Kira
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you don’t sound crazy or selfish at all! The way I see it we only have 1 life and I’m always scared of missing out experiences. As long as it doesn’t harm anyone and common sense says ‘do it’ then I do what I feel. You sound like you want everything to change at once though, it may be better to do what Cherished suggested and start in small steps. Write a list of what you want to achieve/change and slowly work your way through that list. Keep a journal and write down your thoughts and feelings, it’s very cathartic. The internet is an amazing resource – you can study and learn for free – see if fitness really is your ‘thing’ by reading all the forums and academic journals online and if you still want to go for it maybe sign up with a reputable online course? Once you have that you could maybe dedicate 1 or 2 days/nights to teaching fitness to improve your self confidence/gain a good reputation and see where to go from there? I’m sorry if it all sounds like ‘drop everything and focus on yourself’ because I’m not married (though I have a long term bf and he’s really laid back and supportive of what I do) and don’t have kids so I may have a more free approach to how I would go about change. But, food for thought! 🙂
I love this Veena community, a few years back I was struggling whether to go for a career change going from a full time ‘career’ job to part time and self employment and the support from others here was overwhelming. I am sure you will get the help and support you are looking for here 🙂
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one example of inspiring social media are the hilarious videos studio 409 uploads. I haven’t seen a video from her recently but her past ones are always inspiring!! she really charts her struggles and efforts that go into moves. Love her!
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It can be so inspiring when you’re in a pole rut or want to explore different shapes – a lot of the things I try are from polers I follow. It can become discouraging if you are heavily involved in social media and cannot easily take a break from it.
1 of my poler friends is an instructor and is well known in the community and she has said she feels overwhelmed by all these moves of the moment etc. but feels pressured to ‘keep up’ or become lost in the crowd. I guess it is more important for her than for an average poler like me – she needs her name out there so any potential students will know her. She doesn’t compete so word of mouth/reputation via sharing 15sec clips or the latest power combo gets her those likes and shares. It’s worked out really well for her.
For a lot of us – as much as we’d love to – it’s simply not possible to watch all the videos that people post every day. I think due to this we have developed short attention spans – I think Aerial Amy posted a status about that once upon a time – and if you’re not doing something deemed ‘crazy’ then people will stop watching. If people don’t get something out of a video they will not care – they want moves they can try, some crazy flip or bend they can share.
All the elite polers want to stay well known and so are in a battle with each other to come across as the ‘go to’ poler to see new tricks or combos. There are a lot of polers whose dream it is to become ‘famous’ and so they can travel and teach workshops and the easiest way is via social media. Its happened already to a few polers I’ve followed from the start – they’ve never competed and they have confessed that they don’t ‘do dance’ yet they have thousands of fans simply by posting tricks. It’s all just a popularity battle at the end of the day. Very very rarely do the elite post videos of pole fails or them struggling to get a move and it’s ESPECIALLY annoying when they post ‘got it on the first try!’ and I believe that’s the danger of posting publicly – all we ever see nowadays are the results and never the journey and it’s a shame 🙁 that’s why I love watching the videos on here because it’s real women struggling with moves, showing the REALITY of what pole involves!
If you’re not interested in fame or any of that then social media can be very inspiring as you can pick and choose what you want to see/share/post and it can be a huge boost to your pole vocabulary. If you are interested in joining this fame circle then… good luck to you. Sorry if this is all a ramble, just typing what I’m thinking haha
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I have a reply! thanks LolaSlaytor – Collette emailed me personally about it and no hard feelings. It was just none of her team notified me of the situation. It’s all sorted now 🙂 x
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Golden diva – love your thoughts! I actually just seen someone post a photo of a move of the moment and they commented that when they had tried it yesterday they fell but they wanted a photo so did it again with an incorrect technique which got them into that move. They actually said that! I mean…is it really wworth it? :/
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They had told me that setting up the Skype lesson & membership would be sorted out at their end (they took my username) but I’ve not heard anything for well over a month now. I’m not friends with Felix personally on FB and her manager is also the manager of P&A so there’s only so many people I can contact.
amiloo – it’s the goodie bag that they’ve finally sent. They originally ‘sent’ me it back at the beginning of June but the tracking showed it never moved anywhere so I asked them about it and got a follow up email that just said ‘PoleandAerial has sent you a package’. Hopefully that will arrive soon – I think it’s just passed customs.
grayeyes – they don’t have a contact number. All I can see on their website is email address or Facebook page… they are located in California (I think) and I’m in UK so I wouldn’t want to waste money on calling overseas…. thank you for your help though. Maybe just persistence is the only way! :/ I hate being that kind of person…
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All I ever see on my newsfeed are bendy moves or moves where it looks like your joints are going to snap at any second. I physically shudder when I see those moves where your elbow is bent one way and then your wrist is bent another and that ‘grip’ is holding your whole body weight. I’m guilty of trying a grip like that, it looked so graceful and easy but it killed my shoulder so I stopped. I think people are trying to find moves which involve the least contact points possible and a lot more chinese pole moves seem to be filtering in. At least that what I think!
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happy birthday!!! i’ve made new friends through this site – thank you so much for providing a safe and supportive community on here. Thank you veena & webby 😀
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I often train hard – 2/3 times a week – then the last week I ‘calm’ it down a bit and my last practice is usually 2 days before the comp.
I never practice the day before because 1) if something goes wrong in the practice it will be too late to do anything about it and will just cause extra stress when I should be mentally preparing myself and 2) my mind & muscles should know every movement of the routine and should rest and prepare.natasha wang’s tips for training is a little too much for me but may be helpful for you –
“Don’t make the mistake of thinking it’s best to take the last few days off before a competition to ‘rest’ your body. Yes, take it easier – no more marathon 12-hour training sessions – but remember to run your routine at least twice per day in the days leading up to the comp so the movement is fresh in your muscle memory. It’s also important that you focus during these training sessions. Instead of spending 2 hours mucking around on the pole before you run your routine, thus wasting what valuable remaining energy you have, once you arrive at the studio, do a proper warm up, put on your music, turn on your video camera, and GO! Refine the passes and tricks AFTER you’ve done your run-throughs and can evaluate your performance on camera.”whereas felix cane’s approach is a bit more like how I train –
“: Same sort of thing again really, an hour a day training for myself, then 2 hours teaching so it was a lot, I trained very hard leading up to the competition BUT then 3 weeks before the competition it would slowly taper down, then 3 days before the competition I trained very lightly, the day before the comp I won’t touch the pole because if you train for at least 2 months before a competition your body and your brain will know what to do when you’re on there, but if you tire it out, it won’t work out so well.” -
whoa, it links to all the YT vids now? sorry to spam then!
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these are ones in my YT favourites lists and those that i go back to watch every now and then to be inspired again 🙂
1. Tracee kafer – just everything she does but esp. this – http://youtu.be/nDnN8rK-A5o
2. this used to put me into a trance the way she spins (if anyone knows who she is please let me know!!) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ini-qLYsLYA
3. chelle hefner’s lara croft routine (she does not stop!) – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZplx8Ui4dI
4. becca butcher – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6La1XdJczM
5. marlo’s boston performance. LOVE. – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q0tPB7tCa3E
6. heather west’s halo dance – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HdrAFYOZATo
7. marion crampe & edward doye – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ktr_HZs1JUM
8. rhiannon nicole’s freestyle – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MXBiur3egIM
9. kristy sellars air hostess routine – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fN5rGCeSdGo
10. Felix (aside from her MPD winning routine) dancing barefoot and so vulnerably – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7kXK3EQLeo
11. Fontaine’s recent performance – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ne7d_g9vQI8
12. Gracie Buntine’s 2013 or 2014 MPD Australia’s routine to Limp Bizkit is amazing
13. one of bobbi’s routines. Love how it all flows. – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bW9MYQsKQq8
14. scarletthoney on here’s videos. She is a gorgeous dancer!and so many more but i feel like I’ve rambled on way too much now. Hope you get to watch some of these vids, they are all beautiful in their own way 🙂
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hmmm I usually say thanks, it’s a really good fitness or something really boring/mundane so it kills the conversation lol it has only ever happened once or twice to me (creepy messages) to which if I think it’s sexist or pervy I will tell them in a polite but firm way thanks for appreciating the sport now leave me alone. He might not know he is creeping you out and is just keen to show his feelings towards you and may need stronger words off you to get the idea that you are not interested.
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You still want to be friends with this guy but you don’t want him to see all your training photos/vids right? I keep to myself a lot and don’t often like to share my photos outside of my pole bubble so I organise my fb friends into different lists – so those that have potential to be ‘creepy’ are on an ‘acquaintances’ list so they hardly ever see my posts.
FB privacy settings are great so certain people can’t view everything you post. For when he comments on your photos etc. often a short polite reply like ‘thanks’ or even just liking his comment is enough.
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hahaha Polefanatic678 yes I did! we prayed to the Spatchcock gods and then opened the Spatchcock Bible. I still remember it clearly!
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I asked felix about this – she showed me from the floor and from scorpio. If you want to try from the floor, do your side straddle, double cup grip the pole (think of making a bowl with your hands and grip the pole like that) and try to thread your head through by pushing your bum out and bend your head down to the floor.
From scorpio – what everyone else has said already 🙂
You can also shoulder mount (using princess grip) and hook the pole with the knee instead of hooking the ankle and as close to your shoulder. Then lower the grip of the lower hand into a cup grip and try get that bottom ankle on to the pole. I’m constantly in awe of girls that can spatchcock, hope you get it soon!