SunshineKonigin
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I understand what you’re saying. I like that you said it!!! I’m learning from this post.
I don’t like it when people try to figure out if someone is or is not a stripper when watching pole. Play that game of is she or is she not. I kinda want to punch people in the face when I hear that…. punch… it does not matter!!!!!!!!!!!! Why can’t we just appreciate the dance without caring if someone is or is not or was…. Just enjoy it!!!
I’m struggling with this. How do I do my part to promote pole to a very conservative community of individuals who are reluctant to try do to the sexual stigma. Pole is more then sexuality!!!! It is a wonderful aspect that helps us to grow, but it’s not the only option. How do I tell everyone the truth in a way that keeps things positive. I have never been a stripper and it does matter. I’ve had a girl come to my studio who wanted to start working in the industry. I actually told her about the other pole studio options near by and mentioned that I’m not going to be able to teach her to do an awesome lap dance because I don’t really know how to lap dance. On the flip side, my lacking past does not matter to my AMAZING group of current and former strippers who love my studio. I LOVE, love, love them too!!! I learn from watching them move and dance. I’m so lucky to have those people…. LOVE them!!! I need to honor them and their current and former employment without any negativity. They need to feel good!!
Seriously, how do I move forward and address this to the larger community and in my studio positively???? I still don’t know exactly the right way to handle this touchy subject. Touchy in the pole community too. Sorry, I’m going to be honest, I don’t want to be a stripper like I don’t want to be a surgeon. Cutting people open does not sound fun to me. It’s just not my thing. I’m still a good person even though I don’t want to be a surgeon, right? Help me find the right mojo to project!! I guess I need to understand the other side of the coin and how people feel who are entertainers? How would you want to hear someone like me address this topic????? Please help!!!
PEACE, LOVE, AND POLE people: I want to help promote pole to the larger community and I’m all about pole in the Olympics. It’s evolution!!! If you don’t agree with this statement, How would you like to hear me address the topic of the sexuality? Help!
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Korinne is an awesome teacher in Cleveland 🙂 I agree! I was very lucky to have an awesome teacher like Korrine to help me learn all my first tricks!!! Go Kori!!! I have a studio in Berea. I offer advanced pole Tuesday evenings and co-ed advanced/extreme pole on Wednesday evenings. You’re welcome to stop in for a class. Class size is limited so please contact me or per-register online. If you’re in Cleveland February 16th, please come see our showcase. It should be a refreshing, unique event to see. Peace Love and Pole!!!! XOXO Pole Kisses!!!
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I agree 100% Cara!!!!! You’re right!!!! People who have a problem with that usually don’t take pole dancing anyway. The only exception that I have at my studio is recital time. I simply ask the ladies to do a vagina monster test for showcase shorts. My studio is more athletically oriented as well and I prefer that we do not have vaginas showing at the family welcome style recital. I also ask that they wear pasties if there’s any chance that the top could fall off just in case. In addition, I also ask that people save the super ronchy, crazy, un-tasteful sexy moves for personal use and refrain from doing those at the showcase because we have children, grandmas, dads, and it’s a family event. At the studio it’s a different story. Wear what you you like there and be as sexy as you want. It’s only when we invite in outsiders for a recital event that I advertise as appropriate to bring children that it becomes addressed. Even then they can wear whatever style shorts they want, I just ask that they make sure what’s under the shorts does not show through. Usually doubling up or wearing a “safety” pair of extra underwear will solve that issue.
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My studio only offers co-ed classes. The all male classes I put on the schedule ended up being co-ed anyway. The men usually feel better with a female they know in the class like their wife, sister, friend.
I had one very strange and uncomfortable encounter with a male in a private class who insisted on coming to class naked. When I told him he wants to keep his “parts” in some sort of clothing for practical reasons like it will not get in the way with thigh holds, he wore a see through thong, that was super ewwwwwwww. No one wants to see that. I asked him not to return through e-mail because it was too weird just being around that guy. He has not come back, and all my male classes are now co-ed. Co-ed classes have solved quite a bit of issues for me.
I had one complaining customer. This guy was super cool and I totally understood where he was coming from that there should not be a double standard and that he should be able to just take whatever class he wants. I agreed and told him that I know it’s a double standard, but that’s just how it is right now. Many women don’t feel comfortable wearing shorts let alone wearing shorts in front of a guy they do not know.
I strongly dislike when people are like, “It doesn’t matter that this gay guy comes to class because he’s gay” People’s sexual preference is not my business and certainly not for me to tell other people. If a women is a lesbian I don’t go around saying she has to take the co-ed class because she’s lesbian. If you have male “equipment” you must take a co-ed class. If you have female “equipment” you can take any of the classes on the schedule. That’s how it is at my studio. I find that’s the best, most considerate way to be. -
When I say appropriate booty shorts, I mean appropriate for pole, super short with a little butt cheek… Thanks again!!!
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I had no idea that this sort of thing happened!!!!! I am by far the most conservative pole studio in my area, and I absolutely have working entertainers come to my studio. They are welcomed with open arms by me. Everyone should be valued and supported regardless of their income source.
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I have a ton of beginner, super safe, easy moves available in my brain, or on notes. I look at the crowd and only do the moves that the least physically fit person in the crowd can do. I also ask if anyone has any injuries or sensitive body parts that I need to be aware of for the moves. I had a 400lb student once. She did all the moves everyone else in the class did. Everyone had a great time.
I know a lot of other studios do lap dances and stuff in a pole party. I don't. I just have them play dance tag with the moves they just learned. I live in a conservative area, and not everyone wants to give their future sister-in-law a lap dance.
Dance tag is a game where you do a few moves to a song chosen by the bride or the party. One person starts, everyone gets tagged into dance one at a time. It's fun!!!!
However, I'll be keeping an eye on this post because I would like some new ideas as well.
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My studio is doing well. One of the things I feel that has been very helpful is having regular showcases (recitals). It helps to keep the students motivated. It also helps them in their own lives. It takes a ton of courage for many of them to get out there and show their stuff. It helps them to feel good about themselves, to feel like they can do anything.
I straitght up tell my students all the time that pole is about their own personal journey. It's about you feeling good about yourself. It's about actually wanting to get your workout. It's about getting a full body weightlifting and cardio (dancing) workout that's fun!!!! It's about them. That's my motivation for going to work every day. I want to help people feel good about themselves. That's why they keep coming back.
I'm also extremely mindful of the business end of things, and I'm starting off super small…. tiny. It's just me right now. It's important to keep the overhead low!!!!