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Where did my sexy go?
So let me start by saying I have always been an athletic girl. When I was younger I was a junior Olympian competitive gymnast. I’ve always attack sports with aggression and strength. Pole is throwing me for a loop. I feel like it’s hard for me to just be sexy. I’m always over thinking moves and I’ll be honest.. when I do a move it’s everything but sexy haha. I have trouble just letting go and dancing. Any advice or suggestions? I want to be smooth, sexy, and graceful; however, I cannot manage that while successfully doing moves.
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Just freestyle as often as you can, if will feel a little forced and robotic for a while it you will loosen up!
Choose music that you really relate too and love!!
I was the same but now I dance all over the place!
Keep going it will come with practice practice practice! Xx -
Thank you for your advice 🙂
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Agree 🙂 Film yourself to see what you look like, and the sexy will come with time. We all were (and are!) at varying stages of grace. Dance can be tricky in that your body can teach you just as much as you teach your body, you just have to trust it. Which again, takes time! Trust is earned and all that 😉
You could also try taking some general dance classes near you (chair dance, burlesque, belly dance, hip hop, whatever!), it can introduce new movements to your body that might trigger something fun 🙂
here is a nice talk about finding your sexy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lrdn4lazVBc
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Lucca speaks truth and that talk is awesome.
I am only just starting to learn to let go but my top tips are:
Slow. If on spin hold each shape for 2x round the pole full revolution. If on static try to float up and down out of the spin in slow motion.Extend: Point toes and fully extend as if you are drawing lines with finger tips and toes and sprinkling glitter trails or smoke vapour from your fingers and toes and the ends of your hair.
Close your eyes, dim the lights, exhale and smile, move through the whole of the movement as if a photographer is taking a fast-shutter series of photos and wants to catch your glorious shape in each still frame.
Turn the music up and forget the tricks for the song before you focus: roll on the floor, shake your hair, draw line shapes with your legs and circles with your hips, keep it simple and tap into the real emotions you feel rather than playing at classic ‘sexy’.
Slow controlled frustration is sexy.
Angry, strong is sexy.
Tired, loose, careless is sexy.
Experimental playful is sexy.Just be how you are.
And if you feel foolish, adopt a persona. You are a runaway heiress secretly auditioning for a burlesque troupe, or an undercover FBI agent trying to seduce a mob boss, or whatever you like. Nobody is scoring you. Just entertain yourself 😉
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Thank you guys! I’ve always been a victim of myself.. always too critical and hard on myself!
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Awesome tips from Tropicalpole. Undercover FBI agent trying to seduce a mob boss!! 😀 best ever, I’m definitely using this!
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Lucca that Ted X Talk is what brought me to pole!! Love the philosophy behind waking the erotic creature 😉
TP fantastic tips!!!!
Thanks for sharing ladies:-)
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