Runemist34
Forum Replies Created
-
If you wanna talk corsets, it entirely depends on what you're going for. If you want to go the "real corset" way, that is basically tightlacing (at least to me) where your "size" is two inches smaller than your actual waist size, and you are expected to tighten to that point.
Many other corsets don't necessarily do this, but they allow you to have the look of the corset, they may pull you in a bit, but they are often boned with plastic, and are of cheaper quality.
The issue with "real" corsets and tightlacing is that it can have some serious health problems. For women way back in the day when the corset was THE piece of underwear, many of them (because of prolonged use) had their organs rearranged, so that everything was either too high, or too low. Just think about that…where would you put your stomach: In your diaphragm, or down into your uterus?
I believe it took off about 5-10 years of life from the woman in question, too. That was one I heard quite a while ago, though, so don't quote me on that!
YES, corsets look amazing, and yes, I love them to bits…but please don't wear them too often, too tight, or in a way that causes you pain or a lack of ability to breathe! Corsets are difficult to fit and good ones are hard to come by…you have to dish out hundreds of dollars for good ones, and those are often boned with metal, so that it really holds it's shape. It does wonders for "the girls" and lovely things for your waist…but PLEASE consider it a temporary thing!
Unfortunately for me, because of my somewhat more extreme proportions, I have to be very careful with my corsets. I've had a few that bent so hard the bones would dig into my back, and I had red marks there for two days. Those were plastic bones, though…cheap corsets. I've never worn a "real" corset, and if I did, I'd be quite wary of anyone trying to lace me in too tight!
-
I think the biggest part is having fun! That's why I went with pole, and why I continue to come back…for me, a lot of "traditional" fitness is boring, so having fun is the biggest challenge!
As long as you have fun, and you push yourself just a little bit when you feel you can, you will progress, and you'll get stronger…trust me, everyone starts off feeling like they're as tough as a spaghetti noodle!
-
I wouldn't worry so much about the weight on the scale…as you gain muscle mass, you will certainly see the scale move up, but not your dress size! In comparison to fat, the same amount of muscle will weigh more, so you'll see it change!
I'd also say take it easy when weight training! I really find that stuff does a number on my muscles, and I really feel it afterward!
-
Hey hun!
What you're wanting is also called the "hourglass figure" and I'll tell you…it's practically impossible to change your body type. I'm sorry, but…that's the truth of the matter.
I would have suggested to work your abs, particularly your transverse abdominus, but if you're doing this already, then unfortunately, I think you're stuck with one or the other!
Much of it does depend on bone structure, and part is on where and how your body stores fat. When it gets to the point of being an athlete like many pole dancers, you barely have any fat on you, so that point becomes quite moot.
I'll tell you this, though: An hourglass figure is not all it's cracked up to be, at least in the having. Both my sister and I have it, and we have endless issues finding clothing. I'm wider in the hips, she's wider in the…er, bra region, and we both have horrible issues. I recognize that many people are envious, but…I end up being envious of everyone else! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif
I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but…I think the real endeavour for everyone is to be happy with what you have 🙂 Think about it this way: You don't have the giant hips I do that take up most of your body weight, and are VERY HEAVY to lift when learning pole! 😛
-
Could I get a picture/video of this one? It sounds really interesting!
-
Hehe, EVamp, that was awesome 😉 I had considered the wordplay, but yours were far more creative than mine!
Webby, thank you for catching this so quickly! You really are a genius! I didn't want to, as Veena said, get the whip out…I just wasn't sure if it was just me noticing, or if this was supposed to be happening! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
-
Umm, if I saw a studio owner say this, I would be quite less inclined to go to that studio…not ONLY because she/he is badmouthing others and I consider this to be quite unprofessional (perhaps just say something like "In my opinion, ___ is the best because…"), but also because, and I'm sorry to sound like a snob, but…this is a rather atrocious attempt at spelling and grammar, and it took me far too long to figure out what was being said here.
If one is saying something from the background of being a studio owner, one should keep in mind that they are representing their business. Veena can spell, the lady who owned the pole place here could spell, and I know thousands of other people HERE that spell WAY better than this. I even know international students from my University who can spell better in english than this!
Sorry, sorry. Ugh, I just get all Grammar-Nazi on people like this.
I have a Lil' Minx pole, and never had an issue with mine. I'm careful and slow with it, and in turn, it has never moved an inch when I didn't want it to!
-
Hi LoneStarDiva! It's wonderful to see you stepping out and not being afraid…I love it when people can do that!
I'll tell you one thing…I asked the owner of the previous local pole studio once "What was the age of the eldest person she taught?"
Her answer…someone in her 70's! And apparently she was HOT, too!
So, no, it's NEVER too late to start dancing, just the same as it's never too late to start learning music, drawing, or anything else!
-
Wow, I didn't expect to hear so many stories of people's hips being upset! Perhaps I shall check in with my doctor and see what he thinks…I realize hips are one of those ultra-complex things, and are hard to figure out. If it continues to give me issues, I'll check it out with him. I'll try one or two more times, and see if it's just a temporary thing (this happens with me), perhaps my technique isn't as perfect as I think, or if it really is an issue!
-
Both of those are great core workouts! You need to be aware of one thing: There are many different muscles in the core, so they all need work!
Your abs are the one in front that give you the 6pack (if you want it) and aid in pulling in just the up and down direction. They're rather important for pole, too, and so I find the switch exercise to be really helpful!
The transverse abdominus is a BIG part of your core, and it goes across both sides of your body, and it aids in…well, everything! I'm serious! This is also the muscle to work if you want to give your waist some shape (or so I'm told!) and the crunches that twist (elbow to opposite knee kind of thing) work that muscle.
Third ones are your obliques, and they are up the sides, and through the ribs (I think??) and they are quite important for turning your torso side to side, helps with side leg lifts, that kind of thing. These ones are hard for me…things like side plank holds on the floor work well. If you lay on your side, with your upper body propped up on your elbow (so that your arm is pressing into the floor), cross your ankles so that the top leg has it's foot on the floor, and lift your hips. It's hard! But, it works. As far as I know.
I may have some odd information (odd meaning wrong!) because it's been a while, but hopefully this helps a bit. I'm trying hard to strengthen my core, too! I've never had a strong one, so working on it and suddenly having that little bit of strength is…enlightening!
-
@lengo83 : Sorry, I thought some of the writing under the video looked german 😉 I don't know much about it (or much german, though I tried for a bit!) so I could totally have been wrong!
-
I can completely understand your frustration…I had a friend like that, she was far more fit than I ever have been. After a couple of years, she's gotten the shoulder mount, and I'm…still learning to invert. Still.
However, I want to say this: People progress differently, and I know this to be an absolute fact. Certain people will respond the way your friend (and my friend) did on the pole, which is that their body will increase strength and jump right in. Other people, such as myself, have to be very careful, and if I drop it for a bit, I'm back to square one…and often, it makes me feel like I have a "lazy body," or something.
But at this point, my pole journey is all about ME, and I don't want to compare anymore. I love sharing pole with other people, and picking their brains about their experiences and their trials with different moves, but in the end, it's all just information from the future, really. Most of the moves I ask about are ones I cannot yet do. And, once I get there…I'll have the information to use!
I think getting your own pole would be wonderful, because, as Veena said, it allows you to focus on just you! No one else is there if you don't want them to be, and you can take your time and play with the moves. I know that, when I was taking proper studio lessons, the people who progressed well with the DANCING part of things were those who did it at home!
And, also as Veena said, everyone has different strengths. I am far and beyond better at writing and creating scenes and feelings through writing, rather than dancing! It took me years (about 11, now!) to hone my writing skills, and I'm still doing it. Pole is similar; it will take you years, and you'll still learn new things! It's like…learning martial arts. There is ALWAYS something to be learning!
And, if your instructors are not giving you the attention they are giving others, I would talk to them about that, privately. Let them know your feelings, because you pay for the class, too.
-
I don't know. I have no words to describe my utter confusion. Oo;
I kinda wish I spoke slightly more german, I guess?
-
Hey everyone!
Sorry it took me so long to reply! The computer needed a reformatting, took all night!
I really appreciate everyone's replies. And, yes, I have seen What Not To Wear! I haven't had television for about 5 years now, but when at my mom's place, or before I moved out, it was one of my favourite shows! Unfortunately, I find that most of my shopping is done more "for the now" than planning ahead, buying good (see: Expensive) stuff, because often the only reason I can justify buying clothes is when I'm completely running out…or, in the case of bras, when I'm in constant pain!
I find it really interesting that so many of you have hit the nail so firmly on the head: I tend to connect my self worth by what others think of me, and (to make it a little convoluted) what *I* think others think of me. Curiously, it doesn't seem to matter how many complements I get from others, I still brush it off…I think they're "just being nice," or that they don't really mean it, whereas with negative comments, it hits me really hard, and I don't ever brush that off.
So, I appreciate everyone's comments, as they throw into stark contrast how skewed my view is! It should be more about what I think of myself, and less about other people. It's much like my theory on how people like to dump their…uh, problems, on others, and how you don't have to take it. You don't necessarily need to put your self-esteem, good or bad, on others…just so long as you are happy with it.
So, I have to say, thank you. A very big lesson has been had here, and I really thank everyone for their contribution. I will endeavour to remove my self-esteem from everyone else's opinions, and make it more of my own.
And I'll start posting more videos, because they're fun.
And I'm going to be very careful about my clothes…because I really want to be happy with those, too.
And take more time to make myself happy with the way I look, rather than just forgetting it.
It might sound like a lot, but I think I can do it! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
-
Wow, thanks everyone 😉 I appreciate the responses!
UTPoler, I tend to compare myself a LOT to others, and even myself…skills I used to have that I no longer have, due to lack of practice or whatever. I tend to be very harsh with my judgement of myself, while being very kind with judgements to others…and I will admit, it's very uneven. I've been trying to stop for some time, with…well, not too bad results. I still have a ways to go!
Tarah: I'm gonna try posting more! I have to actually record more and dance, though 😉
PDR: Wow, you really hit the nail on the head there, I think. That one really spoke to me. It's very often that I "excuse" myself from the good rules I have toward others, such as not getting down on oneself, or being kind to oneself, or that kind of thing. I'm always (as I said above) kinder to others than myself, so it becomes difficult to really apply those rules to myself without thinking I'm failing. It's a strange kind of catch 22, and if I actually did believe in myself, it would disappear. I try to present myself as best as I can, but often I find my body-image issues get in the way…clothes aren't often made for someone of my shape, and frequently I feel fat and ugly for it (though I'm sure everyone else disagrees with me!).
It's reassuring to hear that I am generally on the right track, and it is always helpful for me to hear others' opinions on stuff like this! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif
