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My Aunt Passed away Suddenly
My Aunt Betty Passed away Friday May 10, 2013 at 63 years old. Im not sure how to handle it. Its not quite known what she died from. She took care of my grandma 24/7 365 days a year. She had went the previous Monday to hospital and Dr. said it was a pinched nerve in her neck.(Her blood pressure was thru the roof) He gave her muscle relaxers and 2 blood Pressure meds. She was fine T,W,T and Dead by Friday. She was at home and had put my grandma in bed, I guess she started having pain, after while she finally called an ambulance. Had enough time to unlock door and than died in the dinning room.( She waited to long to get help.) She died alone and it kills me. My grandma was sound asleep and it was 2 hrs before anyone could get to grandma. She slept throught it all(I thank God she did)Only reason we knew my Aunt was taken to hospital was because my cousins wifes son was working E.R. and reconized her. She died at 10:45p.m At 12:45a.m I got the call. My cousin called me( I thought it was grandma) he said your Aunt Betty went to hospital by Ambulance and didnt make it. I was in shock and handed my fiancee the phone thinking I heard wrong. But I hadnt, I found out later she actually died before Ambulance could arrive to save her. That was the worst phone call I have ever gotten. Its still hard to believe. Im so lost and devastated, she was my mom(my real mom didnt care about me) Her and my grandparents cared for me. We lost grandpa a few yrs ago. It was hard. My Aunts death was like someone punched me as hard as they could & knocked all the air out of me. I started having a panic attack. I feel so bad because I couldnt be there for her when she needed me. I wish I had known and could have been there. It kills me that she was alone and prolly scared.
She was the first one to hold me in the hospital and I smiled at her. Our bond was strong from there on out. Me and my Aunt relationship was like michelle and Jesse on Full House, but stronger. I feel so empty and Im trying to stay strong. I think Im still in shock and havent grieved fully. Its easier to surpress than to hurt. If it wasnt for my fiancee and children I would have lost it bc she was my rock. She took care of me and my infant son when my parents left me. They moved to Flordia, left me in a condemed home and with 1000.00 Cilco bill. My Aunt was the person who saved me and moved me where I reside currently. I met my fiancee shortly after I moved in. She lost her dog a few months before she passed and was depressed. I never knew how hurt she was and I feel horrible for not realizing it. I was to busy with my own life( I feel like I was selfish) for not seeing how hurt she was.
She was a strong amazing woman and didnt deserve to die how she did. She was the most caring and giving woman I ever met. She would give you the clothes off her back, just so you were warm. Even if you were a complete stranger. I miss her soo much and want her back. I know I cant have her back, but I still wish. Sorry if its so long. I just needed to vent and mourn some I guess? I have been crying as I write this, so I apologize if its sloppy. Im going to dedicate my first Pole video to her I think. What was harder than losing her was telling my 5yr old she died. He loved her soooooo much and they were close. He looked so sad.
Me and my family are guessing it was blood clot or had a massive heart attack. We think the Hospital misdiagnosed her and the meds may have helped cause her sudden death. Especially if it was a Blood clot.
From one woman to another: Please if you or a family member ever go to hospital and think there is something seriously wrong with you and a Dr. says your fine. However you think your not please get a second opinion. I would never wish this on anyone or for another to go thru this. Thanks for listening. Take care everyone.
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Awe, sorry about your loss. my dad passed a year ago, and poling help a LOT! As for second opinions, yes! If you feel you need to get one (or two) do so! I fought with the medical community with my Lyme disease. It finally took me four opinions to get diagnosed correctly. Had I listened to my primary doctor, I would be on all kinds of psych meds, the Lyme would still be overtaking my body and I probably would have been completely bed ridden for a third year! Sending hugs your way, and great advice to share!
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Thank you. Yea I think if my Aunt would have had a second opinion she may still be alive. Im so glad you made them listen and didnt stop till you knew it was right. You seem very strong and Im glad your overcoming the disease. Its a shame that these doctors have liscenses but dont do their jobs the way they should. They mess up alot here where I am. If your going to be in charge of saving peoples lives or helping them you should have to do the job correctly no matter what. Thanks again for your kind words.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad suddenly passed away too, it'll be 2 month in 2 days. If I could give you a hug I would. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif
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@ StudioVeena: Thank you, Im sorry for your loss as well. *air Hugs* It still doesnt seem real, but I know it is. We are waiting till my grandma goes and than hopefully moving. Need a fresh start.
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I am so so sorry for your loss. sending some positive and healing vibes your way. HUGS
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I am so sorry for the loss of your Aunt. Obviously, there was something seriously wrong that perhaps they could have diagnosed sooner. My Mom died suddenly at age 64. They really didn't know specifically how she died, just that it was probably heart related (we chose not to have an autopsy). It can be such a surreal experience and it seems like you vacillate between all the stages of grief for a while. She sounds like she was a very special lady, and she will always be in your heart! Hugs…
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so sorry to hear that ChevaleresseMommy, massive hugs and deepest condolences. A sudden unexpected death is much more of a shock…. your aunt sounded like a lovely caring lady, remember all the good memories and be happy that she managed to do so much good in her life before she passed https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif
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