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Polers who Instagram…
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I’m going to be honest. Anyone whose boyfriend is pulling that shit instead of discussing his concerns with you like an adult should take a serious second look at that relationship. Adults who care about each other discuss these issues calmly and respectfully. Only controlling assholes feel the need to DEMAND things like that of you. That’s not love, it’s control.
He doesn’t own you, and you don’t have to do that to prove that you respect him. For real.
I’m not telling you to immediately dump your boyfriend. I’m just asking you to think about this like you would if some guy were making these demands of your best friend. Think about this like it were a friend coming to you with this issue. It’s simply not ever okay for a boyfriend or girlfriend to make demands like that in the relationship, simply because that is not the way healthy relationships work and that is not the way adults comminicate.
I’m sorry if this offends anyone, but this is an issue I see a lot on social media and as an instructor, and as a survivor of an abusive relationship. If a man is making demands and ultimatums over pole dancing, that man has love and control confused and seriously needs to sort out his fucking issues and not put them on anyone else!!!! -
You don’t need to apologise Leyrose, Poledanceromance is absolutely right.
Feel free to add me poletigress
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Leyrose, I’m sorry that you are experiencing this kind of relationship. It’s not an easy situation to be in, I know. I had a man who didn’t like me poling at home Bc the neighbors might see, I couldn’t post videos here or even wear a tiny bikini to the beach. I did whatever he said because I loved him and didn’t want him to leave. And you know what? He left anyway! If something doesn’t feel right it’s prob not so stand up for yourself. And if it does feel ok, don’t apologize, just be you!
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Mine is chazy88 😃😃
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Im so sorry youre going through this leyrose, and dont feel bad about venting. But I am glad you’ve redone your IG. Keep doing what makes you happy♡ I’m @corrales118 btw. Ive posted it up there somewhere, lol.
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Hi guys, mine is http://instagram.com/mondbergvienna I am adding you guys as we speak 😉
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Thank you polebull, tigress, ddcorales and poledanceromance for your support… I am listening to your words of advice and thank you for your kindness. I know that demanding that is not a good thing and I can assure you I am really considering all aspects of the relationship. Thank you for your lovely words.
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Good words poledanceromance!!!! I have been struggling with the stigma of pole for a long time to the point where I almost lost my job because of it! My husband struggled but he is now so supportive but only because we discussed and worked through it together I hope the same will happen for all others going through the same!
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aww leyrose i thought that would be the case 🙁 i’m really sorry to hear that.
poledanceromance pretty much summed up my thoughts on this too.
pole makes you happy, (and you are crazy good at it, i’m so jealous!) and it’s not okay for anyone to tell you that you can’t do something that makes you that happy. i feel like your boyfriend or girlfriend (or romantic partner…wife, husband etc) is the one person who should be there to support you no matter what, and if they have a problem with something you’re doing they know you better than anyone to have a conversation about it.
serving up ultimatums and demanding your other half to give up something they like doesn’t resolve anything, and if anything, only leads to resentment. i really hope you can talk to him about this, and that it’s not okay to demand things from you, and it’s not okay to be unsupportive. -
Oooo I’ve only recently started mine! @aimzoroo
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Mine is @lolorashel.
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mine is autumnpolekitten
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Hey everyone! I just made an IG specifically for pole, so there are no pix yet. I followed a lot of ppl on this thread, so I just wanted you to know I’m not a creep lol I just haven’t posted any pix/vids yet. @crownroyaloniiiice (that’s 4 i’s :-))
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@dakotafox84
yay!!!
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@brigittecurtiss101 follow me I follow back xxx
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