LittleJem
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Hi Maz!
Don’t get disheartened – you WILL get there! Pole is such a challenge but the feeling of achievement you get when you finally conquer a move or a pose is immense.
I’m new to pole too and it took me ages to get my first pole sit. Have you tried it in shoes? I found that they gave me more grip so I was able to stay up longer and build up a bit of strength (and pain tolerance!) in the upper thighs. It became much easier to get it without shoes after that.
Stick with it and keep practicing – it will come! x -
Bwahaha, these just made me spit coffee all over the computer screen. Hands up, ladies – who’s already got a pair?!
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Hi MissPriss! All I can say is: Go for it!! It’ll be the best decision you ever made.
I’ve only been poling for three months but it’s already done so much for my confidence and self image, I can’t even begin to tell you. It’ll do exactly the same for you too, I’m sure of it. I shared a lot of your insecurities – at 5’3″ and 143lb I felt really self conscious going to my first class, but girls there were every shape and size you can imagine, and do you know what? Every one of them looked damn sexy swinging around those poles! If its any incentive, I’ve actually lost 10lb since then, just through poling and having the will to look after myself a little more, which I would never have done if I hadn’t gone to that class.
Get yourself along to that intro class this week and I guarantee you’ll never look back. Let us know how it goes!
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I’m a newbie poler with relatively large thighs for my size and I’d tend to agree with Empyrean on most points here. I’d much rather an instructor pointed out if it was my build that was preventing me from getting a particular move – to me that would be less of a confidence-killer than trying it over and over again without success because it draws a line under it and lets me move on rather than my frustration with a single move making me question my overall aptitude.
That said, though, the thing to remember is that we’re all individuals, and the mark of a good teacher is one who can adapt her style to suit each of the different personalities and learning styles in her class. That sort of empathy and understanding takes time to build and can’t be established in the course of a one hour lesson. I can fully appreciate how and why this instructor’s words MIGHT be interpreted as offensive or hurtful, and maybe a sub teacher in an unfamiliar environment should have chosen her words with a bit more care. -
Thank you for the welcome, ladies – I’m sure I’m gonna have a lot of fun!
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Hi EllieRox, sent you an invite – check your junk file as thats where my invite went 🙂 Have fun!
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Thank you so much for the invite, Sexycat! Can’t wait to get started properly 🙂
Will happily pay it forward if anybody else would like an invite. -
Oooh, this sounds like exactly what I’ve been looking for! If someone could please send me an invite I’d be really grateful – jomercer09@live.com. x
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Thank you Shona :). Whoops, didnt realise it had posted twice – sorry peeps. And it was supposed to say ‘speaks to me’, not ‘seals to me’, stupid predictive text – I’ll learn how to use my phone before I post again lol
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Hi girls,
I’m a newbie on here but this post really seals to me so hope you don’t mind me replying.
I’ve been married just over two years and I discovered 18 months ago that my husband was having an affair and that it had started before we were even married. It shattered my world and sent me spiralling back down into serious depression, which I’d suffered from in the past. My confidence was less than zero and, well, I completely let myself go. I gained 30lb and totally just stopped taking care of myself. It was a vicious circle – the worse I looked, the worse I felt, but I just couldn’t break the cycle.
Then just before Christmas my friend dragged me along to a Poledance class. I stood there feeling so out of place and when I saw what the other girls were able to do my self esteem told me to forget it, get my stuff and go home because there’s no way my flabby overweight body would ever be able to any if it. I’m so glad I didn’t! From my first attempt at a spin I was hooked and within a month I had an Xpole at home.
Pole has done more for me in the past two months than anti-depressants accomplished in a year. It has given me back my confidence. Learning to work with my body is slowly teaching me to like it and be proud of the things it can achieve. I walk differently now, my head is held high and ive started taking a bit if pride in my appearance again. I’ve even lost 10lb. People have noticed such a difference in me and I do get some strange looks when I tell them it’s all down to pole but I really don’t care.
My Friday night pole class is the light at the end of the tunnel at the end of every week, and the friendship and support of the other girls has given me a bigger lift than any of them will ever know. I’m still at the beginning of my pole journey and can’t wait to see where it takes me – the only way is definitely up! x -
Hi girls,
I’m a newbie on here but this post really seals to me so hope you don’t mind me replying.
I’ve been married just over two years and I discovered 18 months ago that my husband was having an affair and that it had started before we were even married. It shattered my world and sent me spiralling back down into serious depression, which I’d suffered from in the past. My confidence was less than zero and, well, I completely let myself go. I gained 30lb and totally just stopped taking care of myself. It was a vicious circle – the worse I looked, the worse I felt, but I just couldn’t break the cycle.
Then just before Christmas my friend dragged me along to a Poledance class. I stood there feeling so out of place and when I saw what the other girls were able to do my self esteem told me to forget it, get my stuff and go home because there’s no way my flabby overweight body would ever be able to any if it. I’m so glad I didn’t! From my first attempt at a spin I was hooked and within a month I had an Xpole at home.
Pole has done more for me in the past two months than anti-depressants accomplished in a year. It has given me back my confidence. Learning to work with my body is slowly teaching me to like it and be proud of the things it can achieve. I walk differently now, my head is held high and ive started taking a bit if pride in my appearance again. I’ve even lost 10lb. People have noticed such a difference in me and I do get some strange looks when I tell them it’s all down to pole but I really don’t care.
My Friday night pole class is the light at the end of the tunnel at the end of every week, and the friendship and support of the other girls has given me a bigger lift than any of them will ever know. I’m still at the beginning of my pole journey and can’t wait to see where it takes me – the only way is definitely up! x