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Lesbians who pole?
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Today is a big day in the U.S. 💕 Overflowing with happiness. Equality moves us all forward. 💕
Lots of love all around beautiful Veeners.
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Sorry I haven’t gotten the chance to respond before now, thank you for all the replies!
@chemgoddess – I’m definitely curious to find like-minded people in the pole community, as Phoenix Hunter explained. There’s so much variety of ages, races and body types that I’ve seen in pole that I was kind of sad to not find much at all on lesbian pole dancers. Trying to search “lesbian pole dancer” on Google just gets you a bunch of porn sites =/ The other unfortunate thing that I saw was a fair amount of casual heteronormativity (things that assume heterosexuality) on various pole blogs and sites owned by straight female pole dancers across the web. I really don’t think any of these women even realized they were doing it, but those things were still jarring and I wasn’t able to get into their work in the same way after that, and it made me feel very alone.
Thank you, I wasn’t aware of those women before! I’ll definitely look them up 🙂
@Rhianael, millonme – I’ve wondered about that too, making people feel weird or like I must be trying to hit on them because I’m a lesbian. In the end, because I want to be open about my life (and also just want any opportunity to bring up my wonderful wife 🙂 ), I am still open about my orientation, and the studio I go to has been good and accepting. At the end of the day, I figure, if a woman *assumes* you’re hitting on her just because you’re attracted to women, that says more about her than you =P
@polekat, Stefana of Light – I’ve known a number of women who have said that, they’re attracted to men but appreciate the female form more. To be honest, I think I said that at one point too before I accepted the true extent of my feelings for women.
It’s really not something I can separate out, myself. My aesthetic appreciation for women, my sexual attraction, my romantic feelings, my general affinity for other women – it all kind of blends together, it’s all part of the same thing for me. It’s like… “Do I want to be with her or be her? Ah, screw it, it’s both” =P The only feelings I’ve ever had for men are feelings of obligation and, when I was younger and didn’t know what lesbianism was, envy that they got to date girls =P (yet that was somehow enough to convince myself that I was bisexual when I was younger… But that’s a different story)
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Heyhey! I’m a pansexual pole dancer! 😀
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I’m a lesbian but none of the people at the two schools I went to know it. I’m not really one for dancing around going, “Hi, I’m a lez!” but if someone asks if I have a boyfriend, I’ll say I’m a lesbian and no one has asked yet, ha 😛 That and the whole “Oh you are? Do you fancy me then?” is just my nightmare scenario. That and I’ve been wary of saying I am in dance class in case they think I’m going to perv or molest on them. Though sometimes it is hard when ladies are in little bitty shorts and heels, I’ve had to proverbially slap myself and focus on what I’m doing! It’s a blessing and a curse. I’m a bit of a perv like Polekat but it’s kept in check by my respect for the ladies. Also sitting there with dilated eyes and a drooling expression is a bit of a dead giveaway and will start all sorts of awkwardness lol. I’m really a very private person and as a consequence people get lots of shocks once they’re let into my private world 😛
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I don’t know if that helps, but I wouldn’t feel awkward if a lesbian would fancy me, although I’m pretty sure I’m straight. So keep calm 🙂
I think the mojority of straight women aren’t as homophobic as straight men.
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