RM2012
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As the ladies have said, exotic dancers don't need pole skills but it can give confidence and make your dancing interesting. It's more about entertainment skills and personality, and different looks and figures find different areas of the market. I would just advise that you be really sure it's the route you want to go. The money sure can be good, but often (at least here) it's a few dancers who make great money, most dancers have an average cash flow. I had a great time working when I started, but I have found it is has greatly impacted on my private life (eg being out with friends or family and people calling out my stage name etc) A lot of our clients were not shy in approaching us outside of work (although some were very discreet) and that can have ramifications especially in a small city like mine. I am a married young mum of 3 little kids and there have been times that my work as an exotic dancer have been inappropriately brought up by others, even though I chose to keep it quite private. That really took the control out of my hands. For me personally, I felt by the end as though I was compromising myself by the dancing. Everyone is different but I LOVE the pole, I love dance, I just don't have any desire to work in the industry now and there are regrets about the years I spent doing it. That would be my only words of caution hun.
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Hi, I am new to this site and have read through a good dose of pole discussions but still haven't found enough info on opinions of pole size… I've been dancing for a while but had a BIG break (3 kids in 2.5yrs! Lots of pregnancy complications etc so lots of time off the pole) I am wanting to sell my 38mm brass in favour of a stainless steel (I prefer them) but am stuck on deciding between the 45mm and the 38mm. I learnt on poles at the clubs I used to work at, some were brass and some were stainless steel. They were all 45mm and 50mm. The 50mm is just too big for my liking, the 38mm is great for spinning but given this is just for my fitness I love the static mode (in fact I've used the spinning mode only on the odd occassion!) Anyone here had experience with 38mm and 45mm stainless steel to give any advice? I cannot afford the two poles, so I have to pick! 🙂
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Yes that's a good call on the medication as they work so differently in the body one may offer relief where another doesn't. I give birth without drugs yet migraines are something I can't handle!! Headaches are horrible too. Panadol works in a different way to NSAIDs, and given the different responses you can have to those it's actually worth trying. There are natural aids for hormones also (eg Vitex to raise progesterone) and if you find you get some relief with the COX inhibiting meds then there are some dietry factors that could possibly help. They have done for a dear friend of mine, the only thing that I found to work was the progesterone but that's because I had a particular issue with my low levels. The pain meds didn't lift them but a shot of progesterone did 🙂 My friend on the other hand has great relief with a combo of medications and diet changes. They are horrible hun I hope you find something to work!
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Hi love, actually I always wound up with these before I had my kids. Mine were from a hormonal imbalance, low progesterone (luteal phase defect and daily shots of progesterone to maintain my pregnancies, so a bit extreme for me!) But a minor imbalance can cause this. May not be your case, the cyclical pattern indicates it could be. The use of contraceptives can help some women, and make others worse, as the hormones are not bio-identical (Think of it this way, when I was prescribed Danocrine I was told NOT to fall pregnant at least 6 months following the treatment – but I am prescribed progesterone in oil injections and HCG injections to maintain pregnancies. Very different!) For me, some of the hormonal contraceptives I had been on for me endometriosis made me a lot worse with the headaches, mood swings etc I can send some links to explain this if you want? Just a thought that it may be a similar issue, it's not hard to knock our hormones out of whack and for some women it affects them terribly! Using natural progesterone cream (compounded, not just a 'yam based' OTC cream) has been AMAZING for me (for avoiding postnatal even with a microprem delivered at 25 weeks) for the headaches, teariness, irritability etc I've been right back to normal – the only downside is that natural progesterone ENHANCES fertility. So barrier methods are a must if you ever tried it and did not want a pregnancy.
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The relaxin hormone sticks around for us nursing mums longer than those who are not nursing, which has affected me a little. Just a thought, do you use a sling for bub? I carry my babies in a wrap sling (the Hug-a-Bub type, super easy to make yourself!) and it spreads the weight of baby over both shoulders (can use for front carry – facing in our out, hip carry, back carry) and I find that helps a lot with the aches from carrying a bub. Can nurse in it too 🙂