[TinyPoler]

I could do this, but given the number of participants, you probably want more than a single pole. It looks like there are a couple of studios near/in Greenville that you could book the party at.

The North Pole Dance Studio: http://www.1globalweb.com/TNP/parties.html

The Pole Academy: http://www.thepoleacademy.com/parties

West End Dance Company: http://www.westenddancecompany.com/exotic-dance/

I don't know any of these studios, but I think they might fit your bill better than an in-home tutorial.  Everyone will get a lot more pole time and the poles will probably be a lot better. Most of the places I know in NC allow food and drinks at a side room in the studio, if that's a concern.