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Eva what you are not realizing is that you are not being misunderstood.

We understand that you are NOT saying to make rude comments to people posting videos.

We understand that you think people are getting excessive compliments for performances that don't seem to live up to those comments.

We understand that you feel it would be helpful if others would tell people in a polite way how they could improve.

What people are trying to make you realize is that although they understand clearly what you are saying they prefer not to give nice advise and just enjoy the videos and give compliments wether even if someone could improve on certain areas in their performance.

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This is pretty interesting coming from someone who posted:

 

"i really don't understand why you can't accept a simple advice,  or just accept a different opinion,"

It seems like you can't either.

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Amy Winehouse – A Song For You

Nouvelle Vague – Psyche

Head over Heels performed to  it for "Bring sexy" back week http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hkq0hxPOmhU 

Also super OMG@Blue jeans -Bastille thanks for that post Ollie it's awesome!

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I'm just wondering, does starting out on a 50 make smaller sizes easier to work with or do you need to go through a period of adapting and readjusting your moves to accommodate each size?

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Oops that last line wasn't for u Wild lotus. I have a bad habit of skimming a thread and then posting before reading it more thouroughly.

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I think because of the language barrier when Eva read the posts with the word critique she may have taken that word to mean something negative and got frustrated thinking no one could see the difference between criticism (which she may have thought has a negative connotation) and advice which she was suggesting should be given to those putting up videos. I definitely get where everyone else is comming from and feel that unless someone specifically asks for advice and pointers that it is not necessary to say anything if it is not supportive. I personally am someone who does have my friends give me a no holds barred opinion on my poling which can be pretty harsh however it makes me push myself further but I think people like Eva might consider that sometimes advice even in the kindest form is not what everyone is looking for. I liked Veena's point of using the video forum just for the sake of sharing something. It's great to celebrate your progress with people who can appreciate that sense of accomplishment for that first awkward invert we've all done or will do where you are kicking with all of your might with your legs all flailing and crooked at the knees because you are driven like a maniac to get up that damned pole if it's the last freaking thing you ever do. It doesn't really matter that you should've pointed your toes.

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Yay for Webbie! Have a great Birthday 🙂

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Wow MariYabe I'm just blown away to find out you are 52 and just to confirm: You kick ass!

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Life is tough when you are a teen and feel strongly about something but can't pursue it, even though I'm sure your parents feel they are choosing what's in your best interests. I'm glad to see your strategy is to focus on your education and take a constructive and effective way to gain your independence. Until you are back with a pole you can do your strength conditioning and flexibility training as well as dance so you will be a step ahead when you are ready to continue. Like MsPretty said stay strong. You have an awesome future ahead.

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Oops Marle, didn't see your post when I typed mine

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I personally think whichever you start out of spin/static makes the other one seem harder. I started out on static though. Maybe someone here who started on spin can give you their input. If you are planning to become an advanced poler you should get a pole that gives both options because it will be cheaper than buying a second pole down the line. If it is more for work reasons that you are learning you should choose whatever type is common at the work places in your area.

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@Nolaelle The flexibility ones are great. I've used the pure splits in combination with the 6 weeks splits program and did my first front split a few weeks ago. Also I use stretching for the pole which has been improving my back flexibility. I definitely recommend her DVDs.

I have the floor and sexy fundamentals which have good moves to learn but because I have a few other pole areas that I'm a bit focused on right now I haven't gotten to those two as yet.

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Just do it. Don't let the time it takes to accomplish your goals deter you because if you do I'll bet that in one year, two years or three years you will probably still want to do all these things and wish you had started at your current age.

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I personally don't mind  boyfriend going to a strip club. I feel that because it's the workplace for the dancers the last thing they would be interested in is some kind of personal affair. They are there to do their jobs, make their money and go back to their lives, their kids, their boyfriends or husbands at the end of the day. 

but Ari if it makes you uncomfortable then don't worry about the groomsmen and how they would take it if your husband is not going. I doubt they are losing any sleep over how uncomfortable you are and how you would take it if your husband went along. You shouldn't have to justify yourself to them. If they counteract with "it's not a big deal" or "it's just one night" then something being written off as being so insignificant shouldn't be the end of the world to not participate in.

This reminds me of desperate housewives when Susan didn't want her husband going to a strip club and he felt it wasn't a big deal until she decided to work a shift there – suddenly it was not such a harmless place to be for an hour or two lol If your husband wouldn't have you doing what the majority of women at strip clubs do then it's only fair for him not to do what the majority of men do as far as the clubs are concerned!