JoleneBell
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Oh! And I forgot to say that I'm a Christian too! My family and I are very involved in church, I'm on the prayer team, my husband and I lead small groups, etc. But fortunately the circle of people I do know so far from this church are non-legalistic. I guess I'll find out true colors once I "come out," so to speak.
I share Olivia's opinion that some women are jealous of women who are confident and capable of something they are not. Keep that in mind.
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I also struggle with whom to tell about my newfound passion. And I do mean passion. I'm scrambling to figure out how to purchase a pole (they're so expensive!) because I can't stand not being able to pole when I get up in the morning!
I've told a few people, but not many. I'm a very open person and when I'm excited about something, I want to share it with everyone. Unfortunately, most of whom I've shared it with assume automatically that I'm doing it for sexual reasons for my husband and I. Sure, that will play a part eventually, but I'm really just doing it for me, because it's a blast, a great way to get in shape, and I want to perfect it! I even told my hairdresser, who's a very cool laid back lady, and she was like "Wow, you're telling me this?" As though I was sharing with her some kinky sex fetish! It's hard to not deflate when someone has no clue what it's really about. And then, when you try to educate them on the fitness aspect, it sounds as though you're defending yourself. I share portableninja's idea. I've decided to not really "come out" about it until I can remotely kick ass at it. I know for a fact that at that point, I won't care as much.
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Oh duh. I was going to post the link and forgot. Here it is:
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Thank you Brandi! Verticali, I took your advice and searched YouTube. I DID find a completely inspiring video of a woman who took video clips of her progress. The change is amazing! You watch her gradually change over time from just starting, to becoming all whimsical and confident. I literally watched with my mouth open as she got better and better. Just what I needed!
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Furthermore, I AM doing this for me and who cares what anyone else thinks? I’m going to go back to that class without the self consciousness and have an even better time. It’s all about me and getting better and better. You’ve all been a huge help. I’m overwhelmed by the encouragement. Thanks again!:
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Thanks SO much everyone! You are all so right. I have the right to feel comfy in my own skin. I need to start now and grow the quality of not comparing. Something i hadn’t really realized before is that half the girls were wearing t shirts and sweats, even though the studio suggests shorts and a tank. Puts it in perspective that they were likely very self conscious as well.