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Should I warn her? Advice please!
Yesterday I ran into this vid on youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpkOGtLsSAI
Delayne is super cute contortion-kid and she’s kind of dedicating this vid to two people, one of them called “hamfist”. I cannot be 100% sure it is a man, but about 99.99%….
She states that he has written her the nicest email and that he has “changed her contortion life”. Obviously he has given her some instructions on what to do.I just get a somewhat creepy feeling from this. She’s 8 years old….I checked out hamfist’s channel and there are a few flexy kids among his likes. As it is now she seems to really enjoy what she’s doing but what if her friend starts to instruct her into things she wouldn’t do otherwise and maybe makes requests about what she should wear and so on? He could be a 45-year old guy…
I was thinking that I should maybe write to her with some kind of warning but I’m not sure how to do it the best way. I really don’t want to scare her off youtube. That would be sad too.
It’s not a bad thing to take requests in general, but again she’s 8 years old and I don’t think hamfist is another contortion-kid.
Do you think I should message her or am I overreacting?
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29 Replies
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At the start she says hamfist is the nicest female ever. Nit sure hat advice to give u tho Soz. x
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Don't get involved. I am sure she has people ine her life that are keeping an eye out. Remember, you are a total stranger too.
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Oops Soz it says nicest email lol. Couldn’t hear it as volume not great. x
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I see your concern but I hope she has parents! I wouldn’t get involved. Of course I wouldn’t let my 8 hr on yT either. Lol!!!
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Meant 8 yr old.
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i saw a disturbing contortion vid on youtube recently and regret not speaking up now. she kept doing these walkovers and her shirt kept coming down over her head and showing everything- she was probably 7 or 8 years old. There were a couple of comments from other viewers warning her about pedofiles, so i just left it at that. I wish i would have sent her a message suggesting she show her parents her videos before posting them, because I am certain she does not get their approval first. no parent would allow what i saw, and the video was total pedophile material
i'm not sure if it's the right thing to do- get involved?
dont get involved?
i just know, (in my situation, at least) that I did not get involved and to this day, i kinda wish i had.
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I think anything showing an underaged child exposed as Katana described should be flagged. @Spir: This Hamfist does sound suspicious I guess if you really want to say something I'd probably just use the comment section instead of a private message and remind the little girl not to give out personal info and that anyone who is a nice person will not ask and if they do a parent should be told right away. I'm always coming across these types of vids when looking for dance ideas and stretches. Regularly when I look in the comments there are always a few who are most likely pedophiles. Ultimately it's the parents of these kids that need to be aware of what's going on and should be monitering their child's pc activity. However I personally don't think a subtle heads up is wrong in a case where an 8 year old is putting out videos that child predators have access to.
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And I would think nothing of a 7 or 8 years old shirt riding up. Nor would anyone in pretty much all of the European countries. When has it become okay to pass our hang ups onto to other's children?
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I don't think it has anything to do with a hang up it's just common sense to me. I also would think nothing of a 7 or 8 year old's shirt riding up but youtube viewers are not limited to Europeans or people without ill intention. That doesn't mean I think kids should be locked in a box until they turn 18 but If I were to see comments below a video containing the material described that gave me the impression that 7 or 8 year old was being targeted by a pedophile I definitely think parents or no parents the child should be protected and I personally would be in favour of having the video removed. I've heard too many stories where a child needed help (some from adults I know personally recounting their past) but everyone felt they should just mind their own business and stay out of it and instead did nothing. Of course people shouldn't create panic and alarm especially when it comes to children but if there is concern I'm in support of taking time to assess a situation and acting after much consideration if necessary.
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lol I don't know why my comment is in showed up in a square but I was just sharing thoughts not anything beyond that!
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I can't see any reason why not to advise her that she shouldn't give out personal details online. As for how to word it, I have no idea but I think using the comments box is the best way.
I think a friendly helpful word is all you can do.
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Lina Spiralyne, follow your internal compass. If you feel the urge to notify this young person by leaving a comment or sending a message, do so. If this will linger in your mind or you will later regret not saying something, say something. At least you would know that you did what you felt was right for your needs regarding what you observed.
You are not responsible for what people do with the information but you can do what you feel is important to do.
Wishing you the best in however you decide to approach it.
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I agree with JeHanne – There is nothing wrong that can come of you saying something. Notify her, and hope that she talks with her parents about it
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Thanks for your replies girls:). I'm not sure yet if I'll leave her a comment or not, but now I'm subscribed to her channel so I won't miss what she will post.
I didn't think that anything disturbing happened in the video while she did the contortion thing. Also I guess that any kid who jumps and flips around in shorts could unfortunately become pedophile material, not only if they do contortion, and there's not much to do about it. We cannot hide the kids, as someone pointed out in the comments. It's just that I don't want her to possibly be misled or used by someone who she have started to rely on.
Maybe I should leave "hamfist" a comment instead to see if he knows anything about contortion. I actually saw now when I went through the feed on this channel that he has liked one of my own flexibility vids too. If he really has knowledge of these things, maybe from being one in his youth or from training kids in it, then I know who may be able to give me an advice or two if I'll need it:).
Thanks again!
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Follow your gut, send a message, it won’t hurt anyone but it might help someone
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