[ItsMeELeigh]

I was a dancer in a strip club for 4 years in college and 2 years after I left the industry is when I discovered pole  (there was only 1 pole in my club and we all HATED that stage).  In fact,  I'm one of the few girls around who actually WAS a stripper – so I feel like I have an especially keen insight on the subject.

Pole dancing in the strip club is based on 2 things – Men and Money.  Period.  You do the moves that the men like and then they give you the money.  Girls don't work this hard in the club because it makes you sweaty and smelly and causes your makeup to run and it's tough to sell private dances in this condition.  😉  Girls don't go upside down in the club because nude, upside down boobies are not cute (apparently) – but in the pole dancing world, the invert is something we all aspire toward.  Instead of it being about the men and the money, suddenly it's all about US – the women.

In the strip club, the men own the pole.  In the pole dancing world, women own the pole.  Am I making sense?

So, as much as we try to say "it's just excercise" or "it doesn't have to be sexual" and even though these statements can be true but  …my question is – even if it IS sexual…so what? 

As a woman, you have a right to be sexy, to be sexual, to be fit, to have fun, to strive for your goal and share it with others.  Pole will ALWAYS be sexy because it was built to be exactly that.

I hope your boyfriend can learn to dig it…and understand that you feeling sexy, doing what you love and being happy is not only good for you…it's good for HIM! 

So, I guess I'm really not here to give you any advice on your boyfriend – just here to give you support, whatever you decide  to do and let you know that you rock, no matter what.

I hope you two can reach a compromise that keeps you both comfortable and working toward your dreams.