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Need your opinions!
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It’s been reassuring for me to read this topic too – my hubby is happy for me to post my progress on YT and here because he knows I’m doing it for support/advice rather than to titillate (spelling??) random males (although as Amcut says, some guys have weird fantasies). He did get a bit uneasy after the glam rock outfit – again, sexy outfits are his perk as my hubby, not for the world in general, and he’s nervous enough about family/colleagues coming across my YT account although I have an alias. We had a bit of a "discussion" when I found out this month’s theme, with the result that I’ve agreed not to take part this time.
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I showed this thread to the hubby to see if he’s be more comfortable about me posting vids. FIrst, my husband wanted me to clarify that he wasn’t "insanely jealous". I may have exaggerated a bit for effect. Second, we had a long conversation and it turns out his main concern is that I wanted to show the vids to men I know. He doesn’t care if they happen upon them, but he thought I was going to encourage men to watch them. So we cleared that all up and I’ll be posting soon hopefully! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
Oh, junglecat- thanks for the male perspective. I appreciate your frankness. I almost choked on my sandwich! We need an occasional reminder about how insecure, simple and disgusting boys can be! It helps us keep them in their place! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_jokercolor.gif
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Jungle – you’re still the best. For as out-of-it you claim to be relationship-wise you speak very wisely. Very blunt, but very wise. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif Thank you!
Gsylass – It sounds like you have a good arrangement worked out with your husband. I post videos for the feedback and such, too, and I think since starting this post my husband has come to realize that as well. So hopefully we’ve begun the process of smoothing this out… Thanks!
untamedshrew – I’m glad you’ve started to work things out with your husband! That’s great! I can’t wait to see some vids!
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I’m glad things are smoothing out for you ladies too!! Really sometimes it just takes a bit of communication and respect to keep things on track. Now I want everyone to get back to smiles and laughs now!! tee hee https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
*patiently waiting on untamedshrew’s vid* https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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LOL you guys are fab. Jungle thanks for adding a male perspective! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cat.gif
Untamedshrew, I’m glad you guys came to an agreement! Cant wait to see some vids! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
And Gsylass, don’t worry about not doing this challenge. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif Just do a amateur night for the hubby instead! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif
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Oh, junglecat- thanks for the male perspective. I appreciate your frankness. I almost choked on my sandwich! We need an occasional reminder about how insecure, simple and disgusting boys can be! It helps us keep them in their place! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_jokercolor.gif
All the men out there who see this are gonna go, "Darn Jungle Cat, that traitor!!" https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif Hehe, hey what can I say? I got love for my ladies and they need all the help they can get. Men have been getting away with their crap for far too long. But don’t think I’m biased. Yall women can be slick too! I remember one time back when I was a kid when my mom had one dude hiding in the closet while another one coming thru the window!! HAHA exciting times! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_razz.gif So don’t just think I’m just jumping on the men. I have been known to play both sides of the fence when the situation calls for it so everybody better mind your P’s & Q’s!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif
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Jungle,
You’re not a traitor; you’re being honest! When my husband gets crap from the guys at work for supporting feminism or being metrosexual- I told him to tell them "hey, chics dig that shit, my wife goes to the strip club with me and gets lapdances". https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gifThat usually shuts them up! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumleft.gif
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My wife wasn’t all that thrilled about me posting videos on You-Tube, either. But we always joke that because we are a marriage of two first borns, we are both used to getting our way. So we agree to disagree on a lot of things. Over the months of me getting into the poling thing and posting videos, she’s gotten used to it. She’s watched a few of the videos. Usually it ‘s real late at night when I finish editing them. She’ll come downstairs to the basement and I’ll start the video. Usually she is FAST ASLEEP by about the 5th minute. One time she actually tilted over onto the pillow on the couch, LOL!
Now this doesn’t bother me one bit–because it affirms my intention to have a purely technical video of pole gymnastics, fitness, spins, inverts, and aerial tricks.
Maybe some viewers think my vids are sexy…ha ha..that would not bother me one bit. I mean, we are all thousands of miles away from each other–except for Glitter (one day we ARE gonna meet for coffee, right? You, me, your boyfriend, and Laurie, LOL!). So it’s not like I am going to hop on a jet airplane and consumate some fantasy love affair with a sexy lady who poles on You-Tube…I mean come on, we are all adults here!
As far as the fantasy element alluded to by JC and Amcut–as to what men (and maybe women (?) ) will do in the privacy of their own life–that’s OK with me. I enjoy making the videos, posting the videos, and the wonderful feedback from the people who watch. It doesn’t bother me if it "excites" somebody–that’s a private, mental thing and we are all entitled.
And yes, I DO enjoy watching the sexy videos posted by the female polers. I think we all know that there is a pleasure we all get in both producing a sexy performance…and enjoying one produced by another. But in the end…they are videos…and when we do choose to deepen a relationship (say, like the pole jams of Fleur and Veena) into a friendship that is face to face, we can and should involve our significant other in negotiating the terms of those situations.
Foxy-Rei, I think the most important thing for your husband to know is that after the video is edited and uploaded, and the computer is turned off–HE’s the one you get into bed with every night. And that’s not a video…it’s the real thing!
Joel
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PS: One more thing:
I do really hope I’ll meet many of you one day. But…I promise I’ll bring my wife along.
And YOUR husbands and/or boyfriends/or partners can spend the afternoon talking to MY wife about how frustrating it can be to hang out with someone who is literally addicted to and talks constantly about all the incredible things that can be done while flying around a metal cylinder!
Joel
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Thanks Joel! My husband finally came right out and said he was being a bit jealous and possessive, and as long as I wasn’t posting videos of me acting like a stripper (with the exception being our May Challenge https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif), it was fine. He sounded like he was choking on the words a bit, though https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif I don’t think it was that he was worried about the internet freaks; he was probably just using it as an excuse.
But I will try to keep my videos more on the, um, shall we say "tasteful" side. Meaning no crazy stripping, no outfits showing more skin than needed, and none of my actual undergarments (as in "real" bras and such). Trying to meet in the middle a bit. Besides, I, and I know most of the rest of you are, too, working against the stereotype that pole dancing is just for strippers, so there’s no need for all that in anything I post, anyway.
Thanks, everyone!
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