[JeHanne]

Hi There! You came to the right place! You have to do what you and enjoy and like and be confident in your skin. Others are always ambitious to push their hang ups on you as judgement. 

I do not think you can 'stop' comments or looks. You CAN control how you reply to them and how you handle yourself during those situations.

I have had so many comments. One of the most surprising was that "I am too intelligent to do… (long pause) That". That?!? So taboo it can't even be mentioned in a sentence… really? So in addition to being whores and easy I guess pole dancers are considered dumb too?!? Not acceptable!!!

You will get tons of practice to find the reply that works the best for you in most situations. My personal reply to comments is that dance is something I enjoy and that I love it. When people start with the ridiculous talk I tell them it takes immense strength and skill to do this type of dancing. If they go on and on… and they often do and bring in talk of exotic dancers… I tell them I respect women that do this for a living. It is extremely difficult and that they are working hard and making a living and supporting them selves. That normally shuts down the conversation. 

I would much rather enjoy my pole than stop something that brings me so much joy and health benefits because some judgmental people will have a problem with it. I love love LOVE my pole. 

Rock your pole and make no excuses for what you do. 

Welcome to the forum!

 

[JeHanne]

Thanks Curlsgrrl! I am going to try the bouncing shake… I think I can… I think I can… I think I can! 

[JeHanne]

Check out Veena's booty lessons!!! I loved how Karol rocked that booty! So fun!!!

[JeHanne]

Confidence is extremely important!!! If you do not have it entirely use the 'fake it until you make it' technique. 

Stay within the moves you are comfortable with. Have a few 'fall back' moves to go back to if you start to feel nervous or forget what you were going to do. You can do some slow back arches, touch your leg, twirl your hair, brush against his knee… you get the idea. 

It is your dance, you are in control. He will love it! Have fun.

: )

[JeHanne]

I have an X Stage lite and love it! There is wobble on the pole as Veena says because it is not secured at the top. I got the lite variety because it is a lower profile and also lighter… I drag my pole stuff around myself (too stubborn to ask for help) so lighter was a good thing for me. I like how well engineered it is and is nice looking. It also has stabilizing legs and pegs where you can weight it down under the stage plates (making it even more secure).

The stage size when doing floor work does take some planning or accommodation. I am over six feet tall in heels so when I do splits my ankles hang off. I also can't really do a lot of push up type moves because I run out of space. I just keep that in mind when playing. 

One really nice thing about it is that you do not have to worry about finding a joist. That's sweet! If you have ceiling height less than 10 feet… like I do…  you have to shorten it. Boo! 

The wobble and the stage raised from the floor surface are really the only things that I have noticed that make it different from an Xpole or permanent mount pole. The spin is smooth on it.

Have you contacted X Pole to discuss your concerns regarding weight maximums for their products? They would be a great point of contact to discuss your concerns with since they should know the engineering tolerances.

Wishing you the best of luck in finding the perfect pole for your needs!

 

[JeHanne]

This is great news that some very dangerous conditions have been ruled out and that the enzymes did not increase. 

Congrats on your pole progress and finding a way to work with so much 'worry' energy. 

Keep us updated! : )

[JeHanne]

Thanks! I'll be trying it. : )

[JeHanne]

Thanks lilblondie!!! Adding Greek Yogurt to my list, great ideas to use it. I was just thinking yesterday how I could make tuna/chicken salad without using mayo.

Ooooooh… so many options! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif

[JeHanne]

Thanks Rocknbody for the recipe!!! I added spinach to my grocery list. I can handle microwaving… that sounds great! 

I added tuna pouches to my list too. I like the flavored tuna pouches… even though sometimes they do remind me of cat food. 

Will look for pure bars too for a grab and go snack. Great suggestions all, thanks!

[JeHanne]

I am spending time doing strength training too but instead of weights I am doing full body exercises like plank, pilates ab moves, and Veena's strength lesson! Pole holds and climbs… things like that. I am stronger now than when I started but a long way to go. 

I like what you said about hopefully one day the moves themselves will be the strength training… I am sure looking forward to that!

: )

[JeHanne]

Hi There! You will find many helpful and encouraging people here. Welcome! 

[JeHanne]

Low lift spin!!! It looks so cool but I feel like I have four left feet every time I try it. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif

[JeHanne]

Thank you for all the suggestions! I just got a protein powder but when I use that up will look into others. Poletein? Sounds very interesting!

I picked up cottage cheese, jerky and some nuts. Will add those into the mix. 

Thanks!!!

 

[JeHanne]

I have an xpole and my ceiling is 8 feet. I install it and take it down myself. I read the instructions about 20 times to be extra sure I was doing it the way they recommend. 

: ) 

[JeHanne]

Hi Chemgoddess1,

I am in the USA.

That is a great idea… vanilla whey with OJ… I could shake it up. Those are good magazines, have not subscribed to them in forever. 

Thanks for the suggestions.