexuality, more, less? I'm just curious; I've never known anyone who was asexual. Actually, most of the people I've known have gone the other way. lol
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interesting topic and very hard for me to fathom. NYMPHdancer, Naughty NYMPHadora. yeah there is a reason most of what I use has the word Nymph in it. Just add the O and that is me lol.
And Chemmie I can hear you giggling from here even though you are 5 hours away.
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@Nymphdancer, I think you may be hearing me giggle too, lol. But I think I'm further than 5 hours away…try Ontario.
Let me clarify, giggling at nymph's comment (because I also relate to enjoying sex…ahem…a lot), not giggling at the topic. Don't want to hurt any feelings here. 🙂
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I plead the fifth…..of vodka that is!!!
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I’m Asexual! A BiRomantic Asexual to be precise! Lol. We do exist. 🙂
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is a biromantic Asexual someone who doesnt have sex but romances both females and males?
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I guess if there are people that are "nymphos", it makes sensce there are people who are also asexual. People are made straingt, gay, bisexual, trans-sexual, whaterever. We are all people with feelings who love, care, cry, feel pain and hapinness…….. have all the same emotions. One thing we all DO have in common in this site is we ALL love to POLE! XOXO
Everyone have a GREAT DAY!!!!!!!!!
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WOW! This is a fascinating topic. I 'd love to hear the perspective of other men…or from any men who would identify themselves as "asexual." Actually, I always thought of my very first supervisor that way. Mr. H was a really low key guy…inhis late 40's, lived with his mom, smoked a pipe only in his car onthe way home fromwork…and had fishing as his only hobby. He never married, never spoke of a girlfriend, never joked, talked, or looked at women in "that way" EVER..not once in my presence at least. Nothing about him would have made you think he was gay either…he just seemed "not interested." Period.
Ihave to admit I can only appreciate asexuality as a kind of abstraction. To me, being obsessed with women, the way they look, their company, and sexuality has been pretty much a central feature of my identity and I can't see it otherwise. Everything about women is fascinating to me and I love being with them and around them! I do remember the years before adolescense somewhat…but even then, girls were fascinating to me and I was always chasing after the ones with long hair just to pull on it and feel their hair.. LOL, sorry…that sounds kind of pervy, I guess…but it's true. I'm a happily and faithfully married guy, but I would be lying if I didn't admit I love flirting and "playing" for the attention of the ladies…it's almost like amachine I cannot turnoff, even though I am not really any good at it!
I guess I believe that these things are mostly hard-wired into us from birth…essentially the reason why I reject homophobia and discrimination against gay people. There may be some range of orientation that is tilted a little one way or the other by life experiences…but the basic sexual tempermeant seems pretty much fixed from birth in my opinion.
/Joel Lessing "Poledancefan"
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I wouldn't go as far as to call myself asexual, but I do have a very low sex drive. Like Polecat88 said above me, when my husband and I have sex it's almost entirely for his benefit, I find I have a lot of trouble "getting into it" and sort of have to convince myself to enjoy it (or just grin and bear it). If I were single, I would probably be asexual/autosexual. I honestly feel like I could easily be celibate and sexless for long periods of time without suffering or feeling deprived. Sometimes I forget what it feels like to be horny! :blush:
That said, therapy has revealed to me that it's possible my current asexuality is reflective of some deeper issues in my marriage :-\ so I hesitate to say it's a permanent or automatic orientation for me. But I can certainly empathize with other women who don't really enjoy sex.
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Wow. I didn't even know there was a name for the way that I feel, never mind the fact that there are other people out there who feel mostly the same. 🙂 I've never been with or been interested in men, but I do occasionally crush on women. I also occasionally take matters into my own hands, as it were, usually depending on where I am in my cycle. But, yeah, not a big topic in my life.
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Yes, fascinating. I didn't want it to work out this way, but, perhaps someone can tell me if I am legitimately asexual, or just in a rut.
I loved sex, until my boyfriend stopped kissing me. He said it wasn't me, I was a good kisser, he couldn't explain it but he just didn't want to kiss. I dealt with it for as long as I could. We had sex less and less until we finally broke up.
I loved sex but I can not imagine having sex with anyone but him and so I haven't and I have no desire to.
I'm 44, on the pill, have plenty of male and female friends, some of whom are quite attractive and interested in sex with me. I used to be so sexual but I just don't want it at all anymore. It's been many months.
Can I call myself asexual?
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Sounds like you want sex for the love aspect, which is where the kissing comes in. Without the kissing it doesn't mean much. I think you just need to find someone to love you back in order to want some intimacy with them. I wouldn't call that asexual. I personally think it is normal.
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