Jemmie
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Ok, I just thought the tone of this thread was too negative towards a guy we don't even know. From what I've read in your post, I think you should try communicating with him again. Maybe the communication before was not effective. Actually, I can understand where he's coming from so that's why I'm like this. Not that I was like that before, I can just see things from his POV. Like someone said, it takes time for some people to come around. You decide whether you're willing to wait or not. Also, he may never come around. And if that is too big a problem FOR YOU then YOU decide if you want to continue this relationship. It won't be that he was a bad boyfriend if you decide to breakup (that's how you guys are making it sound on here), it would be that you guys just weren't meant to be….you won't be happy with him, but someone else will. I'm not saying that's always the case, where a guy who doesn't do well with one person will always do well with another…..some people really do have traits that will not work in a healthy relationship. But he sounds pretty human to me.
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Ok, I just thought the tone of this thread was too negative towards a guy we don't even know. From what I've read in your post, I think you should try communicating with him again. Maybe the communication before was not effective. Actually, I can understand where he's coming from so that's why I'm like this. Not that I was like that before, I can just see things from his POV. Like someone said, it takes time for some people to come around. You decide whether you're willing to wait or not. Also, he may never come around. And if that is too big a problem FOR YOU then YOU decide if you want to continue this relationship. It won't be that he was a bad boyfriend if you decide to breakup (that's how you guys are making it sound on here), it would be that you guys just weren't meant to be….you won't be happy with him, but someone else will. I'm not saying that's always the case, where a guy who doesn't do well with one person will always do well with another…..some people really do have traits that will not work in a healthy relationship. But he sounds pretty human to me.
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I'm wondering what you believe would be a good compromise in this situation? Do you think there can even be a compromise, where she can stay true to herself but meet her boyfriend halfway? These questions aren't rhetorical, could someone please answer.
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@chipandchar, lol that's cute. I should look out for potential poles then. Yeah I was wondering why I'm not getting bruises. I was afraid of them but when I didn't get them it was like I didn't get my badge of honour LOL. When I climb I try avoiding using my feet because I really don't want to cut them. But I KNOW I shouldn't do that.
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I've been waiting for when I can use Veena's lessons. I can't bring a pole to my parents' home so I have to wait til I move out OR try to persuade my boyfriend to have one in his place once he gets one. The cost for the pole is another thing I'm worried about, I'm not working yet. So it's going to be a while but I am planning to get these lessons. I like that most of her beginner moves are strengthening moves and then she moves onto spins in intermediate. I also like how she explains body position on the pole.
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I actually seem to be doing alright in the class. I can climb because I have good upper body strength. I couldn't do the carousel the first time but I got it the second day that I tried. I CANNOT do the fan kick for the life of me. There are some moves I can do and some I cannot. But I don't seem to bruise easily and I seem to have the strength for it. I have never gone home aching. But I still want to learn slowly, just be make sure that I won't cause injury and that I actually learn good technique and not just do it however. I'm surprised how well I'm taking it, but I wonder if the reason why I'm not aching is because I don't know how to engage the right muscles. I really use a lot of my upper body strength rather than my thighs or abs.
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We did make up a routine that incorporates the moves, last class was the only full "moves" day. But I'm not comfortable with it mentally, because I've been watching this site for about a year I have certain standards and precautions in my head, so I'm going to take the time off and seek other options.
I also wanted an activity outside of work/school where I can be around people so I was really looking forward to this as a bonus. The ladies are cool, but I guess I gotta find another activity for friends lol. Kinda sad about that part. Anyway, thanks for the advice everybody.
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@cocoa…but I wear latex gloves a lot because I'm in a lab so I was confused on what to think. Allergic on the inside but not on the out?? Silicone condoms, I will research that. Thanks
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Oh, just wondering but can condoms give infections?? I think it’s happened to me. He would wear a condom and two days later my lady business giving me itchy problems. But it doesn’t happen all the time. I’m just curious.
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And the two or three times a year…..I don’t count so I don’t know if its that much. All I know is I wud get treated and a month or two or 3 later I would be back in the doctor’s office. I mean, I went to the gyno a little afta I finished the meds for another infection that was prescribed by a general practioner so it mustve been around 2 weeks after. That was how bad it was.
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I had this problem about one year ago. I’m on birth control too so I don’t wear a condom (because it burns and makes me dry). I use to go to a general doctor and he wouldn’t look inside me, just hear my symptoms, say what it sounded like and treated me for that. I’m not sure if I got med for my bf at that time. But it kept coming back. I got frustrated and went to a gyno instead. He took a look and he said I had two things….I can’t remember the names but the first one was an infection I treated a week or two before. He said there was still some there and another type of bacteria. He treated me for both and that was the longest I went without an infection. I get them now again, probably 2 or 3 times a year if so much. But whenever I do I go to the gyno, even if its more expensive it’s worth it. Another thing, I am SURE that he would write me a prescription for my bf. Oh, I think the general doc (they were different but they were from the same place) had started to do that after a while (I mean writing a prescription for my bf). So make sure u get an internal exam and that your bf gets treated because its very likely that he’s reinfecting you. I know how it feels. I thought something was really wrong with me and I was very worried. Thank God for my gyno.
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I am actually wondering the same thing. I am from Jamaica but a friend of mine told me she always gets her stuff from there and has it sent to a US address. I asked her today if she has ever had any problems with them in terms of delivery and she said no. But I read the same comments that you read so I would really like to know. Oh the only thing was that she had bought a white dress and the material was pretty thin. That was the only problem I got from her that she has had with it.
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OK! I started the 6 weeks program and didn't even make it through one week (my excuse is that I like to strech when nobody can see me). So this is a great new years resolution! Stick to it for 6 weeks, and I finally have a camera so I can track my progress
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Ok great! I know how to reply! Yes, he doesn't say it but from how he is acting now I am SURE that he will get jealous if I spend a lot of time pole dancing in the future. He is trying to make it go on the back burner, saying how it won't be for the next 5 years blah blah when I have children I won't have time blah blah. If I call it anything more than a hobby he makes a joke out of it as if I'm unbelievable. And today he said I should belly dance instead.
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I haven't started poling but my bf is a bit annoyed by all the time I spend looking up poling. Right now I just want to test that I know how to reply in forums (I can't find a "send" or "submit" button)