Runemist34
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What my step-dad has done (I don't have the tools to put up my pole, so he does it for me) is take a light fixture off the ceiling and take a look! The ceiling joists are usually pretty evenly spaced, around 12 inches apart or so.
The nail test is a good idea, too.
I lived in an older house with plaster and board on the ceiling, and the stud finder couldn't figure it out at all! So, we just had to take guesses and see where we thought they were. Only a couple of holes later, we'd found one! Even had to get a larger screw for my mount to reach it properly. Lil Mynx poles are cool like that. -
My first pole is a Lil Mynx Stainless steel pole, very basic…
And it is still my only pole. I've had it for about 4 years. 🙂
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I think perhaps you are going a little fast for most beginner classes- conditioning and training, as well as dancing and building combos from what moves you have learned in the previous (or even current) week would be a good thing to work on. This is pole DANCING, not jut pole lifting-yourself-and-doing-tricks.
There are a few moves that can really do damage without the strength and conditioning… and they aren't often considered "advanced" movies. The CAR I cannot do yet, and I've been dancing off and on for about four years. I can barely do a basic invert! Because of my lack of strength and general fitness, I was starting from a different place than most… and, I took several breaks, some of them lengthy, and so I had to build back up.
Perhaps speak with your instructor and talk about your concerns when it comes to strength, safety and the speed of your class.
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Reenie, I think you're a little too close to this situation. You need to take a step back.
First of all, your daughter may be your daughter, and she always will be, but she is no longer your "child." She's 16, and quickly (very quickly) becoming an adult. Her need to make her own decisions in life is something she has to fill, and something you're going to have to let her do. This is just something that every parent has to do, no matter what, or who, or where. All kids grow up into adults.
I know that it is your responsibility to prepare her for the "real world," but boarding school and military school (while you may be joking on those, they're clearly in your head) are going to do the exact opposite of that. Those places are so far removed from the "real world."
From what you've said, she doesn't know what this "real world" place is like- so, why not show her? Why not take her out in a SAFE way, and teach her about it? Does she know about work, and how much work one has to do in order to afford things like coffee or clothing? Does she know how bills work, or what they're for, or actually how expensive they are? Does she know how to handle work drama, and does she know what it can do to one's career?
That all aside, this guy… do you know him? Do you actually know what he wants from your daughter? Is it possible that all he wants to be is her friend, and all she wants is to be his friend? And, besides that, what if he DOES want to sleep with her? Protecting your daughter from him may be exactly what you want to do, but will it prepare her for this "real world," in which there may be many, many other guys that want to sleep with her, whom she may or may not want? Does she know how to keep herself safe and say "no" to these guys, even if they're being totally sweet and are wonderful people? Because she'll have to learn eventually… and right now is possibly the best time. Right now, she's got you behind her, keeping her safe if she REALLY gets in trouble- but, knowing when she's REALLY in trouble is something else she's gotta figure out.
Honestly, I'd say that if she doesn't come to you for help, let her do her thing. When she comes to you for help and you're there for her, everything is wonderful, and you'll both know that she's learned a lot from the experience. If you do it prior to her asking, however, you're stepping on her growth.
In the end, if you're really, really bothered by this guy being around… talk to your daughter. Like an adult. No drama necessary, just tell her how you feel and what your suspicions are. Let her know, and then let her make the decisions. Have a discussion. She sounds like a smart person, and you are certainly one of those, so… come together as smart people to figure out what you can do for the both of you. Even that will be an amazing learning experience.
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While I've not been to a pole performance before, I know that when it comes to Burlesque (I notice the communities overlap quite a lot) a lot of noise is encouraged- even expected. I've been to one show that said "These ladies are encouragement based- you yell louder, they give you a better performance!" And, while the performance wouldn't be bad without the yelling, it certainly wouldn't have that interaction between performer and audience that burlesque usually has.
It's meant for encouragement, for a show of appreciation. I can understand that some people may be a bit loud, and I've sat around people like that…
But, if I'm honest, I'd rather have the audience show their apprecation, their excitement and enjoyment of a performance I do, than not. I'm not going to a golf tournament, I'm going to an awesome, sexy, fun pole or burlesque performance!
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I'm going to start going back to University in September, and currently I work at Starbucks. It's actually a pretty good job- mostly due to the people I work with! As always, there's the occasional drama-fest, and they're all a lot younger than I am (by about 5 years or so!) but, that's okay!
One day… I want to be a writer. Seriously.
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Yeeaaah, I've got this problem rather badly. I'm always scouring every store for shirts that fit, and don't have that stupid built-in bra thing!
I'm a 32G, which means I'm 32 inches around my waist, and 39 inches around the bust. Quite a difference, and I dish out the big bucks for my bras, too. I'm considering trying to find some good online stores for shirts and things, especially workout wear!
I'll have to check out the places you girls have mentioned!
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Wow, that was beautiful! I posted it on Facebook too- it's nice to see that, regardless of age, anyone can be awesome.
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I agree with JeHanne- You can explain to your boyfriend that this time is very important to you, and that you need some space when you dance. See if you can work something out so that, when you need to Pole, he can go and do something for himself, as well!
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That looks frighteningly like a corset.
I've done some research into corsets, actually. Both for personal curiosity, and for research for my stories (as I need to have some kind of underwear in a pre-renaissance world!), and the things that turned up are… fascinating, but also a bit disturbing.
Put basically, if you were to go out and dish out the dough (talking about upwards of $300 here) for a "proper" corset, they would ask you what your waist is in inches. And then, they would send you a corset that is about two inches smaller than that. This is your "corset size." I'm not talking about tightlacing. Corsets, while pretty and fun sometimes, can become quite detrimental when worn constantly. Much like a weight belt, it can cause your body to rely on the garment, rather than muscles, and you'll lose much of your muscle in the abs and transverse abdominus.
And then, there's tightlacing. This is what it's called when a person wants that extreme "wasp waist" figure. They get the corset, and lace it too tight. And, as your body attempts to grow accustomed to that shape, you keep tightening. You WILL eventually conform to that shape, even without the corset on. However, you are removing about 10 years off your life by doing so, because it's not moving the fat around… you're altering, squishing, and potentially damaging all of your organs. They generally get pushed up into the diaphragm, which means you have very little space to breathe. I imagine this is why so many women back then tended to pass out, and why we have those "corsets make you faint" jokes.
So… yeah. It's sort of like Chinese foot binding.
I love corsets. I love the way they look and what they do for your figure and the lift for the chest, all of that. But ONLY for occasions. Rarely do I ever wear a corset… no matter how much I love them. And I certainly don't go down two inches off my waist size when I lace them up. And, well… I wish I could afford a well made one, just to have it 😉
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I don't really believe in any pageants of any kind. How can we cause one human being to compete with another human being, because of the way they look and think? What are we trying to prove with this?
It's terrifying for me to think of.
I've seen tiny pieces of Toddlers in Tiaras, mostly due to the hype that went around a while ago about it. I was appaled. To teach children at such a young age that their performance and what they look like is so important to both their parents, and "should" be important to them… well, those people aren't going to grow up easily. Once they reach adulthood and realize that it's more about who you are on the inside, and what you believe in and do in your life that creates happiness, rather than trying to be popular or look good, it's going to be quite a shock.
Honestly, it's more about the parents than the children- it's more the children who suffer for it, though.
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Those are so cute! And I would totally wear them! Even out, for fun 😉
I need to wear heels more often *sigh*
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I missed it, too!
What's a "may day," other than a day in May? -
I've done this a lot… best advice I can give is expand and experiment!
For strength training, I actually really enjoy other ways of getting the strength, such as my weights and doing "the switch" in Veena's lessons. I'm working towards getting a proper push up, and increasing how many sets I can do with my weights without wearing out.
Experimentation, for me, helps to stave off the "I'm doing the same things all the time!" feeling. Take a look at all of your "normal" moves, even the ones that you think you have totally nailed (like the Fireman spin) and see what more you can do with them. Where could your legs go? How could you get into it differently? What are your hands doing? Could you stay in this hold longer, or try to climb slower, or see if you can do different styles, like sexy or twirly or strong?
This is an interesting time… we always look at it as so frustrating. A "rut," where we stop feeling that amazing feeling we get from accomplishment. But, it can also be a time of great learning, when we start to break down the idea of "moves" and turn them all into a flow, a dance, an expression of the self. Through trying different things, you can figure out how you come out in your movements 😉
Good luck!
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A couple ideas: Go to a store and buy double-sided tape. It's basically the same thing as fashion tape, but WAY cheaper. Apply your tape and outfit and practice in it before your performance, because sometimes things like sweat, or an accident when doing a move can disloge things, and… well, yeah 😛
Chem's idea about black electrical tape is good, too!
The thing about pasties is that, if they just peak out, people might go "OMG that was-!" and not clue in to the idea of a pastie. So… yeah. Little bit dangerous.
Unless, of course, it's super bright, or sparkly, or unfeasibly huge. Then people will probably not think that it's natural 😉
Are there any ways you might be able to alter your outfit slightly, without having it be noticeable on stage? Floss or fishing line could be used to hold the top on correctly. Just not too tight, because you don't want it to cut off circulation or something!