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Thinking of exotic dancing: please help!
Dear all, Im writing to you for advice!
I have a "job interview" at a strip joint on thursday (audition I guess) and I am nervous about going since I have never done it before (gone all nude, I have participated in pole competitions sucessfully in the past and loved being on stage).
I told a good friend (and fellow pole dancer) about it and she strongly adviced me NOT to go because strip joints are shady places and she fears for my safety. I live in one of the richest european countries and the club is meant to be one of the most exclusive / well reputable in town. Is there still cause for concern?
My friend basically said that strippers often get pushed into prostitution, get grouped etc… Is this true? I know it's hard to answer this question because there is a range of clubs from super dodgy to the more polished kind, but how common is it?
I consider myself a strong person, but perhaps I am overestimating my ability? As I said I love being on stage when doing pole dance, but it's kind of innocent compared to getting all nude and doing lap dances. How tough do you really need to be a stripper? Do you need crocodile skin type of armour or is just normal leather ok? (stupid analogies I know, but hope you get what i mean). Im comfortable nude (eg I lke walking around my house nude not caring if neighbours see me) but I guess maybe it is a different story when you have to grind someone in a lapdance?
I am doing it purely for the money. I wouldnt turn to being a stripper if I got another job. However I don't look at stripping as "oh god I have to degrade myself to survive", Im actually really happy that there is a solution to my money/unemployment problem.
So I am nervous. Is that an indication that I shouldn't be getting in to it? Or is it just completely normal to be nervous. After all, who is not nervous before a job interview?
Basically: 1. will I be safe? How much do I need to worry about safety?
2. Do you think it would be something I could do or would stripping break me?
Maybe Im making this into a bigger deal than it really is, if so tell me! Actually, that's gonna be my last question: Stripping, how big of a deal is it really?
Hope to get some tips from you!
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i danced for a while, i am in Canada, we were treated like princesses and protected very well. People talk about strip clubs in a bad way because obviously they don't know anything about it
Stay away from the drugs, dont get too personal with the other dancers (this will keep you out of trouble)
the staff will not push you into prostitution this is bullshit….of course some clients will ask you if you do "more" but dont get offended or mad just politely decline…
I've quit dancing because the money is not good as it used to be…you have to talk a lot with the guys , its a lot of "psychological" work
Exotic dancing in canada is not what it used to be…the girls are not as glamourous as it used to be, there a lot of EXTRAS going on, so the clean ladies dont make money like they used too…. I think the strip club business is going down in most parts of the world .
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Oliviaa has some really good points. I stripped for one year in Sydney, Australia, so I cant give you specific details about strip clubs in Europe. But from my experience, as long as you choose a club that has a good reputation and doesn't side as a brothel, then no one will try to push u into prostitution. On the contrary, my managers had strict rules about not allowing customers to touch you, not crossing a certain line, and never offering extras (but our club was very upper-class and exclusive). There will be clubs where they want their girls to offer everything – so just choose your club carefully.
You do have to be quite mentally strong to be a (happy) stripper. It's good you feel comfortable with the concept of earning money from your body, and you enjoy performing/exhibitionisn/nudity. You have to be tough because there will be cutomers who reject you when you offer them a dance, or who talk crap to you. Don't take any of it personally, it's just business and you are only there to make money.
As Oliciaa said, don't drink too much (one or two drinks will give you some liquid courage and keep your energy going through the night, but dont get drunk – you lose control and rsepect). Stay away from drugs, and dont get into dramas with the other working girls. Be friendly, but mind your own business. When first starting at a club, the girls may be bitches because you r new and competition, but once you've settled in for a month or so they will warm up to you.
The best advice I can give you is keep a strict line between your work and your personal life. I never gave out my number or real name to customers, never met them after work for a few drinks or whatever – even when I genuinely made friends with customers, our interactions were always inside the club, under surveillance by the cameras.
Tips for stripping/dancing – even if u dont feel it, fake super-confidence. STrut your stuff on stage and work it, show your enjoyment, customers will be attracted to that. The slower you dance, the sexier – stripping is a different style to performing a pole routine – some cutsomers will appreciate and admire your pole tricks, but most just love watching sultry/sexy/slow floor work and body rolls etc basic stuff.
I quit stripping after a year because I was getting exhausted, and I was getting sick of listening to men and entertaining them…. I love to perform, it's a thrill being on stage, but I hated being at their beck and call. However at first it was really empowering, it makes you feel like as a woman, men are at your mercy and you hold all the cards…. u know what I mean? But as Oliviaa said, the money isnt as easy to make as it used to be… you really need to hustle and talk to them forver before they'll buy a private dance or spend big. But most of this stuff you will learn on the job, just keep your ears open, watch the experienced stippers who make the big bucks, mimic their moves, their opening lines, their attitude etc. A few shifts and you will feel like you've been doing it forever, so dont worry about the nerves.
It sounds to me like you would suit it well, so go for it and good luck! 🙂
Oh, ps: You may be like me and only want to do it for a short period of time, so make it worth it – save as much money as u can – earning huge amounts can make u go a bit silly and splurge on stupid things like luxury make-up and clothes etc – you will be glad you put aside money later on when you go back to a normal-paying job – you want to be able to see the profit from all your efforts. 🙂
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Men do try to push their limits with you, but that is expected. You just realize it is a game and you are the one in control. Stay away from drugs, drinking and as your friend said "the shady stuff", but you mentioned it may be more of an upscale gentleman's club, so your clientele shouldn't be as bad,but you'll still get your "pushers". As some said business is slower or different than it used to be, but not everywhere. You would never know there is a recession going on w/ the amount men go out to spend! Don't give out your number to customers, b/c they all try that too and don't meet up w/ ANYONE after the club(unless of course you know them). There are too many crazies out there in sheeps clothing.
Good luck!
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There's a lot of good and informative forums out there that are targeted towards prospective and current strippers. I would read the threads about becoming a stripper and whether or not it's for you. Just google "stripper forum" or something similar and you should get some resources. I'd do it for you right now but I'm in class…
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