JoleneBell
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A stationary bike! Great idea! I’m going to look into that! Thanks 🙂
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Wow. I can’t believe I didn’t see that she has routines! Boy do I feel silly. Thanks!
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*grabs a pole and creates movement using the pole as a center on a regular basis
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Snobbery aside, I think anyone who grabs a pole and creates movement using the pole as a center can call themselves a pole dancer.
I guess I tend to say "I pole," or, "I pole dance," rather than, "I'm a pole dancer." I feel like saying "I'm a pole dancer," is similar to saying "I'm a stay at home mom," as though the term defines who you are, and there's so much more to us!
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Welcome welcome 🙂
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Thanks so much for the encouraging words, everyone!
I actually do think that it is the wide angle lens in my webcam, because I don't feel that way about myself when I'm looking in my bedroom mirror. The camera seems to seriously add 20 pounds. Thanks to everyone who pointed this out!
p.s. I've been watching my work and can see how I actually have fantastic form and pole comes more naturally than I thought, which distracts a little from the chubbiness.
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Wow! Thanks for all of the contributions of knowledge, you guys!
I am, as a matter of fact, hypothyroid. I was diagnosed a year ago and I am on levothyroxine (a thyroid support medication, and according to the most recent blood tests, my thyroid is now stable. A plug: Please "like" my Facebook page, Thyroid Disorders Awareness), progesterone and testosterone as well (hypothyroid issues cause hormone issues). The progesterone has been adjusted repeatedly over the last year, it's tricky to get to just the right dose. Too much can make you draggy and lethargic, too little can not help much at all. Switching up the doses has messed with my cycle for sure, causing me to bleed during ovulation sometimes, and have premature periods. Don't worry though, it's a process and it is gradually getting straightened out.
Therefore, Crystabel, I think you have a point when it comes to hormones. This may explain why my weight keeps fluctuating so extremely! It's likely mostly water weight changing as my hormones are trying to keep up with things. I happened to get on the scale this morning ( I know, I know!) and I have dropped two pounds now all of a sudden.
I stay away from bread (carbs, as you know, turn to sugar in the body, causing insulin to spike and some of it stores as fat) as much as I can, though not completely (I don't really believe in 100% eliminating anything from your diet). Once I started doing that, I was amazed at how the weight's been dripping off! And let me tell you, carbs have always been my best friend. Potato chips, pasta, pastries, french bread… oh my goodnaaaassssss.
ANYWAY, it seems that carbs were my Kryptonite.
I think Veena put it well in this thread, to look at the long term decline, like the stock market. (Or something like that 🙂 )
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I have always had an extensive knowledge of exercise and nutrition, it's just that putting it into practice has been a yo-yo my entire life. I learned a few months ago that being fit is very much about how we see ourselves, and how we eat reflects what we believe we're -worth-. The worth concept -really- clicked for me. I discovered that I was trying to find joy through eating, and it can't be done. I LOVE carbs and fatty food! It is a happy feeling for a moment, but then you get to wear the effects! Depressing in the long run, and not who I want to be.
I need to state that I STAY AWAY from processed foods as much as I can now, really most things that come in a wrapper. I love peppers with hummus, for example. I snack as healthfully as I can, but maybe I'm enjoying too much chocolate recently :/
I have indeed noticed increased definition in my legs from all of the walking, plus I have the treadmill set at a 1% incline so I'm sure that helps. I am sort of wowed by my legs now. Even my husband, when he wraps his arms around me, is consistently commenting on how much more "skinny" I'm feeling all the time.
It's just my jeans, and that damn scale. My bigger jeans are getting big on me, don't get me wrong. I pretty much walk right out of them these days, and I'm CONSTANTLY pulling them up. But I'm at this in-between place now where I'm still not fitting back into my old jeans. I want them to fit! Now!
I guess it is all in my head. I feel like I'm doing enough that I should be losing pounds at a steady rate, with no obstructions. That's not reality I suppose.
Rain and Ninja, you make great points when you say to stay away from the scale in this process. It's so hard to stay away from it when I want to see progress! I should ask my husband to tuck it away some where and then bring it out two months from now?
Chem, I actually do practice not eating within to hours before going to bed, but I probably need to become a Nazi about it because on occasion I will have a snack then.
Angel, you're right. I need to just keep going and loving myself the way I am. The pounds will melt off in time, no rush, right? I'm not in a race.
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I'd like to add that I started at 15 to 20 minutes of walking, three days per week. Now I'm up to 50 minutes, mostly five days per week.
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Bettie Page makes a good point.
I just had it out with my mom's cousin over pole. She truly. Doesn't. Get it. She was even saying that a pole resembles a man's penis, according to her husband, which is why they're used in strip clubs to lure men in. WOW. Yes, IN STRIP CLUBS they can be used that way! She really and truly believes that pole equals sex. Period. There was no reasoning with her.
How do I get to the point of complete calm when dealing with this ignorance? Does it come with time? I am amazed at how outraged and genuinely hurt I am over this. I guess because this cousin is an older lady, and so sweet, and I love her to pieces, and she's really been there for me in hard times. I just took it very personally.
She apologized, said she didn't want a fight, and that she would never comment about it again. I'm just sad that when I tried opening her eyes a little she refused.
How do I get to the place where I take this stuff in stride?
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CapFeb… you’re awesome, first of all. Glad I added you on FB. Second, yes, it does sound as though she is filled with “Rightness.”
I try to be gracious with people and educate them, but I think pole is definitely going to weed folks out of my life. Or at least off my FB list. I can see what Pixie, meant about creating a separate FB, but I also share her opinion that we should be able to be ourselves and not worry about it. I’ve chosen to take the latter approach.
The negativity is already draining and it only started yesterday! And I do mean draining! I’ve been reading this stuff to my husband and he’s quite surprised and agrees that it’s not necessary to have to deal with it.
I’m a firm believer in authenticity and really don’t want to ‘edit’ who I am for the benefit of someone’s ignorance.
Can I say you all are outstanding? I appreciate each and every one of you ladies. Thanks for being in my life, even if merely through words. -
Thanks for all of your input, friends! I have made a post in Notes on Facebook to discuss this issue and point out the double standards.
Thank you, Kyrsten, for sharing the Michelle Shimmy quote, since I used it in my post!
Here's the link, if you'd care to read 🙂
https://www.facebook.com/notes/jolene-frid/naked-or-nearly-naked/10151461742179961
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Physical Loves:
1. I love my curvy legs. I can't believe the definition they are getting since I started working out two months ago! I just did a double take today when I saw their reflection in a glass door!
2. I love my feet… I actually have sensual feet! My husband loves them.
3. I love my hourglass shape, and how much hotter it's getting each week 🙂
Pole-Related Loves:
1. I love that my enthusiasm for pole and my "Just one more spin!" quickies at class made the others grin and laugh.
2. I love that I can step around the pole delicately and get that momentum like I've been doing it for a long time, and that the gallop spin is becoming perfected in place of the advanced chair. I'll shortly be renowned for the most perfect gallop spin.
3. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that I've gone from APPALLING insecurity and awkwardness in those mirrors, to BOOTAY SHORTS (for the first time in my life!) and CONFIDENCE! I was told it would happen. I hung in there until it did. <3
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Pixie, that’s an excellent idea! Rockstar, thanks for the thoughts. It really is hard for people to accept! 🙁
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Thanks everyone for the valuable input!
I meant Jemilla, not Jenyne, sorry about that!
I'll definitely be getting Veena's lessons. I appreciate you all!