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LOL At a strip club I went to the girls called that a “crab walk”, which always kinda disturbed me.
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Kind of an opposite story (and this will probably be a novel because I don’t know any other way to tell it), but I hate when white/mixed chicks try to pretend they’re not.
For example, I grew up in a small town in Northern Michigan. While seeing a black person was about as common as seeing a unicorn up there in my youth, there were a lot of people w/ Ojibwe descent. My best friend from kindergarten to hs was a “quarter-blood” and I remember through most of grade school she and I were serious outcasts. (Me because I was the only girl w/ a single parent and I lived in an apartment instead of a house. My friend because she was part native and lived down a dirt road in a cabin her father built himself. Annnnnnd we were both totally poor, but anyway…..)
By the mid 90’s it became decidedly uncool w/ members of my generation to be white, whereas prior to that it was uncool to be anything but a proud spoiled white asshole to everyone else. The same kids who threw rocks at us in grade school suddenly accepted my friend w/ open arms. Not me, though, I was just “white trash”. lol
I tried not to be down about as my friend and I were still besties. However, in HS, she started talking a lot of shit about white people in general and included me in her “white devil”-speech. I rolled my eyes and said “Well, don’t forget, you’re about 75% white devil yourself. You know? Your mom’s as white as snow.” It pissed me off.
I also can’t stand chicks who have Oompa Loompa spray tans who claim to be part native/hispanic/black. Be who you really ARE, not just the color of your skin.
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^—I know what monokini on BK you’re talking about! I gotta admit, I hated all monokinis before I saw that one. The model w/ the purple hair really made the look work. LOVE!
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Well, if you’re not a total bitch about it then you’re not an actual foot-Nazi. It’s when someone does it in a sneering way or when everyone’s like “Wow, congrats on getting that move finally!” and then you get that one “…too bad her feet are flexed…”. That’s just plain mean. Obviously the chick would rather have pointed toes, but wanted to share w/ everyone that exciting moment the move first clicked for her. The toes don’t discredit the moment and how great it truly is. It’s extremely demotivational to scrutinize over feet in that situation and anyone who is like that can stay the Hell away from me.
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LOL No, I think the mental image is hilarious! Kinda freed me from the spell that move had over me. Was kinda obsessing over it at one point, like “It’s so simple! Whyyyyyy can’t I do this!”. xD
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Dainty or not, I think that move is ruined for me now. I don’t care how nice the lines or pointed the toes are, all I can see are bug antennaes instead of legs. Sad. Really wanted to get that move too, but not if that’s all I can think of it from now on. Annnnd I’m not gonna have perfect legs and feet the first million times so it’s like why even bother w/ it?
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^—LMAO!!! @ “dying insect” xD
This thread is so interesting! It’s funny how different everyone’s perpective is on popular moves. I knew any move w/ a crotch shot was going to be brought up, but I’m really surprised by some others. To be honest, I love the handstands w/ the leg-show but the dying insect mental image is gonna make it hard to not burst into a laughing fit from now on. Hopefully it doesn’t happen while I’m working on that move. LOL!
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Congrats on your invert!!! One thing I’m not sure anyone mentioned is to BREATHE PROPERLY. My biggest obstacle to feeling comfortable in a handstand is lack of oxygen. If I focus too much on everything else I don’t breathe right and then I bail. Take long, relaxing, controlled breaths. It will prevent head-pressure, panic, and can improve balance as it helps alleviate overly-tense muscles.
As always, if you feel you are not ready or are unsure about your strength to execute the move safely then please proceed w/ caution if you try it. Take your time working up to the move. Break down all the steps (Veena’s lessons are great for this, btw), be aware of your points of contact, and take it slow.
Inverting came easier for me than handstands. I still cannot do an elbowstand and can only do exits (no entry-moves) while facing the pole. Another issue for me w/ this is that my spine is not straight. I have scoliosis and the 30° curve in my back has a serious impact on my balance.
It takes all kinds to pole. Work w/ what you got, not against it! 🙂
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I’ve heard 45mm is better if you have small hands or just for stronger hand grip in general, but may not be as comfortable in thigh-grips and leg hangs. I’m 5’10” with monster hands and legs so I prefer my 50mm. Tried a 45 a couple of times and felt like I could snap it in half if I tried hard enough. (not saying I could but, still, I don’t like feeling too big for my pole to handle.)
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I think that would be fine for keeping you primed to pole! Just stay on your toes, moderate that mama energy, and make the pole part of your day even when it’s just in passing. A full pole session is definitely a reward, not a given, in early motherhood. Still, those passing spins and floorwork throughout the day are gonna help you progress more than playing the waiting game.
I completely relate w/ the feeling of “it’s like she KNOWS!” because my daughter always seems to. She snaps wide awake more often than not whenever I go to the bathroom, take a shower, try to clean the house, leave for work, or (heaven forbid!) try to get in a little sexy time. I’d like to say she’s learning to self-soothe better, but I think it’s really just that I’m learning how to not jump every single time she says “Mama!”. She’s well provided for, I spend the largest part of my day w/ her, and Daddy is a perfectly responsible substitute. No need to feel guilty, but I always kinda do…instinct, I guess.
6 months is a very special time. They start growing and learning very fast from that age onward. Don’t focus so much on your body or struggle to make pole time that you miss out on that tiny baby becoming a toddler. I guess all I’m saying is make sure you enjoy their infancy, try not to struggle against it but work w/ them. They’re little for such a short time. Mine grew so quickly I was shocked and I barely blinked my eyes once. lol
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Trick for faking eye-contact (if you feel uncomfortable), look at them between the brows. Imagine they all have little red dots on their foreheads and they’ll seldom know the difference. A dancer I knew called it “the sniper dot”. She joked that if a guy pissed her off she just imagined him being shot and he was “dead” to her the rest of the night. Inside joke that helped her smile more when she had a lousy night.
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Wrist-seat: I’ve seen very few (myself included) that I’ve thought looked good. It feels really awkward too, but maybe that’s just me.
CAR: I prefer the look and feel of the CKR.
Iron X: Can’t do it yet, but I kinda hate it. I remember one year it was like THE move to do in every routine and, unless it was seamlessly transitioned while on spin-mode or something, I was like “…and there it is…again. SUPASTAH!” lol
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Hello! I’m a mother of a 20 month old little girl and (as the sole bread-winner of my household) I can tell you that finding time to pole has NEVER happened once since I became a mother. You have to make time or it won’t happen, at least that’s how it is in my situation.
It’s kinda funny now how I see it would have been easier to snag more pole time when my baby was 6 months old. Still, I was a new mommy and so I spent most of the time I wasn’t working either nursing my daughter or trying to snag sleep whenever possible. However, baby will forgive you if you set them in their playpen for a much needed workout. If they are full and changed and you’ve already cuddled and tended to their needs for 10+ hours straight IT IS OKAY to set them down for a half hour or so to tend to yourself. No one told me that back then so I am telling you now. I don’t advocate the “cry it out”-method, but if you are right there or your husband or whoever it is okay to not wear your baby as an extra appendage 24/7. You’re not a bad mother, you have needs too and you deserve a little pole now and then.
That being said, you also have an advantage you may not be aware of. W/ your pole in your livingroom warm-ups and such may be easier than you think. If I’d had that option, this mama woulda been prancing around all day doing spins while holding laundry baskets and making upside down funny faces at my baby while in her Pack&Play. lol
Like I said, I now have a 20 month old. She is huge for her age (as tall as most four year olds) and neither crib nor playpen nor baby-gate can contain her. She climbs! Like a monkey! AHHHHHH! So, I incorporate her into my off-pole warm ups and cool downs which she greatly enjoys. We do acro-yoga (airplane! Supergirl!), we do cardio (jumping-jacks, wind-mills, running in place, etc), we stretch (she actually gave me the idea to because she likes to do this really hard to describe toe-touch thing. She’s also 30lb so she is GREAT for lifting and she loves it. My pre-pole workout has become decidedly less sensuous but it helps get me plenty warm for it, she doesn’t usually freak out anymore when I leave her out w/ her Daddy and shut my bedroom door to pole (process in and of itself. Bed folded up against the wall, have to set up and take down my pole ev-e-ry time!). It’s insane trying to be a working mother and to make time for pole, but it can be done. It may not be as easy or often as it used to be, but I think that I enjoy it more now than I ever did. 😉
Hope this long-winded response helps in some way. I stopped and came back to it about ten times to finish this so it may not all blend together. Good luck, hope you keep this thread updated! Where there’s a will there’s a way! 😉
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I have purchased quite a few outfits from BK over the years. Sizing can be tricky w/ some stuff, not so much with the PoleFit line. If you are a tiny girl w/ 40″ hips and a booty get the medium size shorts. Srsly, the material is stretchy, anti-muffintop, but if you have a booty it’s likely the small Brazil shorts will not provide enough coverage.
As for the top, I can say they run kinda small. I’m not extremely busty, but I just barely fit the medium enough for it to be comfortable. Part of the issue isn’t so much the cup size, but that I am a giant so where it connects at my neck and underbust seems fairly tight. If you are a petite B-cup w/out much length in your torso or width in shoulders a small top may work. Still, if your physique or bone structure is anything beyond that of a tiny bird I would suggest a medium.
On a final note, I love Bad Kitty. Trish has been very good to me over the years. It’s very difficult to find sizes that fit me well so I appreciate the very honest, personal customer service BK has provided to me. 🙂
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To be honest, I’ve known very few exotic dancers who had anything bad to say about female clients. Maybe it’s due to location (a lotta high-rolling lesbians around here and cheap ass men wanting everything for NOTHING), but I haven’t heard much about female clients flirting w/ male clients. I’m sure it happens…but…why? lol The times I’ve gone I’ve spent more money on lapdances, drinks, and tips than the men in my party. So, to hear I’m unwelcome is news to me. The girls I saw seemed to enjoy my company enough to not ignore me or have me thrown out. Quite the opposite, actually, even though I was there for novelty purposes. One one occasion, I was there to support a friend on her debut night. On another, I went to check out a club to see if I wanted to work there. And the other times I was just a tag-along w/ a bigger party of guys who wanted to see some T&A. My opinion on that is who doesn’t? I appreciate a hot body, man OR woman, and I will pay to watch. If a dancer or a club has a prob w/ my gender I sure haven’t heard any complaints. lol