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custom bumper sticker causing drama
So I had this made for my husband’s car while he was deployed. Because I love it. And I love pole fitness lOl. He’s been driving it for over a year. We moved to hawaii and only been here 2 weeks and I get a friend telling me is on a “WTF army” facebook page. I laughed. I think it’s funny it has so many likes. the comments are harsh but I understand they don’t know who I am and that it’s not personal. But I thought I’d share the ensuing drama with my pole family lol. Hope you all like the sticker!
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🙂 love that sticker!
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Thanks!
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I’ve seen that on t-shirts, and I find it funny too, but given all the stereotypes about military wives, I’m not surprised by the harsh comments. I started pole when my husband was on his first deployment, and while he was proud of me and would tell people he knew about it, it wasn’t the sort of thing we announced. As a personal decision, I don’t think either of us would have put it on a car that he drove on to base. Also, honestly, I would have worried about it being held/used against him either at promotion time or just because someone felt like being an a-hole–but my husband was in the MC, where I think on average they get f-ed with more about every little thing.
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Yes seen this many times (the graphic) funny and cute, tho part of me feels it’s a bit mean, tho admittedly I can’t quite put my finger on why… Anyway, besides the point — sort of… The main reason I’m responding is because — pardon the ignorance (& feels worse yet considering I grew up in a total military town surrounded by folks in every branch here!) — WHAT stereotype abt military wives? Please do explain, enquiring minds wanna know! Bc I’m certain I don’t! Is it sleazy? Or conservative? Or …? Haha, sorry to be so nosey but curious to understand better the reactions you guys have gotten from the bumber sticker… Which overall I do have to commend you on your ballsy-ness for sporting it around, military or not!
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Haha so I have seen this but it always said girlfriend not wife. So I had it made because I think it’s funny and it opens people up to ask about it and more for me to talk about pole fitness. I wouldn’t have made it if I thought it would be found rude or offensive. If the other girl was obese or purposely made fun of I wouldn’t have made it but because it’s your average girl symbol I loved it 🙂
I am a military spouse but unfortunately military spouses get hated on alot. They often get called “dependas” or women who depend on their husbands. “Only married them for housing, pay, and benefits ” usually talked about as being lazy or fat or mooching because many are stay at home moms. Also usually labeled as cheaters because many do since thEir husband’s are always gone.
Now I don’t say any of that, I don’t belong in any of thosE categories either. I have unfortunately seen many spouses who cheat and can’t live while their husbands are deployed or at training. it’s awful
… b u t it’s not only military wives who cheat. So yeah… they assume since my husband has that sticker and is in the military that it automatically makes me a whore/stripper/cheater. And pages like that are just set up for bullying really. But I got a good laugH. My husband said he had multiple people find him the next day and I apologized and he said “no, it’s ok. Gives me a chance to explain about pole fitness” he got several people asking where I take classes and where I bought the sticker. So I’m taking no harm in it but was a bit surprised at all the attention it got lol -
The comments on that are disgusting, I hate male dominated facebook groups cuz they usually get very disrespectful and degrading toward women… Then you have a few snipey random women coming in and agreeing with the guys to try and make themselves seem cool and like one of the guys… Cool sticker though!!! You got a lot of people’s attention. I wish people would get over pole dancing and stop projecting their hang-ups on us, but probably not in my lifetime… It’s fun, endorphin rushes are great. Dancing is fun lol let’s get over it now. If you choose yoga as a release and had a sticker in a flexy yoga pose then nobody would have said anything… PS. Judging from this post it seems army wives have a lot to go through, much respect. But it was so cool that you had some support from people you know too 😀
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Thanks tamarinda 🙂 I had posted it on my personal page and knew if I had tried to defend myself or my sport it would only get worse. Plus… with me being a “plus sized dancer” I knew it would be extra harsh once they stalked my profile. So instead my friends tried to defend me lol. I had told them I knew it wasn’t about me personally since the comment or didn’t know me. But it was still harsh and my friends felt the need to speak up. It was touching lol
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Firebird: Perhaps those sorts of comparisons make you uncomfortable because there is an implication that one is better than the other. Just a thought.
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Being married to a Deputy has made me realize that our whole family is scrutinized and held to a higher standard than the average person. I’m guessing it’s the same with the military. If the “average joe” had this on their vehicle the comments would be different. But since it’s on the vehicle of a military person people are a lot more harsh. It’s totally unfair, and unless his superiors advise him to remove the sticker, just ignore the haters and be proud of your skill.
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My husband has it on a shirt and people love that shirt. He is in the military and he just make sure for the sake of the ear noise that he only wears the shirt around people that are not up tight. I served as well and one of my friends actually stripped when she was on liberty. They can’t do a thing about it as long as she didn’t wear anything that pertained to the military, so maybe it’s the Army sticker next to it that upset people, but if people truly wanted to get bent out a shape I would think every service member would be brought up on charges because you aren’t allowed to copulate in any other position other than missionary, so people need to gasp and clutch their pearls over their own OMG’s.
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I don’t have a problem with the sticker, but you need to question yourself why you decided to put it up to begin with. Clearly to get some kind of reaction, no? The sticker is kind of snarky. It’s not like it simply says “My wife loves pole dance.” It compares one wife (boring, conservative, maybe kind of prudish) with another wife (sexy, outgoing, a bit of an exhibitionist). I’m not saying you’re one or the other, but this is what the sticker implies, so people will most likely have a negative reaction for this reason.
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Oh that’s hot s***!! I love it
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@pole is new to me… I didn’t see the sticker as that in anyway. And have actually had it for more then a year with mostly possitive reactions. If it was negative no one said so 🙂 I was surprised it took so long for someone to post it on a page like that. like I mentioned I never would have put it up if I thought it would be offensive to any one. I already get people who give me grief for pole so I like to advertise it and thought this was more fun then a sticker that said I love pole fitness 🙂 and none of the comments say anything about making women look boring or conservative (I’m conservative and very religious too lol) they all just assumed I was a whore/skeezy girl who sleeps around. So I don’t think they took it that way either l
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My husband’s response is that yes it’s snarky but really it’s in the perception of the person who looks at it. People who pole dance love it, people who think strippers are bad are offended, and people who think pole dance is inappropriate won’t like it either. Most people just laugh or smile about it but it’s all in how you perceive it 🙂
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