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Where are they being held??
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You guys aren’t "fogies"! My ex-girlfriend is 47 years old and was wonderful for the most part. (by the way, the 15 year age difference had nothing to do with our break-up after 4 years.) I’ve always gravitated to older women, they only start to get REALLY sexy (and comfortable enough with themselves to fully enjoy) in their mid to late 30’s and up.
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When I first started pole dancing, one of my first instructors in Toronto was a grandmother!!! (And a hot grandma at that.) She knew how to dance sexy, wear tall heels, and could do lots of great spins and inversions and taught the first mostly boys class I’ve ever seen.
Also, at spinbuddies, where I teach now, we have an entire class of women between ages 40 and 55. Also we have a few mothers that take class with their daughters. Our oldest poler ever was in her early sixties (a beginner)!
One thing I have to say is that the whole time you older gals are feeling all self-concious around the younger trixters, I’ve got news for you: The young little trixters respect the hell out of you guys for being there!! You carry yourselves with a beautiful poise, grace, and inner self-assurance that none of those kiddies will have for another decade or two. Remember that we’re all there to have fun and enjoy this amazing (and at times) crazy addiction to pole regardless of age, skill or gender.
At any age, exercise is always good and pole is always fun!
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Actually, its not a picture of a galaxy, its a nebula. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif
I vote for the nebula!
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Hi from Newmarket! I’m part of an amazing studio called Spinbuddies in Newmarket! I’ve trained at Toronto studios too. This website is amazing! watch for Ontario Pole jams, they are so much fun!
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Visualization and positive self-talk is also extremely important! Heres a very important note, though: VISUALIZATION AND POSITIVE SELF TALK WILL DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING FOR YOU ON THE DAY OF THE COMPETITION UNLESS YOU’VE DONE IT CONSISTANTLY AND DAILEY FOR MONTHS.
The first little while when you repaet to yourself: I am an amazing pole dancer; I am strong etc, Your powerful brain will reply "bull s@#t!!" and bring to your concious mind every reason why you think you’re not. It may even "feel" wrong to say great things about yourself out loud! But keep doing it. Your subconcious mind cannot differentiate between whats true or not. It only proccesses whats put in it, and over time can be reprogrammed with enough consistant dailey input, and will start going out of its way to support the new programming! Some athletes actually write affirmations and put it on their mirror to recite everyday when they wake up and go to sleep.
Another great point about the sub-concious mind is that:
THE SUB-CONCIOUS MIND CANNOT DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN WHAT IS REAL AND WHAT IS VIVIDLY IMAGINED!
This is so true that scientific equipment can pick up low level electrical activity in the muscles that you would use to do a move when you are still and just imagining it. Visualization actually trains your mind AND your muscles. You can practice your newest invesion at your desk at work in your mind and your muscles will practice and learn the move, and nueromuscular pathways (muscle memory) are reinforced!
You can also feel your flawless performance in front of a crowd this way over and over again for weeks and months before you perform!!!
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I just thought I’d share a mental focusing exercise that has worked well for the teams I’ve coached:
There are two different types of focus: internal focus and external focus. One of the most powerful ways to "center" your mind is to alternate focus between the two. Here’s how:
1. Take 3-5 deep slow diaphramatic breathes to start with.
2. Close your eyes and focus on only one thing you feel in your body and say outloud (or as words in your mind), "I feel…" Some examples could be: I feel my heart beating in my chest; I feel an itch under my left knee; I feel tightness in my neck; I feel where the root of my hair touches my scalp; I feel myself breath into my stomache; I feel butterflies (remember, not a bad thing https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif); I feel my pulse in my big toe/left arm; I feel the fabric of my shirt on my skin; I feel the warmth of the sun on my back; I feel a wedgie from my damn underware etc…
Really really feel it, become super-aware of it, and focus your thoughts on that one internal thing with your eyes closed.
3. Open your eyes and focus on just one thing external in your surroundings and say outloud (or as words in your mind) something like: I see the hour hand of the clock on the wall; I see the treebranch blowing in the wind; I smell my training partner’s sweat; I smell my competitor’s fear; I hear the ticking of the clock; i hear a girl shouting; I see my image in the mirror; I see a speck of dust on the floor, etc…
4. Continue to alternate between the two (Don’t worry about breathing or anything.) Just focus internally with eyes closed, then externally with eyes open, and keep repeating for several minutes. You can do this anytime you need to ground yourself, its especially good with a partner. It also works for life-stresses, job-stresses, and performance stresses too.
I reccomend incorporating "mental training" into every work out for at least 15 mins for anyone who is even thinking about competing. Think about how important mental preparation is for competitors. So many athletes will spend 8 – 16 hours a week working on their "physical preparation" and "physical" skills for their sport, but never work on the equally important "mental" skills that every competitor needs.
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I am a high performance gymnastics coach. Part of my job is mentally preparing my athletes for competition, here is my advise and even my 8 year olds understand it:
Everything in our bodies and the way they respond to stress was designed for when we lived in tribal communities long before society as we know it emerged. Every day we would have to chase after things for dinner or run away from things to avoid becomming dinner (including warring tribes)!
In order to protect ourselves, our bodies had a special response for our SURVIVAL!
Those butterflies you feel in your stomache is actually the blood in our digestive system being diverted elsewhere in our bodies like our muscles to make us stronger and our reflexes better, and our eyes to make our vision sharper.
The twitchyness, extra energy, pacing and restlessness is a chemical release of adrenaline, endorphines, stimulants and painkillers! Powerful stuff! All meant to help us survive when our life is in danger!
When at competition, our lives are obviously not in danger, but our bodies respond AS IF THEY WERE!
So, when you feel the butterflies and the nerves, think of them as "rediness" and remember that they do not come to annoy us or get in our way or make us lose the competition and they are not something to fight either.
Welcome this response! Most people get even more worked up because they are stressed about being stressed, or nervous about being so nervous, or upset about being upset!!! Just by allowing yourself to feel this way and being ok with feeling this way makes things a whole lot better.
The next step is to actually HARNESS this energy and focus it on what you’re about to do (rather than hating its existance and trying to fight it). If you let this nervous energy just roll off your body scattered, you’ll probably bobble, make mistakes you’d never make in training, overdo things, rush, forget stuff etc. If you can focus it like a laser beam and understand that its there TO HELP YOU PERFORM and be ok with it, this can give you the biggest edge in your life! THIS RESPONSE MAKES YOU STRONGER, QUICKER AND SHARPER! trying to make it go away will only make things worse. Respect it, embrace it, ENJOY IT and it can truley be your friend!
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Hey, I’m a man! and I love to pole dance! I attend a class at Aradia in downtown Toronto that has an advanced co-ed class with 6 men and 5 women. This is the most fun class you could ever imagine! Guys definetely want to learn the tricks, but I think there are ways for men to move sensually too, but in a masculine way! The co-ed environment makes for a very fun, crazy and different atmosphere!
I’m also an instructor at Spinbuddies in Newmarket and we have some men there too. We’ve had some interesting conversations between the instructors about the differences between male and female sensual movement. Women tend to lead alot with their hips, chest or bum, whereas men pelvic thrust alot and lead with their brains and show off their strength anyway possible.
Some of the spins look gay when men do them (fire chick, dirty martini, ballerina, chair) but others look really cool like diamond, corkscrew, backleg hook, ribbon with straight body, spinning helicopter, straight body chin up spin facing pole etc.
Our class calls the extended butterfly the Special-K (sounds more masculine).
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Thanks everyone for such a great time!!!!
Glad everyone was so cool about having a gentlemen in the mix! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
Can’t wait til the next one!!
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I will bring a veggie tray, if that’ll do.
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Well, it’s about time you joined us on this site, mora shelli!!
Good luck with your brand new studio!
You’re going to love being on this website!
xo
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Count me in and my friend Rose from Spinbuddies!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
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I think its amazing the way all you girls have been talking positively about your bodies!
Too many times I see gorgeous women who do not see how OBVIOUSLY amazing and beautiful they look and its a shame and a crime and I sometimes wonder if they are JOKING or something when they talk about themselves.
99% of the people on this forum should be able to write a book or fill pages and pages with text about how great they look! And we are all doing a sport that can really really build a nice toned body.
THANK YOU to whoever started this post! It’s refreshing to see girls that think highly of themselves (as they should)!!
Male or female, CONFIDENCE IS SEXY!
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If the Brampton Studio is free on Sundays after 3pm, I would like to propose a pole jam there on Sun Feb 28th. Keep the night open afterwards too, cuz I know my friends and I will be going out for eats and drinks after and everyone should come!
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By the way, what days or nights are the silks lessons at the circus school. I’d like to reserve a spot to try it out.
