JhennD
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Everyone- thank you for sharing and Thank you for being a strong, unique individual to provide for your family, community, those who benefit from your service and dedication. I appreciate it all.
Happy Thanksgiving.
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I know how it is about stimgas so I have (till recently) since junior high school (15+y) had a knowledge that
1) Life is not fair, no where in the objectives of Life did it say so
2) Being most neutral is a way of safety, and survival (career, personal feelings being hurt, actual targeted victim)
I want to sort of ask- Should I revamp my facebook and de-personal- make less identifiable about activities that are or could be biased of the opinions and 'morals' of the U.S. MIlitary. Or should I do it already, because 'I know better'? Change username on here, delete or make more private comments and shares of facebook, youtube,pinterest, etc.
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Studio owner- lead instructor : no. But she mentions ‘ YouTube and other poler videos’
My friend instructors I introduced them to Veena. In class they ask for me to review a spin, and modification – ‘can’t remember how I should do the grip on…. Jhenn get on Veena’.
I like being at the studio for ideas, correction, ‘you too?’ moments, and now currently a pole. I can’t (fear of ethical agreement) for privacy post videos, so studio is a great feedback. -
Agree: with Arnica – I was prescribed that for some cosmetic enhancements, and LOVE that I can buy ‘industrial’ strength at the spa boutique counter – just walking in and asking. Either creme or pill for- pills I would suggest if you have to get rid of a big bruise for a wedding or special event.
I hated my thighs before poling, now I love that I respect my thighs and their growing strength (they’ll modify the shape & size depending on the moves practiced frequently.
Frequent practice – everything in life needs tolerance build up. And if you don’t practice for a while- you might get bruised all over again.
Every body has different pain tolerance. Sometimes I can practice over & over- sometimes after 2 tries I need/want to take a break.
Listen to your body. You can get hurt with any new form of exercise. We all have stories or heard horror stories. -
I remember dropping in on a first timers’ class a girl asked “Is it just hype to scare everyone away from trying ‘pole fitness’ that bruises may occur? Like was exercise program results in bruising?!”
At least she was laughing after she found her first big greenish black bruise, didn’t know she got till she mentioned soreness in that spot.
I’m usually always happy when I’m sore after a pole workout, for me it means I can only get better, and I shall! -
Same boat. Every time I have enough for purchase SOMETHING happens.
Funny in the long run it would be cheaper to just buy one. But it’s ‘priceless’ to get approval (first). -
How People Change = Insight Effort AND Will.
I have this on so many things I can look at daily, and sometimes I forget.
It is hard to live with emotions sometimes and it’s harder to live productively with chemical imbalances that allow the shift of emotions take over inappropriately. If you can remember what it means to be a person who can feel wonderful, safe, loved, feels certain. You feel-think-be-positive easier; and its easier to recover when a situation can make you feel just the opposite.
I feel unsafe when life challenges me to reevaluate who I am and where I’m ‘going’. I feel threaten and become (politely) unfair person to those around/care for me.
This could be it.
This would be a good exercise for you, your partner, your relationship: take some time to write out a list of questions and answer them yourselves separately, then exchange the unanswered list & answer the others’ list, then meet together and discuss. With these questions ask and answer life, relationship, ‘just because’ items you want and need to know. For example: Do you know a plan (financially, emotionally,etc) if you or your partner lost their job? How would you want your partners plan to be ideally?
When stressed out- do you have the awareness that its an external influence? Does your partner pick up on that- would you want the relationship to be that intimate?
What is savings? When is it okay to use and not?
Ask any question. This would be good knowing your plan, boundaries, and what you would be willing to accept. Don’t forget it ask and answer “why” after the answer- quantify your reasonings!
This exercise is one exercise done in couples therapy. It is free now (as in no cost at all for a therapist). It shows to both of you that you are willing to take the time to do this. It can be in months and be done regularly if desired. My sister asked for me to compose a list of questions for her and her (first husband to be) he thought it was ridiculous and didn’t do it. After 3 years their marriage fell apart. The second husband to be did the exercise with her- and it was a GREAT exercise that enhanced their relationship they both recommend it to others prior to marriage.
The thing I would suggest is take about a month, be honest, make sure when discussing the list- make it a safe place to be in. Go over, financial, children, employment, health, moral, social, life, family, friends, fidelty, religious/spiritual topics. These topics are most root cause of reasons couples/ or partnered people go to therapy.
For me I like to know my partner puts the relationship first over me. I put the relationship over him/her first. That means we are willing to do what’s right, not always what feels good-lazy-in a slump.
Be you! -
Date Night Tina Fey & Steve Carrell both doing body wave/ rolls
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Always wanted bling heels – but do they scratch, indent the pole?
Some girls @ my studio have some heels with (already rhinestoned) them. When they pop off I occasionally get pits of them in my knees from floor work during ‘musical poles’ exercises. Hate that.
But wondered if they’re mainly for shows/performances or whenever you feel like it? -
And just because you are not receiving what you need of the love you need, it doesn't mean you're non deserving or going about it wrong to achieve it.
Sometimes I would pay for myself and boyfriend to get a couples massage together for the intimacy of physical touch. It wasn't sexual, it was therapeutic. It is so for so many people who don't have that part in their lives.
I have finally grown up, for me that is self awareness and not being ashamed about that awareness. It's sometimes on the back burner – I put my job ahead, others happiness, family issues ahead. But when I can and do evaluate myself on those items and realize I can change- physically, emotionally, philosophically. I'm proud I have that. I can realize I love myself, and I'm not doing things that prove it- or I am doing things that others can see I do.
I agree this community of Venners is amazingly open and supportive, thank you all for that!
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I feel love is a personal value. Only you can define, qualify, quantify that word's meaning.
Ask yourself this question- if someone said 'I love you' What do you think that means? If you were to say or feel 'I love__' What do you think that means?
Remember the saying " I love bacon so much" (yes I do because I said it at breakfast) and my coworker laughs 'Then marry it, if you love it so much!'
See how shallow and loose we throw around words and meanings?
For the longest time my bf and I would say 'I appreciate you' because the L word is like taboo in his family (never heard it exchanged) it was nice to hear 'You know I actually Love you, right?' In his family, emotional exchange and display is a no-no. And his mom has said "Real women don't need emotional or physical reassurance in a relationship." I was floored.
But I DO. And I am okay with needing, wanting, desiring conectiveness. I'm okay with others not.
I guess the moral of my rant is I think it varies with people. I feel there's nothing wrong with one way or another. MY way is soft-core physical and emotional expression.
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Cute! I would splash some of my personality and sometimes add different laces, colourful leg warmers/garters, tights/ fishnets underneath. Keep them clean from fingerprints if you dance in/under black-UV light, they might show up.
Have fun with them. Dance in whatever makes you feel -the way you want to feel. I don’t wear girly shoes at all. But for pole I’m ‘I gotta get these glittery or rhinestone ones, etc!’ -
My bad kitty Brazilian shorts & Victoria’s Secret boy shorts (yes boy shorts!) are so yummy my bum bum eats them. Ie: I have a large bum bum and full coverage is IMPOSSIBLE.
I’m 5’9″ and 155 lbs, Brazilian Butt Lift video has done wonders!
Some shorts look like thongs but are not. -
I’m sorry you felted this way! Feelings are your own, so however you feel- that’s okay. What you do with the feelings- that’s when (hopefully) rationality comes into play.
I believe there are always risks in misinterpretation so I will do my best to protect myself. That’s all I can do.
Remember feelings and emotions are human, rational is humane. -
Ohhh! Lucky! If you decide 38 PS. Definitely update with your experience.
If I could get 2 poles this would be it.