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Read this post on Psychology Today about Pole Dancing
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She was at a woman’s fitness center checking out the class listings. I’m not sure how porn jumped into the “She didn’t even try it and she is writing about it disapointment comment.” Just goes to show perception is what makes things acceptable or not.
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Thank you all for sharing. I'm really glad that this article started such a discussion. I definitely learned a lot from the discussion. I'm very protective and passionate of what I do and honestly, I was defensive when I first read the post on PsychToday but after reading all other perspectives, I'm just glad that I got to learn what I didn't know before.
Thank you Veena for giving us this site to share our feelings and what we are passionate about.
I was a very thin little girl and hated being called "skinny". I can't stand that word. And now, I love my body cuz I'm 115 llb of muscle. Pole gave me so much. I started pole classes sometime last year (so it has been a year now) I love that I get to experience my body in a whole different way now than I did when I was younger. And I guess that's why I get protective of it. I'm not where I want to be but I'm loving my journey of taking myself to a whole another level.
Thank you ladies for being on this journey with me…………….
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I can totally relate to being called skinny and it affecting my self-esteem! I love seeing everyone sharing, I learn so much about myself through you all!!!
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I’d love to read the comments on that article! Where do I find them?
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Thanks kobajo.
And ginger, I was using porn as an example of a similar subject with hotly contested perspectives on whether or not it’s empowering, to counterpoint those saying she shouldn’t publish her views on it until she’s tried it. We all have views and beliefs about things we haven’t actually experienced firsthand.
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@Tacha If you scroll all the way down it says "Join the discussion"
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this writer is a F*%king douchebag… and a moron at best. I'm surprised to hear that she has a college degree in anything. Critical thinking should be a required class for anyone wanting to call themselves a psychologist. I hope she doesnt take care of patients, I hope she only uses her degree to write ignorant articles such as this because her female patients are getting treated like $hit.
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Lol,boy this writer has a bug up her ass!i guess it never occurred to her that any type of dance can be misconstrued as sexual,why does pole have to be the bad guy ?and frankly,I pole because it’s a way for me to express myself,yes,pole dance is self expression at its best,it’s whatever you want it to be because it’s personal n sacred to you
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Hi Guys,
All I can say is wow. This person doesn't have a clue as to how pole dancing has helped some of us psychologically. Everyone has a right to their opinion; however, I think it would be wise to speak to some people to get a better understanding of why some people prefer poling rather than the so called standard of exercising at a gym.
Some people prefer walking the treadmill and some of us prefer working the pole!!! 🙂 In my opinion, the pole is better than the gym because of the challenges in which one must conquer. If she read this, then she probably would not understand what the hell I am talking about. LOL
Anyhow, we as polers do not demean others because of their preference of the type of exercise they choose to participate in. I think some people just do not understand the art and its too bad for that person. If he/she took the time to try it, then an understanding as well as credit would be shown to people who participate in poling. Moreover, with their ignorance of the art, it does not surprise me that those statements would be made. Some people are judgmental individuals and that is a part of our world which we as polers just have to continue to do what pleases us.
As the saying goes… Don't knock it until you try it!!! (She might like it) Well, enough rambling from me. Poling really helps me in many ways… especially when I am battling with my depression. 🙂
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It doesn’t matter if you “strip” and pole for a living or just in your living room it is incredibly empowering to be strong. And everyone who has even attempted pole knows you have to be strong. Being strong and sexy is the double whammy. Pole is that double whammy. Couple that with the “no judgement” environment of the pole community and you have a sanctuary for women of all walks of life. And if you are good enough and confident enough to do it for a living that is impressive. She would know that if she had attended a couple of classes before writing the article.
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It doesn’t matter if you “strip” and pole for a living or just in your living room it is incredibly empowering to be strong. And everyone who has even attempted pole knows you have to be strong. Being strong and sexy is the double whammy. Pole is that double whammy. Couple that with the “no judgement” environment of the pole community and you have a sanctuary for women of all walks of life. And if you are good enough and confident enough to do it for a living that is impressive. She would know that if she had attended a couple of classes before writing the article.
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@Youngs7 – if I could LIKE your comment twice, I would. You said it!
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“However, some feminist scholars argue that objectification of women in part plays into rape culture. As such rape and assault is more likely to occur in a society where women are in essence treated as objects.” Um is she serious? This is bs…and comparing and kind of Pole dance to what mylie Cyrus is doing for publicity is also a joke… I notice she didn’t mention the Blurred Lines video… In my humble opinion… If she really wanted to be “objective” she would have taken the class herself and probably had a much different story, but her instant judgment held her back from being truly open and objective…. And that makes her a very ignorant “phycologist”
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Feminist scholars who would also blame a woman being raped because of what she wears also… Not really… That’s all about power ok this one got me going lol
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