SeienDesuYo
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Hi! Ex Stripper here. I’m going to be brutally honest about my time dancing. Remember that not every experience will be the same, but from what I’ve heard, I’m not unique in any way.
I don’t regret my time as a dancer. Honestly I felt less sexually objectified while dancing then I do just walking down the street some days. Most of my time dancing was ridiculously fun and exactly like you probably imagine. Men love anything with tits, really. If you can smile and flirt you can make money. Just make them feel special and fun. Most days I felt powerful and sexy. Most of the time I had more money than I knew what to do with (but not always! Remember that you don’t get paid a paycheck, you pay to work – you make what you can sell, and you’re selling yourself).
There are aspects of this job that can really rip you (anyone) into shreds, and you need to seriously consider that. The first day I ever worked, I sold a VIP room to a man who proceeded to try to bully me into sleeping with him (first of many!), and then tried (very brazenly) to stick his fingers in my vagina. He succeeded, by the way. I continued dancing, but it takes something from you. Men will try this every single day you work. I’ve had men pull out their parts while my back was turned, I’ve had men put my nipples IN THERE MOUTHS without so much as a by-your-leave (they seriously tried to do this all the time! GROSS). You will get asked every day for sexual favors, and some are more brazen about it than others. You will get men who grab you without your permission, guaranteed. Men (and women) who treat you like you are NOTHING, dancers included. You can tell management and yes, they will get kicked out, but does that do you any good after it’s happened? Just some things to consider!
Everything that PolieOlie and BabyDragon mentioned is completely right, and it’s solid advice so I won’t go back over it. Except I will say that I’ve kept serious relationships while stripping (we’re still together), and if you are honest with each other it doesn’t have to impede your relationship. I also lost friends over it. It happens. I will leave you with this: if you decide to dance, please don’t do it because you think that you have no other choice. Men can smell this on you – you can’t be vulnerable and be a successful dancer, I firmly believe this. If you want to dance, then do it! I’d go back, still, even with all the crap that can go along with it. But first you need to make sure you take care of yourself mentally and know your boundaries. What will you do for money? You have to seriously ask yourself this question. Know your limits before you start, and stick to them, because when someone tries to push them you need to be strong.
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@seiendesuyo is my personal Instagram. I have one really old (really bad) pole pic of me, but the rest are pretty much selfies. I’ve been thinking about creating a pole-specific IG. I guess I’m just nervous about posting vids and pics because I’m not very good yet! That’s why I don’t have any on this site.
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@Juicy Dior, I don’t really follow specific people to be honest. Instead what I do is run a tag search for whatever it is I want to practice that day. For instance, if I’m wanting to practice the splits, I’ll search for #splits #splitpractice #flexibility. You get the gist. I’ll be looking into some of the polers suggested here though! Let me know if you find anyone worth following.
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In addition to surfing around for pole trick and tips, I also use Instagram to find flexibility and yoga routines and poses. I learned how to do the splits because of it! I found it to be helpful especially when polers post the flexibility warm-ups they use before they dance. It’s really helped me overall to become a better pole dancer, I think.