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life events and poling
This was a initially a response to Yogabeachbabe’s reply on the "tips for pregnancy and poling" forum that catharsis posted, but since my post is unrelated to pregnancy, i’m posting it here.
I just had to say that i loved yogabeachbabe’s story. I too have been in situations where i was doing something that wasn’t good for me, and then something "bad" happens that forces me or pushes me to change what it is i’m doing. Sometimes these events happen more subtly, so they don’t actually "force" you to change, but rather they attract your attention towards something. You just have to ‘open’ to accepting this type of thing in order to notice it and benefit from it. And many times, when something ‘bad’ happens to us, it’s hard to understand why at the time. But i truly believe that if we try to learn something from the experience, connect it to our lives, and follow our instincts, we will later on be able to look back and realize that there was a reason for that event.
And of course, this can also apply to poling, since for most of us it is an important part of our sense of well being and fulfillment. Sorry if this sounded a bit superstitious, it’s really not, just too complicated for me to talk about any further https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
I know that many people may see things differently than me, and completely disagree with what i just wrote (and that’s totally ok by me, and i hope it’s ok by you too!) but I’d love to hear if anyone has a story about a ‘coincidental’ or meaningful event that led them to begin/discover pole-dancing, that helped them in accomplishing something in pole-dancing, or led them to discover something about themselves in relation to this (or anything along these lines). thanks for listening to my perception of life https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif -
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This probably isn’t quite as deep as you were hoping for, Azriel, but I wanted to give it a shot. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_razz.gif
For me when I started pole dancing just over a month ago, it was a rather spur-of-the-moment thing. I had seen some of TaraKarina’s videos on YouTube a while back and thought that it would be cool, but that I could never do it.
Well, I went out to a bar with some co-workers where they have a pole on the dance floor. I got on it for one song with one of my friends, and although I was just messing around and not really "pole" dancing, I really enjoyed myself and got the pole a few days later. It was intended more of a fun thing for me and my husband https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif but I remembered TaraKarina’s videos and looked them up again. She had a link to this site in all of her infos on her videos, so here I am. But I’m glad I can appreciate pole dancing as a hobby or sport as well as "fun" for me and the hubby.
But in this new venture, I’m discovering some confidence and self-worth that I didn’t know I even had. First just in the pride of pole dancing itself. It’s not accepted around here by anyone and especially not by my family. So I’m standing my ground as far as that goes. Next is that growing up I’ve never been athletic – at all. I was the one who hated gym class, too. But only a month into pole dancing I can already do so many moves, and it’s empowering! I’m like "holy sh*t, I actually found something I can do!" So it’s strange to me that so far everything as far as physical hobbies has failed me and now suddenly there’s something I’m able to do, so it makes me wonder if God has a plan for this little hobby in my life, because it’s already working wonders on a sense of self-confidence that has been totally lacking up until now.
Not to mention it’s like a ray of sunshine in my life. While my life doesn’t suck by any means, it could be better. But it’s great knowing that after I put my daughter to bed I can go pole instead of moping of going straight to bed feeling like I have no life.
And with that, thank you to all who are here. It’s great to have this cyber community of support even though there is no one local for me to have as a pole partner. You’ve all contributed to this new-found feeling of… of… well, "good-ness" in my life, and thank you thank you thank you!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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Jacq i wasn’t hoping for anything in particular, and i’m really glad you responded! I believe that there’s no such thing as "not deep enough" when it comes to topics like these.. only you can feel how meaningful or ‘deep’ something is for you! I really enjoyed reading about your experience in discovering pole dancing..and i love your interpretation in terms of how you suddenly found something physical that you were good at, the events that led to it, and what it means to you.. thanks so much for sharing that!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rendeer.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_viking.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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Well Studio Veena wouldn’t even exist if my husband and I hadn’t had two big life events occur!!!
I had found a great space to rent for my studio In a performing arts center! I had ordered all the poles…things were looking good! We had recently purchased our first home and we were settling in nicely. We even had a live in babysitter, my husbands brother had a room in the basement which gave him a place to live rent free and us freedom to go out at night!! Ok things were good.
Well my husbands parents had come to visit and I just wasn’t feeling right soooo I did some counting on my calendar and hmmmm I was late https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_eek.gif So I took the pregnancy test. POSITIVE?? I really, really, didn’t believe it. I had finally convinced myself that I was not going to have anymore kids and was moving forward with my passion for pole dance. I cried…now what I thought. So the next day my husband calls me and well guess what…lost his job!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_eek.gif I’m thinking this is it!! I’m just gonna curl up and die (I’m so optimistic) lol. Well being the wonderful provider my husband is he found a great new job with in a few weeks BUT it was in California we were living in Minneapolis. So he moved out there to start on the job and I stayed back to get the house ready for sale, and let my oldest finish out the school year. He miss the whole first part of the pregnancy. We are like two peas in a pod so being apart for over 3 months was awful.
I wanted to still teach… but how? I couldn’t commit to the studio anymore because we would be moving. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif well….WHAT IF I DID LESSONS ONLINE!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_idea.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_idea.gif My husband say’s yeah that’s a great idea BUT what if we take it a step farther….create a pole dance community!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_idea.gif and Studio Veena was born https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/bom.gif
Sometimes that terrible situation can turn into a wonderful opportunity. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif I’m thankful every day that I have my lil baby Henry, he’s amazing!!!
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SO basically we should be thanking Henry and your husband’s asshole ex-boss for Studio Veena? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif
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Thanks for posting that Veena! I always wanted to know why you started StudioVeena! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
Jacq your story is great too.
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Hello All
I would too like to share on my experience.
I’m new here and I have too had some ups and downs. I have the attitude you take the rough with the smooth.
However lately there has been a little more rough than I would have liked. At the moment I don’t like going out unless I have too, and I used to be out more than I was in. I injured my leg running and have been unable to get it to any point that I could go out and run ( once a passion of mine) and as a result I have gained a ton of weight. It may be true that I kind of let myself go. I suffer with depression but I always keep a positive attitude even in cases that may seem a little bleak.
In January I was told I had a stomach ulcer and because medication didn’t fix it I’m now having to have a visit to the hospital for investigation. My jobs sucks big but pays quite well that it’s difficult to bite the bullet and take a pay cut for a new role.
A couple of weeks ago I had some leave to take, while I was at home, I was on youtube, I can’t even remember what I was looking at and there was a pole dancing video which I looked at. From that moment on I have looked into it and it has led me here. I am in the process of all the stress of building work about to start in May for my kitchen and dining room so at the very latest I will have my xpole by June. For the time being it is now a case of getting a little fitter and active.
Life has a funny way of happening, if one door closes you open another.
I don’t know where this will lead me if anywhere but I can hardly wait for the journey. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif
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jacq- it sounds like we do have to thank Henry and asshole boss for this site, lol!
wow veena, i find it very interesting that there was not one, but TWO events that happened within a day of eachother, to prevent you from opening a studio!..and that then things proceeded in a way that allowed you to create this site (ex. your husband finding another great job). I don’t know if you would’ve been happier owning a live studio (sorry don’t know how else to call it), but creating this online pole community has helped, benefited, and brought together so many people from all over the world (many of whom also don’t have classes in their area/country), and that wouldn’t have been possible if the studio wasn’t online. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gifTracy welcome to the site! I’m sorry to hear about your leg and that you had to quit running. And i hope the ‘investigation’ helps to find you an effective treatment for the ulcer.. And how can you not fall into depression when you unwillingly have to quit something you love? I really hope that poling does open a new door (and i think it will) and that it can be an even better replacement of your previous passion (i beleive it’s therapeutic for depression as welll!). Just make sure to take it slow and to check with your doctor first about your leg. Thanks so much for sharing your story!
Trena, LOL. i know, funny how i started this thread without telling a story of my own.. i only have one such story that’s related to pole-dancing, but i think that it’s still in the process of being unfolded, so i don’t want to jinx it by talking about it yet! Silly, i know, and i don’t really believe in jinxing, but it’s really too early to put it together just yet! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif
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jacq- it sounds like we do have to thank Henry and asshole boss for this site, lol!
wow veena, i find it very interesting that there was not one, but TWO events that happened within a day of eachother, to prevent you from opening a studio!..and that then things proceeded in a way that allowed you to create this site (ex. your husband finding another great job). I don’t know if you would’ve been happier owning a live studio (sorry don’t know how else to call it), but creating this online pole community has helped, benefited, and brought together so many people from all over the world (many of whom also don’t have classes in their area/country), and that wouldn’t have been possible if the studio wasn’t online. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gifYes, Azriel I’m beyond thrilled about how Studio Veena has come along. I really truly love helping and teaching others I have always been that way. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif I use to be a very negative person, and so every little thing that happen to me seemed horrible and over whelming. Fortunately I was able to stop the cycle of negativity and learned to find solutions to problems instead of wondering why me?? I still have my moments, but I really do believe positive thoughts = positive outcome. I don’t have any plans to open a studio anytime soon, I love being able to have my kids around me and be home!! The site is a lot more work then I thought it would be, and it has grown waaayyy faster then I ever thought, but I have grown as a teacher and business woman because of it. I love to see everyone talking about their new moves and its great to see others finding support here in more ways then just pole. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
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I can’t always make it to the chats on Friday and when I do… i’m lost for topics to talk about. LOL. So I figure everyone could get to know a little bit abotu me through this.
My husband and I have probably had the most tulmultuous relationship I have ever found. And I read tons of books, fiction & non-fiction alike. Without all the glory-bound details, my husband came home from his first tour in Iraq and our relationship was not the same. We were having worse arguments, we were not happy, for a lot of reasons he resented me and for a lot of reasons I resented him. So we seperated. He wasn’t fighting fair. He was threatening to take money away from me, put me out on the street, and told me I needed to get a job. I was a fulltime stay-at-home mother and watching one of my best friends kids for her during the day, (getting paid) so I couldn’t get a job during the day. And he sure as hell wasn’t helping me in anyway with our son after he left. I had a couple of friends who were working at a new club that had just opened and well one friend in particular told me to come in and watch her stage. Only mins. after I walked in the owner was begging me to dance, I needed the money, and at the moment I felt like being a vindictive b*tch. So I started that following Sunday.
I knew nothing of stripping, nothing of being sexy. But I would watch the other girls and just try to imitate. There were a couple of girls who were willing to help and teach. One of the girls who later became a really good friend, could pole like nobodies’ business. Plus it made her lots of extra money. I was so amazed at her abilities, then and there I decided that I had to learn at much as I could about the pole.
I was YouTubing the sh!t out of pole dancing and lessons and then I stumbled upon Veena’s channel. I was so intrigued, not only was she a mom but a pole dancer. So I was learning from the girls at work and learning from Veena. I worked there for only 3 months. But I had never been more fit and healthy. I had never been more happy with who I was, and who I was, was a mom who loved to take her clothes off for strangers to make more money in two nights then most people in two weeks, who was sexy, confident, and for once happy.
Five months later, my husband wants to reconcile. My husband and I have been back together since Sept. 08 and things have been tough. But we are probably more in love then ever and I found something that makes me happy and lets me feel very sexy.
So after saving, I finally got to buy one last week. I still haven’t got it, but I’m waiting patiently. I have wanted one for almost 9 months (ever since I quit dancing). I can’t wait to get in shape again, feel sexy and have something to show my husband when he gets back from this deployment (Afganistan). Not only that, I’m finally going to school soon. Hopefully. Things are finally moving forward in every way.
About a month back I went to see if Veena had posted anything new and it lead me here to StudioVeena. Now I spend a couple hours a day reading, writing and watching. I love it. So thank you, Veena’s baby Henry and Veena’s husband’s ex-boss. Hooray for for hard times and coming out on top. Nothing feels better then being able to move forward when you are being brought down by life in general.
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I just have to say this and didn’t know where else to put this. but aren’t we all glad that x pole is so reliable. if your feeling this let me know… have a great day every one.
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WOW!!! You guys this thread was such an incredible idea- you’re so smart for starting it Azriel! I enjoyed reading every single one of your guys’ stories, some were sad, some were happy, some scary and exciting but overall what a fantastic thread….so many amazing strong women on one website!
my story is pretty lame- i was at a bar one night with my friend, saw some women poling in the back, i raced up to them and begged them to show me how to do a simple move….from there i was hooked. started learning in a studio and it’s changed my life for the better ever since! i consider myself so lucky to have a hobby that im so madly in love with! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
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