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I’m so sorry for your loss Organic Angel…my prayers go out to you and your family. Sending spiritual hugs out to you dear.

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Organic Angel, thnk you so much for your response! That is what I needed to know and it is so encouraging to hear how you snapped right back after having your baby. I was wondering how long I should wait after having my baby to start back up. I know I will be chomping at the bit to get back into it but like you said, I should remember to take it easy and let my body heal. I am also planning to nurse my baby so I know at least for the 1st month or so I will need to dedicate my time learning and getting the hang of it. That’s awesome that you are doing showcases and back in great shape after having children. That brings me hope, lol! Thanks to you, Veena, and all the inspiring pole moms who are so strong and look so amazing after having children. I hope I will be like you ladies. 🙂

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Congratulations!! I am also pregnant (34 weeks) with my first baby. I stayed pretty active and taught pole classes until about 4 months and also took two Aerial Amy workshops at 4 1/2 months. Besides bad morning sickness, things were going well until my cervix shortened and I went into pre-term labor and I had to have an emergency cerclage placed and was put on bedrest. Things are much better and while I am so happy my baby and I are doing really well so far, I have lost tons of muscle and some of my flexibility. My question to you Organic Angel, how long did it take your body to recuperate from pregnancy enough to starting exercising/poling again? How long did it take you to get your flexibility back (if you lost any) ? I would appreciate advice/tips from anyone thanks and congratulations/safe healthy pregnancies and deliveries to all the SV mommies.

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First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!! I had to respond to this because I  also found out about a month and a half ago that I am pregnant. I am at 10 weeks now. I am currently an instructor but have recently had to drop all but one of the classes I teach due to some intense morning (all day sickness). I am wondering the same thing as you because once this morning sickness subsides I would really like to start poling much more than what I'm doing now but I want do do what's safest for my baby. I really love poling so much and have been pretty depressed about not being able to do it much lately. There is this workshop I really want to take near the end of December but I think I will be around 3 and a half months by then. I really, really want to take the workshop but I'm wondering if I should hold off. 

I really wish the best for you and your baby. When I'm not sick I have not had any issues teaching beginner level classes so maybe you can do the gentle, dancy type poling without all the tricks.  I have to admit, when I was by myslef I did sneak in some climbs just to see if I felt any different doing it and I practiced different mid-level spins. I felt pretty much the same except a little more dizzy after teaching and pole play. Maybe you will be alright just doing some light poling. Anyways, sorry about my rambling and hopefully you will be able to fit some poling in here and there while pregnant. : )

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I am so sad.  I wanted to go to this soooooooo BAD!!! I just cannot afford it so everyone who's going please have a complete blast and come back with amazing, crazy, hilarious tales so I can live vicariously through you, lol!!

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I meant 3 weeks ago, not 4.

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I am a brand new Floridian (just moved down here 4 weeks ago from Maryland) and yes, I will be going to watch the competition this Saturday. Just look for a 5'3 black girl with long braids, lol!

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So sorry I am late sweetie. HAPPY BIRTHDAY LuLu!!!! You are such a joy and it is a gift to know you. Live it up gorgeous!!!

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Congratulations Lulu!!! I have always said that you inspire me.  I am so proud of how you go after what you want in life with that fire.  You better keep doin your thing girl, that is amazing!!! : )

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All of the performers including the kids were so amazing.  I was blown by everyone in some way.  Heidi Coker, I never really knew much about her but her performance was flawless and very clean.  The poler named Bunny had this one spin that was so bad @zz it made everyone just holler when she did it (at least I know I was), Winter Rainone is another I never really knew much about but all of her spins and tricks were so incredibly fluid that I kept getting confused as to which pole was in spin and which was in static, Flying Laura was explosive, powerful, made you say "WOW!!" Phoenix Kazree was jaw droppingly AMAZING!!! She had such a well rounded performance because she was another that was so incredibly fluid, graceful, strong and sexy all at the same time.  Her performance made me gasp and literally break out in goosebumps.

The men BROUGHT it!!! Tavon "JC" had us ooooo'ing and ah'ing esp when he did his floor work, lol!  David Owen's was incredibly creative, he actually was tied up in this big potatosack and CUT himself out then proceeded to amaze everyone with his superhuman flexibility and power.  There was this guy called the "Crow" and his non-pole dance moves were so unique and edgy looking I'd love to take classes from him just to move the way he did when he danced.  The guy Derik who won was absolutely amazing, fluid, and looked like he was filled with joy while performed.  He also moved very beautifully, so much so that I wish I could have affored to take his workshop to learn how to move like him. 

I could only afford to take one workshop so I signed up for Marlo's (one of my all time favorite pole dancers).  I agree with liznunezeliz; it was amazing and the warm up was definitely intense!  I was sweating and breathing hard and just hoping I could survive it.  I was so happy because I really struggle with flexibility but when she finally had us drop into our splits, I went right into mine and went down the lowest I've ever done and I got the lowest I've ever done on my left side (which usually I don't ever get anywhere near the floor).  I was very excited about that.  I loved the spins and just everything she taught us on the pole and my pole buddy was also so nice and helpful (I forgot her name but she was from Holland).  Marlo was also so nice and down to earth and she was very attentive during the workshop walking around and correcting our form whenever we needed it.  She was also very encouraging.  I'm so happy I was able to attend the APFC and workshop.  It turned out to be a very well put together event and I met so many wonderful people.  I also met some of the competitors and they were so friendly and down to earth!  Sorry for the long winded post.  I just had a great time and am so excited about what I learned!

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Yeah minicoopergirl, you know we love alot of the same songs/music.  You have great taste chica, lol! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

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Hi,

I also admire your forgiving nature because, like Charley, forgiveness is something I am not good at all.  Anyways, the song "Dig" by Incubus always brings me to tears because I want to be able to forgive people and I also wish people would forgive me and give me the benefit of the doubt that I'm not always a bad person.  Please read this sample of the lyrics it is a really beautiful song too:

We all have a weakness
But some of ours are easy to identify.
Look me in the eye
And ask for forgiveness;
We'll make a pact to never speak that word again
Yes you are my friend.
We all have something that digs at us,
At least we dig each other
So when weakness turns my ego up
I know you'll count on the me from yesterday
If I turn into another
Dig me up from under what is covering
The better part of me
Sing this song
Remind me that we'll always have each other
When everything else is gone.

Hope that helps! Good luck!! The world needs more friends like you.  : )

Maria

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Sorry, one more thing…thank you, thank you , THANK YOU Chemgoddess for that lovely, inspirational poem.  I really needed to see that and thank you for sharing something so beautiful. 

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Hi Hotpinksugar,

Your post really brought tears to my eyes.  All I can say is, though I know it is almost impossible to not compare yourself to others, remember that we are all different and have different strengths and weaknesses (yes, I know this is cliche and that you have probably heard it before).  Your friend should not be the measure of what type of poler you are.  Yes, you say she is a natural and really good and that is fine, but you are strong too just for the simple fact that you stick with it and put in that extra effort to keep up.   That is what is going to refine you as a poler.  There are times when you do something physically challenging that your body is not used to, sometimes your body will fight you for awhile, it will seem really hard and frustrating sometimes, but if you stick with it like you have been, your body will start to adapt and your strength will build up.  It may take longer than your friend, but learn at your own pace.  Because you are obviously a hard worker, when those moves or tricks do start to come with ease you will realize that you are truely a winner (and have been all along) because you, despite challenges/frustrations did not give up and put in that extra effort and discipline. 

The thing with your instructors, I am really sad to hear that.  Hopefully, the way they respond to you vs your friend isn't intentional, and they are just excited at a "fast learner" but at the same time, it's important uplift everyone at whatever level they happen to be.  Sometimes hearing a few encouraging words gives you that extra boost to believe you can learn a dance combo or trick.  Sometimes it is a mind over matter thing and when someone is there cheering you on and sticking with you to really help you through those difficult moves that's when positive results occur.

I feel you dear, while I have a lot of natural strength when it comes to poling, I totally SUCK at anything that involves flexibility, esp. in my back, shoulders, and hips.  I have gotten down in the dumps and wanted to quit too when I see all these amazing dancers who can do full on side and center splits and have beautiful bendy backs that allow them to beautifully achieve a pole trick/pose. At one point I was like "Why should I even bother to keep trying to qualify for these competions?  I am nowhere near in those girls league".   That's when I talk to supportive friends and family members and also give myself a pep talk remind myself that I have things to offer to the pole community.  Girl, I know there is something wonderful that you have to offer, sometimes you may not see or feel it because you are being too hard on yourself or too focused on others progress.  Think about the things you can do.  What are you good at?  Even if it is just pirouettes, catch spins, fireman spins.  You be able to do it with so much flare and passion that no one is going to care if you can't get into a certain trick.  My longwinded point is…remember there are things that you are fabulous at.  Don't forget to put those things on display and also work on those things that challenge you in the meantime.  Also, grab an instructor and ask her to break down the move further or spot you while you work on something.  That's what she is there for.  Please don't give up sweety, I, for one believe you have something wonderful to show to the pole community and that you have a passion, otherwise, you wouldn't work so hard, share your feelings and open up the way you did.  I'm not on SV much, and I know you don't know me or anything but if you ever need help with anything or want to just talk or something, please hit me up.

 

Peace,

Maria

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Hi,
Girl, my husband and your husband should hang out because he has the same issues with me pole dancing. We have had huge blow up fights over it and it makes it so difficult sometimes to concentrate on advancing in the pole dance world when he flips out if I try to enter comps, and I can’t submit my vids on YT without him freaking out (he doesn’t know about my SV acount, hehehehe).

I think the pole in the home is a great idea but I understand you wanting to get out of the house to pole because there’s nothing like the fun and comradery that comes with poling with other wonderful pole enthusiasts. I hope you will be able to find a balance or that he will become more open to the idea of you occassionally being out of the house doing a positive, creative, fun activity.

BTW, I am so envious of those ladies who have supportive husbands that must be such a nice feeling to know your man has your back like that in pole dancing/fitness.

Peace,
Maria