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AWESOME! First I've heard of Pole Aria! Pole + Silks = I'm in love! Thanks for sharing this!
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At first, my mom had her reservations. She still doesn't love the "sexy" aspects of pole. I made a mistake of taking her to what I thought would be a competition that turned out to be an amateur strip contest (boobies and all) that some girls I knew were in. Luckily, my mom is outgoing and we just kind of laughed it off. But it did leave a bad taste in her mouth about the "art" of it. I exposed her to less risque and more artistic pole stuff (Jenyne, etc.) She thinks that kind of pole is awesome. I've even taught her a few spins, but lost her at the idea of doing a "sexy pushup" (even though she still tried and rocked it!) She also worries if I post something "too sexy" online, but only because she worries about who will see it and about reprocussions. However, I think that's more of the mom in her than her dissing pole. Overall, she's supportive and encouraging when I show her new pole accomplishments. I'm very lucky in the mom department!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif
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On a side note, RM2012, I just want to say that I also have the utmost respect for you for taking responsibility and choosing to do the right thing for your children. Despite our varying ideas on the subject of legalization, I still have to give you props for making a conscience and successful effort to choose your children over old habits and yourself 🙂
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I agree with Chem on the parenting issue. Proposing that the government regulate pot use in order to "ensure" more responsible parenting is kind of approaching that issue sideways. Not to mention, when did it become the government's place to tell us what makes a "good" parent. I realize driving drunk with your kid in the backseat or physically/mentally abusing them is intolerable and the community should have the right to defend a child that essentially doesn't have the ability to do so for themselves, but as far as claiming that the use of marijuana will ultimately make a parent irresponsible and a bad parent is a bit extreme. I feel that negiligent parents should be held accountable for their own poor behavior rather than the "mind-altering" drug being their scapegoat excuse. Ultimately, it's not the drug's fault. If you chose to do something that you know makes you less attentive or involved than you should be, ultimately you chose to be those things (with or without the help of the substance regardless if it puts you in any state of mind.) It's not the government's job to play defense constantly, when we start expecting them to, we open ourselves up to them regulating aspects of our life that I think anyone would find to be intrusive (such as telling us "how" to parent.)
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Wow, you Veeners never cease to impress me with your rhetoric, nor your abilities to keep convos on hot button issues civil!
That being said, I have to chime in on this awesome feed! Personally, I tend to lean towards the libertarian belief system. I'm very big on "do as you will, so long as it harms none" idealism. That being said, I stand the same on marijuana use. I believe that it should be legal regardless of whether it's for recreation or health and regardless of whether we prove it to be beneficial or harmful to the user.
I don't believe that moral opinions should dictate laws, what should dictate laws is the preservation of each individual's right to live a free and individually fulfilling life. If smoking marijuana does this for someone, I say the government has no place to keep that from them. In fact, I really don't think that they have much right to regulate it at all. Except in the cases of DUI's, in which I believe should still exist because the dangers caused by driving under the influence can harmfully invade on other people's lives without their consent.
While I have read plenty of research and watched tons of documentaries on the pros of marijuana and personally do believe that it really is a versatile remedy and healer, I don't use that as my argument for legalization. Although, I do think that it's important to share that information so potential or current users could make an educated decision on whether to use it if marijuana were legal, I just don't think it should be neccessary to prove marijuana "good" or "bad" in deciding it's legality.
I mostly think that legalization should be less about the pros/cons and more about the freedom to choose what is right for us and our own bodies.
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I think it's awesome that the pole preformance that aired on So You Think You Can Dance fits the SV theme! Eliana and Tiffany performed to a song from the musical Chicago. Here is a link to the youtube video (although it's been posted on here in another forum, thought it might be inspirational for the ladies participating in this month's challenge!)
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I'm game too! I've been meaning to start a weekly stretch regimen, this for sure has me motivated to kick it in gear this week 😀
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Capfeb, I respect you and your boyfriend finding a comfortable compromise for you two. I understand that strip clubs can open up new possiblities for couples in their own sex lives and if that makes you both happy, I say go for it! Afterall, it's really all about what's best for you and your loved one 😀
Irmingard, "sensationalized" is the perfect term! I don't get the whole modern day concept of bachelor parties at all. I just think that if you are getting married, you should be out celebrating with your closest friends that you found someone to spend your life with. Not getting wasted and doing questionable things because it's your last chance to. I just don't get that mindset at all. But obviously, compared to like 80% of newlyweds, I'm in the minority there. Which is fine, to each his own..lol
As far as honesty and trust goes though, I truly believe my husband and I have the utmost of both in our relationship. We are completely honest and open with one another, we are best friends. I have no doubt that he would never do anything to break that if he were to go to the strip club, however I just still stand by the fact that I don't think my married man belongs in a place that openly exists to showcase women sexually. He's married, he has everything and more here at home. I don't say this because I feel threatened or badly about myself at all, its more because I respect myself, a lot, and I refuse to break boundaries in my relationship for the sake of appeasing someone else. I just feel like there's this idea that women should find a way to accept strip clubs because they are pretty much a societal norm now. As I mentioned, I'm cool with that. While my posts might make me sound like I really hate them, I don't. When I was single, I went to them with friends. They really weren't a big deal to me, they still aren't. However, I guess the bigger deal for me is doing what's right for me and my husband. He doesn't really express the desire to go, the idea of him going bothers me and so he doesn't.
I think this is an interesting convo though, I really appreciate everyone's opinions, even those that don't share my own. We have a lot of strong women on SV and I love it!
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Katana, no drinking outside of the clubs here. We live somewhere where the liquor store is closed on Sundays and you can't order a drink until after "church time" (noon.) My hubs is most likely going to join them for cocktails and bow out before the strip club, as the plan stands for now.
Saphyre, you're post made me laugh (at myself a little, even.) It's funny how different the two sexes interpret things, right? I had to laugh a little at how long my post was in comparison to how short your "man" response was. lol.
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Golgotha, I guess I worded that last question wrong. You and ninjachic are correct in saying that he has to be the one to handle the situation in the end. I don't/haven't stepped in to any situations like this and try to think that I leave it up to my husband. Partly why I vent here because I don't ever want him to feel like I'm saying "you are not allowed." And Ninja, I really liked what you said about him being the one to say HE doesn't want to go. I have told him before that he can "blame it" on me if it is easier, just because I feel guilty when he's stuck taking all the backlash, but you are right it's not just him who feels this way and I guess there's no need for me to be the scapegoat in that case.
I guess if the other groomsmen are jerks about it, that's on them and between my husband and his friends as Azblanco and Echo basically put it. I just wish that people were as accepting as all of you ladies seem about the varying ideas on the subject and differences in marriages/relationships in general.
Mkalis and Ninjachic, it's definitely interesting to hear it from your perspectives as dancers. Mkalis, I guess from my original post you could tell I was really skeptical of private dances lol However, you make a good point that there's no rule that he couldn't deny one. Yet, even considering that, just him being there does still make me uncomfortable after all. Plus, some of the things both of you mentioned about the more "relentless" dancers out there, or even prostitutes as you mentioned mkalis, is no news to me and yet another reason why I just don't feel like the strip club is no place for my husband. Not because I think he would indulge in those things, I just think it's not really worth the risk of some weird scenario coming up that wouldn't have had he not gone. Especially since neither of us are really crazy about him going in the first place.
It really "boils down" to what Echo said, it's all about you and your relationship. I just wish there were more people (namely a few groomsmen I know!! :P) who would understand that.
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Happy Birthday Veena! Thank you for creating a forum for all us to connect, learn, and share. SV has become not only a wonderful outlet for poledancers but one of the only social networking sites where there is more love and positivity than hate and meanness. All because you had such a wonderful idea! Hope you know how appreciated you are by so many! And of course that you have an awesome day <3
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Ooooh! I love Pinterest! Following those of you who posted links and here's mine:
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What in the world hahahaha https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
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Oh ok gotcha! Thanks Veena 🙂
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Veena knows best! 😉
Veena, quick question? How does a 45 mm benefit a taller dancer?
