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“Just the way they are…”
Let me just say “That’s just the way they are…” is NO EXCUSE to be a total asshole to someone else.
You know the people I’m talking about. Those people w/ their noses stuck so fucking high in the air you would think they can’t smell their own excrement, but yet they’re always making a wincing expression. The people who pretend to not hear you when you say “hello” or if you ask them a question. The people who have enough friends that they can’t even spare one shred of decency to a single human being outside their sacred circle.
This applies to pole just as much as society in general. Let me tell you, I cannot stand rude people. I cannot stand when someone is new to something, thinks they’re doing alrighy, and then some elitist P.O.S. comes along just to scowl and make things harder than it needs to be.
EVEN WORSE are the toadies and chickens who stand by and say “That’s just the way they are…”
Really? That excuse totally absolves them from their shitty behavior and makes them “okay” in your book? Well, sorry, NOT MINE. I don’t even care if they’ve never been rude to me. Pick on the underdog in front of me and I will tear your ass off and hand it to you in a bag to take home.
That’s just the way I AM. >:)
Thank you for allowing me to vent.
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What happened? Who decided to talk crap about someone trying to do well?
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Oh, just something I’m tired of experiencing everyday of my life for as long as I can remember. It happens in pole just as much as any scenario involving groups of people and I am so sick of witnessing it.
Rude people. They SUCK. There is no excuse for it and I wish their useless wannabe’s would stop defending them. Their behavior is not admirable or assertive, it’s absolute shit.
While out in the really-real world today, I had the great pleasure of telling off some royal bitch. While I enjoyed it immensely, my adrenaline is still considerably high. Then it occurred to me that I’ve come across these types in the pole world as well and on numerous occasions (like today) I had people tell me the age-old bs excuse for their rudeness that’s “Just the way they are…”
Sorry. EFF THAT. EFF that right in the cocoa factory. If people are gonna waste their breath and energy defending someone PLEASE do it while defending the right person. The one that ISN’T being a damn stuck-up C-U-Next Tuesday.
End Rant.
How was your day? lol xD
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“I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate —it’s apathy. It’s not giving a damn.” -Leo Buscaglia
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Yes I definitely know what you mean! I ran into this in my workplace constantly and there are a couple of bad apples like this in my huuby's family and it pisses me off to no end! Everyone makes excuses for them and everytime they do something terrible everyone just turns the other cheek and says it is what it is/thats just how they are there's nothing that can be done. It's like are you guys AFRAID of them is that what this is?!? It's so idiotic and VERY frustrating.
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Don’t you love it too how that excuse works only in the favor of those who treat others like dirt? How if you call someone out, face-to-face, for their lousy behavior they have like half a dozen others who try to play peacemaker on their behalf.
Oh, but Gawd forbid these drones ever intervene if somebody is just being polite or minding their own business when their Queen Bee feels like giving her already over-inflated and undeserved ego a boost. Maybe that person is just polite and that’s just the way THEY are, huh? Maybe we should all chime in and stick up for the person who isn’t trying to sh
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-ove their bright red dominant baboon ass in everyone’s face.
Mama taught me to have some damn manners and to help good people, NOT bad ones. That’s just the way I AM.
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Sorry. It takes me a long time to recover after a confrontation like that. I get physically ill when I have that much adrenaline rush through me.
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Yes I do know all too well…my husband and I have spoken up several times and even confronted them face to face and yet everyone comes running to defend them and to say we are out of line REALLY?!? We are consistently seen as the bad guys in the family because we call them out every time, but his whole family insists on defending these bad apples who are doing real damage to the family with their behavior over and over. It's gotten to the point where we don't spend as much time around or with his family anymore because of these bad apples, it makes me sad because we used to be with my husbands family ALL THE TIME but now it's not worth all the bs that comes with it. Sorry I sorta vented there too. Didn't mean to highjack your thread. xxoo
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Agreed!!
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My day was great, but I didn't have to deal with the rest of humanity ðŸ˜
I completely relate to what you are saying, it seems like there are two standards, for good people and for jerks.
Example: A lady I worked with from NOLA, huge thief, totally selfish and complete biznatch went from an entry level position to running her own station. She's some kind of success story, but for those of us who knew her and how unethical she was its like a slap in the face. If this lady wasn't a thief and a liar, I would of been super happy for her but, it disgusts me to hear her name in a positive light because she should of been straight up fired and put in jail. In a club this chick would of been beaten and fired, not promoted.
My flight or flee is pretty intense too, I hate confrontation and I do everything I can to avoid it by being diplomatic and professional, and it always takes me a day or so to come off that kind of adrenalin rush.
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"Just the way they are" is medicine for you not protection for them. People, as a general rule, do not change. By accepting that this is "Just the way they are" you can move on with your life and do something productive rather than concern yourself with one poisonous personality.
Look how much time, and mental space this person has taken from you. Do you think that you had the same effect on them? So who is the loser?
As people we have to learn to cut our losses and move on. Fighting unwinnable fights just hurts us.
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Hmm, yeah, but I prefer to call them out on it rather than sit back and tolerate like everyone else. That’s bad medicine, btw. I honestly feel worse when I watch someone be degraded like that and DO NOTHING about it. I know I sure have appreciated it the very few times someone stood up for me.
It truly is the worst thing in the world to them to have someone actually tell them how awful and wrong they are. How nobody really likes being around them and are generally nicer/happier when they’re not around. It angries up the blood but, damn it, someone’s gotta knock ’em off their trip from time to time. If for no other benefit, that to REMIND people that there is nothing honorable in abusing people like that and YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE IT.
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*then (not that)
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And, once again, I’m the loser. Boy, you really picked the word of the day. Thanks.
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We could have said something about that lady, but nobody wants to go through a corporate investigation on top of possibly retaliation. I always feel karma will handle it.
As the webmaster said ” people do not change”. Instead of some jail time for theft, I won’t be surprised when this particular person ends up in prison for embezzlement.
I don’t think loser is the proper word for remembering specific personality traits and keeping a good distance away from said “thief”, “drama queen” or any other trait deemed harmful to ones employment.
In life outside of work.. people like that get the smile/head nod I’m not getting paid to put up with that crap.
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