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I saw some of their stuff at a competition recently and the quality looked okay. I didn’t take a close look at the stitching but it didn’t jump out at me as being wonky. If you’re in the UK, you should be able to return anything you buy online/by post within 14 days if you aren’t happy or don’t want it under the Distance Selling act. Let us know if you do get one!
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Poor you! I don’t envy either situation that you’ve been put in. I’ve been fortunate that my parents have been supportive however I’ve introduced pole as “pole fitness” rather than “pole dance”. I’ve danced (ballet etc) since I was little so it wasn’t much of a surprise to them. I’ve also dabbled in aerial acrobatics which doesn’t have the same connotations as pole. If they had a problem with it, I suppose I would put it to them that they wouldn’t have an issue if I was doing gymnastics and pole is essentially the same to me. As others have said, its your body and pole makes you happy so they should accept it.
As for friends/social situations, I’ve heard all the jokes but I simply don’t react. They get bored and pole becomes old news very quickly. My boyfriend, like yours, is supportive and if any of his friends make fun, he tells them that they’re jealous and that they shouldn’t pick a fight with me because I’m stronger than he is so I could beat them to a pulp.
Stay strong and keep poling! Xx
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Aww, sensual. Sorry to hear that you’re suffering. I’ve had a mirena for about two years and I love mine. I do remember cramping up a lot when I first got it. The week or so afterwards were uncomfortable and for the first few months, my periods took a while to settle down. I tended to bleed less but cramp up more. I still have periods now but they’re very light. If you’re worried, I would approach your doctor – I’m sure that they won’t mind at all if you have concerns.
One thing on the strings… My doctor (a GP but previously a gynecologist) said that the strings are flexible so within a few months, they may curl up on themselves and won’t be detectable. This has happened to me but he’s said not to worry because I’ll know if I’ve perforated/its come out because I’ll get a major major bleed.
Hope that this helps. I really do love my mirena and all of the nurses I’ve met have them which makes me happy that I’ve gone for something that they’re happy with. Hope you’re feeling much better soon!
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Hey there 40andlovingit,
I can totally relate to your frustration. I find that the weak before my period, I’m really weak so I can’t do any power/stamina moves and then when I’m actually ‘on’, my body temperature goes through the roof and I’m slick and sweaty. My boyfriend has even noticed the change in my “pole moods” when I change from uber positive to down in the dumps about my lack of strength. All I can say is keep going and be patient with your body. I realise that this isn’t easy but, as the others have said, take the opportunity to work on your flexibility or just watch pole videos to keep you inspired.Don’t despair about how this might hold up your teaching. You WILL get through this and your experiences will help you to relate to your students when they’re having a hard time. Turn to your teachers for advice about sweatyness/grip. Your thigh grip will improve with time. If temperature is an issue, have you tried a cool pack between your thighs before you practise your pole sit to cool you down and limit sweat? I keep a towel to hand to wipe myself down too – gross but it goes in the wash after each practise session.
Stay positive if you can and don’t give up! Xx
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Hi Mechie! I feel your pain – it sounds like, as the girls have said, you’re suffering from ingrown hairs. Basically, the hairs are regrowing from the root and are getting caught under the skin as they grow which causes irritation. This has been the bane of my life since I started waxing my bikini line. I’ve been doing it for myself for a few years but I recently went to a professional and she recommended moisturising at least once a day and exfoliating twice a week. I’ve been exfoliating more than this and it has actually irritated my skin more. I decided to go to a professional prior to a performance for peace of mind but I also wanted to try hot waxing which helped my ingrowns. Hope that you’re back to normal soon!
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Don’t want to hijack but I have an IUD (mirena). It doesn’t completely stop my monthly visitor but they’re a lot lighter and it has the bonus that I can’t forget a pill or whatever.
I’ve also been curious about menstrual cups but have been too much of a scaredy cat to try one plus the one off cost puts me off (silly, I know!). Good to hear that others are using it and their feedback!
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Hi Hannah!
Sorry to hear that you’re having trouble with your wrist. I had a similar problem about a year ago – I didn’t fall from the pole or anything but I developed an ache on the outside of my wrist. It was sore when I moved it and I’d sometimes get pain after poling. I thought it would go away so I took it as easy as I could (easier said than done!) but it didn’t improve. I went to a physio in the end and he diagnosed me with a compressed (ulnar) nerve which required me to wear a brace and rest for a few weeks. I would recommend resting for a while if at all possible. Wrists are temperamental and mine has taken a while to get back to 100%. Seek professional advice if you can – I saw an NHS physio (as I’m UK based) really quickly but pharmacists can be of some help too.
That aside, I now do wrist flex exercises on a regular basis to keep it strong. I rest my forearm on a table with my wrist dangling over the edge and flex up or down in every position possible. Its quite a small movement but it makes a big difference. I use small dumbells or a spare section of pole as a weight but bare in mind that a) its a good idea to start with a low weight and work up and b) don’t do strengthening exercises until after you’ve rested or you may inflame it more. I also carry a tennis ball around with me for squeezing to improve my grip strength and I try to incorporate some wrist rolls into it while I’m doing it.
Hope that this helps and that you’re better really soon!
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You’ve had tons of great advice already. I can sympathise with the body issues – I think we all have them, right? I would say, he’s asked you to dance for him because he wants to see YOU. He obviously loves your body and the way you dance. He’s not going to know if a spin isn’t perfect or a transition is a little sloppy. Guaranteed the only thing running through his mind will be “Damn, my girlfriend is HOT!”. I’ve found that keeping things simple and sticking to spins and floorwork seems to work best. Inverts and tricks are great but I don’t really think of them as that sexy. Each to their own though! Turn the lights down low, pick a song that you love and have fun strutting your stuff! Hope that, when you’re feeling confident enough to go for it, it goes well!
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@Chemgoddess: if you’re struggling with gripping the silks, it might be worth asking your aerial teacher if you can learn the same tricks with rope instead – the ones I’ve used are a similar thickness to pole 🙂
As for learning other things, pole has inspired me to try static trapeze, aerial hoop and silks/rope. Aerial is so awesome – I’d recommend it to anyone. I can only afford one lesson a month but its the highlight of my month and I really look forward to it. My aerial teacher has tried pole and struggles because it doesn’t ‘give’ like the ropes of a trapeze or the curve of a hoop does. I also do pilates, jive and ballet for a bit of a change and cycle about 40 miles a week. I want to be all round fit and everything I do seems to help pole. I’d love to try burlesque to increase my sensuality and musicality when I’m dancing and am also hoping to take a massage course from next month which, I hope, will be useful for injuries and might even help my grip too!
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Please don’t despair. I had to take two months off because I’d compressed my ulnar nerve. I did pilates and went to the gym instead but I worried that I’d loose my pole strength and ability. Quite honestly, I was better when I came back because my overall fitness was better. Rest, do other things and it’ll pay dividends when you come back to pole 🙂