[Danniacc47]

Oh MaeC that must be very frustrating. I think sexy dancing is great, it is not very me but I would definitely like to try it to connect with my more feminine side just like you said. I’ve been thinking about buying a pair of heels but I haven’t. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I feel your pain.

[Danniacc47]

Well Allyson you’re absolutely right. My mom is waaaaaaay better than her mom. My grandmother would never accept me in a million years, she would probably hate me, not only because of the pole but pretty much half of the things I do go against what she believed was right. She used to throw away my moms books because they may say something about sex and sex was immoral even in literature. She thought women were not supposed to do things without a man and stuff like that. She didn’t believe in independent women who express themselves. She died before I was born but I know from what my mom has told me that she had a hard time dealing with her own mother.
My mom is MUCH better than her mom but I guess the way she was raised is still imprinted in her. We’ll have to work things out I guess, to a point where neither of us is too uncomfortable. Whatever happens I still love my mom with all my heart.

[Danniacc47]

Freddie that sounds awful. Nobody has made any uncomfortable comments to me but it must be frustrating. I don’t have children but my sister is pregnant and I already told her than when my nice/nephew becomes old enough I’m going to play with him/her on the pole and she is fine with that. My brother-in-law even said that it was obvious that his kids would have to learn pole like their aunt to make them strong and fit hahaha. I’ve seen many children playing around poles and I think it’s adorable, for them the pole is like a swing or something. I’m really looking forward to be a fun pole auntie 😀

[Danniacc47]

I am completely open about pole, my Facebook and instagram are full of pictures of me poling. I don’t hide my pictures or my videos from my male friends because I don’t think they are particularly sexual. My style is more fitness than sexy. Don’t get me wrong, I love sexy dancing, but it’s just not very ME, if you know what I mean. Most of my friends are really supportive and no one has ever made an uncomfortable comment about it. Actually I teach pole to a couple of my male friends whenever they come over, it’s really fun because it is harder than they think lol. Anyway, my mom is not very supportive of my hobby, my dad is, also my sister and my brother-in-law. When they are around I ask them to spot me and they like to help me. With my mom is a whole different story. When I first told her I wanted to pole to achieve some of the moves I saw on youtube she told me that surely those girls had been training their whole lives and that I would never be that good. I didn’t listen to her and I started training, a couple of months later I bought my pole and she told me that I was nuts, that why on earth had I bought a pole? I told her that she had just bought a treadmill that she never uses, my pole is like my treadmill and I do use it, almost every single day. She doesn’t say anything about it anymore, good or bad (apart from the “Take it down” stuff).

I mean I get the “clear up the space, we are having visitors and we need the room” but she told me “Take down your pole, what are the visitors going to think if they see it in the living room?” The funniest part is that everyone who came knows I pole and they have all seen the pictures of me training in the living room, so everybody asked where was my pole and why wasn’t it in it’s usual place. Some were actually admiring my badass arms and asking to see some pictures. I am confident with myself and with my sport, I don’t care what people might think, I’ve even told my boss about it and he’s cool. He still thinks he’s tougher than me because he trains for a triathlon but he doesn’t care at all if I pole or not.

I think I just feel sad because my mom is ashamed of one of the things I love the most and it is something I’m actually good at (well just not terrible). I’m really proud of my pole accomplishments and it would be nice if she was too.

[Danniacc47]

It took me months of practice to get the pencil. Spinning pole is really hard, my legs would swing sideways all the time. As the girls already told you, it’s core strength. Engage those abs, and don’t be so hard on yourself. We usually see here all those videos where girls are doing amazing stuff but you have to take into account that we only post the video where we actually got the move. I never post the videos where I’m just struggling and failing miserably. I have tons of those lol. We all struggle with this, take your time and try to focus on different moves, not just that one. If you work on other things you’ll develop the core and the pencil will become easier.

[Danniacc47]

I’ve never tried to drop (I’m too scared lol) but I can spin just fine, as long as the pole is clean I can spin without too much trouble. I’ve only had issues when I’ve got some grip aid residue in my hands and the pole is really hot, but as soon as I clean the pole and my hands I have no problems. Actually, more often than not, I have the opposite problem and slide too fast to the ground. I don’t think chrome would be too grippy but if I were you I would probably try to play with a chrome pole before buying one just in case.

[Danniacc47]

I have a 45mm chrome xpert xpole and I love it. I can actually grab it with my whole hand so when I’m doing an extended butterfly or the iguana mount or any moves where you have to rely solely on your hands it is easier. I’ve tried a couple of moves on a 50mm but I can’t hold to it firmly. I probably couldn’t do an iguana mount on a 50mm even if my life depended on it. Maybe it’s because I’m not used to it. The poles at the studio where I go are also 45mm. For the moves where you grip with your legs I’ve heard that the 50 mm is actually easier, i didn’t notice much of a difference in the legs, but for my hands 5mm it’s a huge difference. I would definitely go for the 45mm.

[Danniacc47]

Hi, I didn’t reply to your post earlier but you actually got me intrigued about EFT so I started digging. I’m actually reading The tapping solution right now lol. It does seem to work. I didn’t reply before because I don’t have any particular issue with my poling. I can obviously improve but I don’t feel bad about it. I’m fighting depression and anxiety so that’s what I’ve been tapping about since last week and I do feel better. Not perfect, but better. The thing is that EFT made me realize that I have a bunch of unresolved issues that I thought were long gone and they have EVERYTHING to do with my current situation so there’s still a lot of tapping yet to come for me.
But something really funny happened yesterday morning. When I woke up I thought I had caught the flu. I felt awful, my head was killing me, runny nose and I was sneezing like crazy. Then I thought “Why don’t I try to tap this out” So I did a couple of rounds and I’m perfectly fine now. Just two rounds of EFT was all that I needed and the flu was gone hahaha.

Ok but back to the subject, I read of several ladies who have left the pole for a while for whichever reason and now they can’t find the motivation to go back to it, or are scared to see how much strength/flexibility they have lost. Maybe you could make a video about that. I’m sure that would help a lot of people.

By the way, if you want to help me with my issues I’m up for it. Right now I’m doing this alone but I bet extra help can’t hurt. If you want to focus on the poling side with your sessions that’s perfectly cool too. In any case I have to thank you big time because if it wasn’t for you I would never have found about EFT, and as I already wrote, it IS helping me. It’s not magic and I still have lots to work on but it is helping THANK YOU

[Danniacc47]

wloren I can totally relate to what you are saying. I’m 5’2″ (1.58m) and for most of my adult life I weighed around 100 pounds (45 kg). I was super skinny and I didn’t like it. I ate a lot, seriously a lot and that didn’t do the trick. My friends told me all the time that I should stop complaining about not gaining weight because every one wants to look skinny. That made me angry because I didn’t like the way I looked. I thought I looked like I had an eating disorder or something. Anyway, when I started to pole initially I lost weight and I just thought “oh no, not again”, but I started to do more strength training and within a couple of months I regained the weight that I had lost and I’m actually heavier now (110 pounds/50 kg). The funniest part is that I actually lost 3% of body fat since march, so all the weight is muscle !!! I love the way my body looks now because before I thought I looked sickly skinny and now I still look slim but if you ask me to describe my body type I would say it’s athletic. I love it 😀

Anyway, my advice would be to do more strength training and increase the protein in your diet. Finally, be patient, there are some girls that bulk up in no time. It might take you several months but you’ll eventually see the results and we’ll be here to support you the whole time 😀

[Danniacc47]

@tigerlillies It must be hard for you not having any studios nearby and not knowing people in your state 🙁
I am not structured at all when it comes to home practice, but I find that posting my progress often, either here or on instagram, helps me stay motivated. The veneers are such an amazing family, they alway offer support and advice. I feel like I have a group of cheerleaders beside me even if they are not physically here. Maybe you could try that, I’ll be your cheerleader if you want 😀

[Danniacc47]

Veena you deserve a huge and special THANK YOU for creating this wonderful space. Thanks to you we can all share our love for pole and learn with your great lessons. Thanks to you we can share our passion with people from all over the world knowing that there will only be support and encouragement.

[Danniacc47]

Hi, I’m on instagram and I often post pole related stuff. I love to watch you guys on instagram as well. It is such an inspiration to me. I’m not advanced at all but I like to post my progress, my nickname in @danniacc47

[Danniacc47]

Your drawing was amazing and I’d love to have a drawing of me on the pole. Can I still send you some pictures?

[Danniacc47]

Thank you guys. I usually don’t record my practices but I think I’m going to do that more often. I normally don’t do it because I’m lazy and recording is a hassle, also because when I’m learning a new trick I can’t control very well in which direction I end up facing. I guess I will need to record that too in order to improve my positioning. How often do you actually record yourselves?

[Danniacc47]

No need to be embarrassed. It takes balls to post a video and you did great. Nice booty shake by the way. For your climb, try to keep your knees at the same level and back (so that the pole stays right between your knees). You have to be able to hold your whole weight with your legs. Keep the good work.