Runemist34
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It took me a really, really long time to get my basic invert, and right now it’s still not great. I have a difficult time with that kind of strength, and I have a difficult time with the upside-down, so there are definitely some mental barriers, but… I did still get it!
What changed it for me was not focusing on my feet. I had to learn to focus on my chest, my hips, something other than my feet. I also learned to make a HUGE arc with my legs! Like, almost reaching forward with my feet and allowing that momentum to carry me upwards.
Have you seen Aerial Amy’s blog? She covers a lot of the issued with basic inverts, and many of them were things I had issues with.I think that you can do it. All you need to do is work on it, be patient, make sure not to jump or put strain on your back or shoulders. Breathe.
It took me five years. 😉
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Hey there!
Well, first of all, I’ll tell you this: Being able to push yourself up AT ALL in a pushup is a big accomplishment in my eyes, because I cannot do a single one. I still need to work on it, it’s still hard. I can’t lift myself up with my arms, I can barely pole hold for more than three breaths.
First time I touched a pole was 6 years ago… and I’ve had a lot of setbacks, a lot of “hiatuses” upwards of 8 months, which really set me back!
But… I am still going at it. I am starting to get moves that I never thought possible, and I an starting to gain more and more strength.I also want to point this out: My weight and my height have NOTHING to do with my health or fitness level. I am 5′ 6″ and about 160lbs, and when I was running (I’ve had to take a month and a half off due to heat! I miss it!) I went up to 190lbs, and I was smaller than I’ve ever been. I’ve also been 180lbs and much larger than I have ever been… and it was hard to keep the weight on.
Your weight may stay the same, it might go down and then up, and it might just go down, or just go up… but your size, the physical makeup of your body, will change.
You can do this! You’re beautiful and amazing. All of you 🙂
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Sounds fantastic!
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Oh yeah, this is all muscle. Due to my sudden development of the lats… none of my bras fit! I’m actually breaking them. The mesh bit between the cups (which is supposed to be crazy strong) is literally shredding itself, which means I need to go up a band size!
None of these things surprise me anymore 😉 -
There can be a lot of factors to this sort of issue, so… I’ll try to get some of the major ones out of the way:
First, make sure you are not exercising too hard! If all this “fitspiration” stuff I’m seeing around is anything to go by, it seems like “work out till you puke” is the goal, and it is NOT. Work out to YOUR level, and not anything past that. If you push too hard, you’ll feel sick.
Next, I must ask, are you vegetarian or vegan? Because this can strongly affect your intake of protein, and especially the correct kind of protein you body needs to repair muscles. Even with rest days, you may not be able to repair your muscles under these circumstances, and you’ll suffer for it. This usually manifests as chronic soreness and weakness, though, so… just a thought.
The next thing I would ask is… are you working out too often, or doing too many other things as well? Rest days are super important, and I know that I don’t feel well when I don’t get time to repair my body. With running, rock climbing, pole dancing, and my work, it became too much for me- I had to drop some stuff to be able to stay healthy.
Lastly, making sure to stay hydrated during a workout is very, very important… but it CAN also lead to an upset stomach if you’re drinking too much water! You should be trying to maintain a general level of hydration, and during workouts, only small amounts of water at a time, now and then. I know that, during my very long runs, I get parched, but if I drink as much as I WANT to, I’ll end up very unhappy with my belly.I also used to get an upset stomach when I did a lot of ab work… but it’s faded now. I think they got used to it 😉
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No, as far as I know it’s a copywrite issue, and as you can access the lessons here at any time, it’s not considered an issue. It would also be difficult to keep those records up to date, as Veena tends to update things frequently.
I haven’t had any issues with simply accessing them on the site, anyways 🙂 -
Hey Jessies!
I wanted to say that I know how you feel- I come from a long line of “people pleasers,” and I think over the generations we’ve perfected the art. Half the time I don’t even notice I’m doing it!
I also don’t feel very accomplished, don’t feel happy with my job, don’t want to be where I am now in 10 years (that is a LONG time though and I think lots will have changed by then!). I also have an anxiety disorder, which causes things to get a little jumbled up in my head. It’s been a tough one to really connect with myself.
That said, the very best and most amazing thing I could recommend is journaling. You don’t have to show it to anyone or talk about it, but writing down your thoughts and having discussions with yourself is the single greatest thing for my relationship with myself I have EVER done. I’ve been doing it for about two and a half years now (I started when my husband decided to tell me he no longer wanted to be with me… it was six months of craziness after that where we finally, properly broke up) and I’ve nearly filled four journals. It’s been an amazing journey and has shown me incredible things about myself.
I agree with the others, too; you sound very accomplished, you sound like you know a lot of things, you have a lot to be proud of. That said, now’s an excellent time to find a way to do things for YOU, so that you are personally proud, rather than just kind of generally.
As for finding one’s womanhood… I suppose I never had an issue with that, but I can say that I know many people who have. Take a belly dancing class (if you can, I recognize you’re in a small town), figure out what makes you feel sexy, move your body in ways that make your hips move, appreciate your own beauty. It’s not selfish or self-centered or anything else, it’s a personal journey!
And remember: What makes you happy will make everyone else happy… and if it doesn’t make them happy, perhaps you need to re-evaluate your relationship with them (or, they’re confused). And, having a child, you’re the one who shows them what life and happiness is like, and they will admire your personal journey, your strength of will and your conviction, far more than your ability to hold a job 🙂 -
Hmm, yeah, maybe contact them when you can, it sounds like it may be looser than mine have been!
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I always said I “stick like a gecko,” especially on my current pole (which is powder coated). Can be great for certain things like static moves or learning spinny pole, but otherwise, kind of a bother.
I find myself trying to wipe my hands and my pole often. -
“Loose” meaning what, exactly? My experience having had two Lil’ Mynxes now is that it’s fairly normal to have the outer pole (that you dance with) to be a little bit larger than the adjuster pole (the inner one), and that occasionally if you grab or move it in certain ways, they may clang or clack together.
No real fixes for this… it’s just how they’re made. I’ve never ever had any issues with stability or safety with them. -
I generally don’t care, as I dance alone in my house. Often I can still wear my shorts (they aren’t super small, though, so that helps) and a pad. I’m uncomfortable with having things “up there” if they can get “lost,” and I’m a bit paranoid, so no tampons or menstrual cups for me.
I will say this, though: cramps and lowered pain tolerance do tend to dampen my “enthusiasm” for trying new and more difficult moves. My dancing during my lady time is more for me to maintain strength, rather than increase it. -
My first inverted moves were things like the Cross Knee release, since I trust my legs a lot more than my hands, and I felt the lock was much stronger.
Inverting, as in the basic invert, is very difficult and any moves after that can be quite scary.
Don’t push yourself- you really don’t need to plough on forward just because everyone else is inverting! You do it in your own time, and you’ll be safer and happier. -
Hey AerialFaery!
I’m sorry to hear this is happening to you! Sounds horrible, and I can relate.
There are a lot of things that could be a factor in losing strength, and feeling sick and achy.
So… Are you getting enough sleep at night? Is it quality sleep (like, is it a deep sleep, are you dreaming, etc.)?
And are you eating enough food? Are you eating the proper proteins, carbs, and fats that your diet requires?
As you mentioned, you’ve introduced a much more demanding workout, and if your body is unable to handle it due to one of these factors (especially the food thing!) you won’t be able to keep up. Without proper food, and sleep, our bodies cannot repair themselves, even with rest days.
Otherwise, I can’t think of much. Perhaps bring the warm up down a bit, and see how you do with your previous routine. It could just be that you’re pushing yourself too hard, and as you’re stressed about your competition, maybe you just need to push yourself after your event, instead of before it! -
The CAR is one of my “nemesis moves,” because though I love it so much, I have never had a consistent one. It seems that every time I get it, something happens and I lose it- be it a hiatus from pole, or more recently, running and reducing the size of my thighs!
However, I do know this: Squeezing is one thing, but it’s more the rotation that will make a difference. Instead of trying to just squeeze your thighs together directly, see if you can rotate (or think about rotating) your knees in toward each other (and the pole) in order to make a better lock. Pushing with your feet out away from you can also give you a much better grip, as we are stronger that way than with just squeezing.
As for the transition from Plank to actual CAR, I want to say this: you shouldn’t be just dropping or falling back when you’re learning this move! Allow your hips to come close to the pole, round your back, point your feet upward, until you are really confident with the lock of your legs in the position you would be in if you were doing a full CAR, but without your head pointed down! You can even practice this from the floor, by locking up your legs and doing a sit UP, rather than a release down.
Both of these ways will let you get used to the feeling of the pole between your legs in this way, and let you gain a bit more confidence.
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I do miss Friday chat, but anytime I’m not working/able to get online, it’s always “finished,” and there’s no one online. I think it’s mainly my timezone- everyone seems to be located on the east coast!